possibility of a sooner than expected marriage

[Alsfia]

I've been following this thread for a while and I really feel for you, however I agree with Tooki and TwoThree, it all sounds like blackmail. The fact that she has given you a time limit, which given your situation with being in school is rather tight after all, and wants to date other guys during that period? You deserve someone much better than that, someone devoted to you and your relationship and who is willing to wait, and from your posts it doesn't seem to be her.
Sorry if I'm being blunt but this does not come across as a healthy relationship.

[abna1]

I don't even know what to say to her last (even more selfish and childish) "proposal"...
Please, just dump this woman and move on with your life ! Staying in school and without dept !

[kattermole]

She sounds like a peach

Honestly, you seem like a caring and nice guy, you can do so much better. Move on and find someone who won't blackmail you emotionally. You've got so much life ahead of you and so many people to meet, don't get yourself trapped in something that doesn't look like it's very healthy.

[Josh451]

she said she was with her first bf for 1 year and she couldnt get over him for 6 years then once she was over him he wanted her back but she refused. then she said i shouldn't be like her. she told me not to get over her like she got over him because then i might miss my chance to be back with her again

[Hollandia]

she said she was with her first bf for 1 year and she couldnt get over him for 6 years then once she was over him he wanted her back but she refused. then she said i shouldn't be like her. she told me not to get over her like she got over him because then i might miss my chance to be back with her again

She is not the one you want to have kids with, you are in lust not love. She is not treating you with respect by munipulating you. I hate it when I see emotional abuse and this is an obvious case of it. She has an excuse for everything. You have your mind set. I wish you would listen but have seen this before, you came here looking us to say one thing and we can only say the other.


She is going to screw you over and hard. Sorry for you future pain you are about to endure. Please feel fee to PM me if you want any more advice.

[LadyDaemon]

And now she's just being crude. It's like she's saying,"don't get over me if I leave because if you do you'll never have me again!" and she's rubbing it in your face to get what she wants. That is not real love and not a person you want to build a life with. She needs to grow up. Your best bet is to tell her to kick rocks. I mean seriously? emotional black mail,ultimatums,trying to convince you to quit school for a semester AND trying to convince you to marry her way before you're even ready and none of this screams "Get out now!" to you? I find that a bit unsettling to be honest with you. She's like a praying mantis and if you continue to let her do what she's doing then she's going to eat you,chew you up,spit you back out and leave you with a broken heart. She is not worth it.

[chizatlauren]

she said she was with her first bf for 1 year and she couldnt get over him for 6 years then once she was over him he wanted her back but she refused. then she said i shouldn't be like her. she told me not to get over her like she got over him because then i might miss my chance to be back with her again

PLAIN STUPID. God, I've been cursing a lot since I clicked on this thread a few days ago. You're such a gem Josh. You don't deserve a b**** like her! Goddammit! She's a f***ing psycho b****!!!!

Please listen to all of us. I swear, you're just too blinded by love right now.

[TwoThree]

Hey Josh. How about you stop copy/pasting whatever bullshit she's spouting and tell us really what your opinion on this situation is and what you intend to do? We are kinda worried about you and would like to know that what we're saying is getting through to you.

[mllebamako]

Hey Josh. How about you stop copy/pasting whatever bullshit she's spouting and tell us really what your opinion on this situation is and what you intend to do? We are kinda worried about you and would like to know that what we're saying is getting through to you.

I second this.

[Josh451]

she hasn't talked to me in a few days im just going to stay single until i meet her

[LadyDaemon]

*gives cup of coffee and makes you smell it* smell it! smellll ittt! oh wait...was that rude? Sorry,but really,wake up and smell the coffee before she chews you up and spits you out for breakfast.

[babyphace05]

based on your ages and the situation i wouldn't rush marriage. and the fact that she is saying she cant do long distance doesn't seem fair. she really should be more patient and willing to wait. love is patient and love is kind.

[Josh451]

she told me she doesn't want her new boyfriend to get jealous so shes going to delete and block me from everything until she breaks up with him

[LadyDaemon]

Good luck with that,that's all I can tell you.

[Josh451]

she might come back!
i guess she didnt even meet the guy before she moved in with him and she found out he lied about a lot of things. he smokes a lot and he is always drunk and he gets really jealous easily and he has a short temper and his house is a mess and he expects her to clean it. but i wont take her back that easily. not after she told me i dont really matter to her i'm going to make some ridiculous demands that she must meet before i take her back