UK to USA LDRers

[AnnaLea]

It's so very hard, but as you all know, when you finally find someone you love who will love you back, well from the movie "Notting Hill" - the chances are miniscule. When we saw each other on the train platform, time stood still, and for one week, I was in heaven. Things and circumstances are very difficult for us, but I'm hoping somehow that will change for us in the future, because I really just exist without him.

[digitalfever]

Toronto to London

[Liru]

I'm on the west coast of the U.S. and my SO Is on the east coast of the U.K.

[AnnaLea]

Where on the east coast? My SO lives in Tynemouth, England, which is just north of Newcastle. You have a huge time difference. Do often do you see one another?

[Liru]

Where on the east coast? My SO lives in Tynemouth, England, which is just north of Newcastle. You have a huge time difference. Do often do you see one another?

He lives in Folkestone below dover, So I guess south east coast . The time difference is really hard to deal with especially with our work schedule's, We are unable to skype very often but we do message eachother everyday with facebook. Not always consistently back and forth just when we are able too.

[AnnaLea]

I know what you mean! I get off work at 5:00 (on a good day) and I rush home to be by the phone or computer by 5:30. It's 11:00 by then for him. We try to get an hour of talking in but sometimes he's just so tired. The weekends are our lifesaver of course. Have you been to England? I love it there and would move in a minute, but there's the issue of VISAs. We have seen each other only 5 times in the 2 years we've known each other. I'm hoping his situation will change in time and we can be together for good!

[Liru]

I know what you mean! I get off work at 5:00 (on a good day) and I rush home to be by the phone or computer by 5:30. It's 11:00 by then for him. We try to get an hour of talking in but sometimes he's just so tired. The weekends are our lifesaver of course. Have you been to England? I love it there and would move in a minute, but there's the issue of VISAs. We have seen each other only 5 times in the 2 years we've known each other. I'm hoping his situation will change in time and we can be together for good!

Usually its me the one thats tired. I work either 4am-1pm (which is awesome because he usually works until 3 my time) and 11am to 8pm (these are the days where we hardly get to talk.) I went to England for the first time and we met face to face for the first time in april this year. He plans on coming over here in april of 2015 then after that he's shooting for his VISA. I understand its a long shot but worth trying for. I'd move over there to, I love his family and the time I spent over there were just bliss (maybe because of the company ^^) It's hard but I know all the waiting will be worth it in the end. Has your SO come over to the US yet?

[AnnaLea]

No, he hasn't. But he has talked about it for April 2015 as well. He has a son that lives in New Jersey, so it would be ideal to visit him and then fly to Oklahoma.

[Liru]

I hope he finally gets the chance to. That would be a great trip to go be able to see his Son and of course you .

[KellzieK]

So awesome to read about other UK/US couples. My bf is from Manchester, England and I am from Miami Florida. He just left yesterday back home but I am glad I found this site to deal with the parting.

[AnnaLea]

Are any of you thinking of moving to England to be closer to your SO? This is something I would definitely do if possible, but have you checked out the immigration laws? They are stiff! If you marry, you can get a fiancé VISA in the USA beforehand. But what if you not really wanting to marry for awhile? It's not easy to move there and work unless you have tons of money or a high qualified profession.

[Colourfuldreamsx]

I feel like over here in the UK we are more strict with visas etc. it is a hard country to get into and marriage seems to be the only possibility then again, when I looked at the US visas the only option seems like a marriage visa.

My girlfriend was looking at the possibility of moving to England before she met me, she works as an elementary teacher working with children with disabilities, for her to get a job over here she would have to get her qualifications recognised (she has a Masters degree) and learn the whole English education system which is very different from the US system. It would also be quite hard for her to find a job in a special needs school working with children with ADHD, Mental health issues etc as there are not many around anymore as many disabled children are put into mainstream education.
She would possibly have to look at teaching mainstream rather than special ed depending on where she lived.

AnnaLea Would you prefer to move to England?

[AnnaLea]

Yes, I think my moving to England would be the best option for us. I love it there and have visited numerous times. My SO lives in Tynemouth in the northeast. I spent a month there last year and thought it was lovely. I have an internet business which I am trying to grow and don't know how that would rank in the scheme of things. Right now, all we are able to afford is to see each other twice a year! And that is NOT enough.

[Colourfuldreamsx]

It's great that you love England I live in the North East too it's a great place to live, I'm looking forward to my girlfriend coming to visit as I want to show her there's more to England than just London.
I hope your buisness grows and you have a lot of success with it
I agree it sucks not being able to see the other half very often!

[Lycaeus]

I'm in Kent, England, and my SO is in Minnesota.

Also, *insert annoyed grunt noise at all the hassle and expense involved with international visits*