We have different Religion and Race how do we get through this?

[Efox]

Well im dating muslim too and i read alot about it when i started dating to find out , i pretty much like the real muslim religion but wouldnt convert my only problem with this interfaith relationship is my parents being too strict and not letting me marry him, otherwise we pretty much go along, he is really respectfull and im not so much of religious person so idc about it, i m more of agnostic

[TwoThree]

That's kind of funny, Efox. What is it you believe "real muslim religion" to be, exactly? Because every member of every sect and sub-current would tell you it's theirs.

Also, if your SO is really a believing muslim, he can't be with you as "Agnostic" doesn't fall under the category of "Women muslim men can marry." Just letting you now so it wouldn't come as a shock, eventually.

[Tooki]

Well im dating muslim too and i read alot about it when i started dating to find out , i pretty much like the real muslim religion but wouldnt convert my only problem with this interfaith relationship is my parents being too strict and not letting me marry him, otherwise we pretty much go along, he is really respectfull and im not so much of religious person so idc about it, i m more of agnostic

So...who is shia and who is sunni?

*EDIT* Disregard the post. I made a misrepresentation!

[TwoThree]

[Tooki]

[Verojoon]

I can't speak for Efox, but I understood "real muslim religion" to mean the religion itself and not the fanatics and the stuff you often read in the media... But yes, all religious sects would claim to be the real one... that's kind of the point, right?

When I started dating my bf, I did a lot of research on his religion (Baha'i). If it became an issue, I would convert for him, but only because it is a religion I highly respect and that agrees with a lot of my thoughts and beliefs. That being said, since it is not an issue, I chose not to convert because for me, I think faith and belief are much more about what is inside me than about what is in the teachings of others.

My bf was raised in a Muslim country and I studied a lot about that religion as well because in Iran it does affect a lot of things even if you do not follow the religion... In turn, I taught him a lot about the religion I grew up with (Roman Catholic) because though I do not follow it anymore, it is an interesting part of who I am and what shaped me. The fact that he knows so little about the Catholic religion actually makes it fun to discuss... but we both love talking and debating about issues of religion and culture, so for us, it has really brought us together and opened our minds, instead of causing problems.

If religion is really important to you, why not study Islam a little and focus on the many things your religions have in common? I think you would be surprised at how much common ground you can find, and then you can build a respect for each other's religions based on what you have in common...

But, if children will one day come into the picture, then it gets much more complicated and you should probably have this conversation sooner rather than later...

[chizatlauren]

The poster is Filipino too, so we have the same culture. I was born in an evangelical Christian family, and I'm pretty sure the poster is Catholic/Christian cause the Philippines is predominantly Christian.

I know that parents in this country are strict, and my SO is from a different race too (American though, so it's easier) and it's hard to convince anyone in the family to accept your SO because there are always prejudgment about it. All I can say is follow your heart when it comes to the race. I hate to say this but I think Filipinos can be really racist against Middle Eastern people, so brace yourself.

About the religion, there are certain Muslim rules that you need to read into before considering anything so you'll know what you're getting yourself into. Christians can marry Muslims, and you're not forced to change your religion. Just be ready to have your children practice Islam cause I think it's a part of their laws. (I'm being too futuristic, but you have to think of that haha!)

What's important is that both of you believe in something that help make you better people (that is love). after all, it doesn't matter what religion you have. what's important is that you follow a set of guidelines that help you be a good person.

[Angelie]

The poster is Filipino too, so we have the same culture. I was born in an evangelical Christian family, and I'm pretty sure the poster is Catholic/Christian cause the Philippines is predominantly Christian.

I know that parents in this country are strict, and my SO is from a different race too (American though, so it's easier) and it's hard to convince anyone in the family to accept your SO because there are always prejudgment about it. All I can say is follow your heart when it comes to the race. I hate to say this but I think Filipinos can be really racist against Middle Eastern people, so brace yourself.

About the religion, there are certain Muslim rules that you need to read into before considering anything so you'll know what you're getting yourself into. Christians can marry Muslims, and you're not forced to change your religion. Just be ready to have your children practice Islam cause I think it's a part of their laws. (I'm being too futuristic, but you have to think of that haha!)

What's important is that both of you believe in something that help make you better people (that is love). after all, it doesn't matter what religion you have. what's important is that you follow a set of guidelines that help you be a good person.

Yes I am from Phil and yeah I do agree about what you said about the racist thing. I've told him about this and he just don't care about it. I made him ready about the things he might hear from people in my place. I really want to stand for him when he will meet me here. I know how difficult it would be, specially when meeting my parents for the first time. wheeew this topic is my topic again with him awhile ago (-__-) and he pointed out why he wants me to be converted, it's for the sake of the children (being futuristic too :P hahhaha)

[princessmaria]

My SO is Muslim. Fortunately neither him or his family have ever been forceful about me converting, and I've been told numerous times not to convert unless I feel it within my heart to do so. I was supposed to convert this winter but I don't think that's going to happen; I really don't think I'm ready for it yet, but who knows what will happen in the future? I am just trying to get through school before I make big decisions like that. How much do you know about Islam? I learn something new every week and it has been a process. I respect my SO's religion very much and we meet in the middle mostly. We pray together, fast together, celebrate eid, etc. So it can definitely work out without you converting as long as you both respect one another.

Also, the Shia Labeouf thing made me laugh hysterically. I wasn't expecting that lol.

[Ahava]

LOL so who is Sunni?