Hi everyone, well right now I'm in a really bad moment in my relationship. Our story is like this I got a one year visa over there and I met him where I used to work, we started dating one month after I started working so basically we were together all that year we even live together for 6 months. Everything was amazing we never fight, we complement each other he is just amazing and usually I'm not the kind of girl that wants to be every day and hour next to her boyfriend, but with him is different we don't get bored.
Well so the year ends and I have to go back to Mexico, but then he came one month later to met my parents, then after one month and a half I went to Phx and stayed for 3months, then I came back trying to get a job because he told me that he was coming on January, but then he changed his mind and told me to go on November I told him it's ok I can start looking for a job in January. Right now I've been living with the money that I make baking and cooking for parties it's not to much but I've been saving to go over there. Well the problem started 2 weeks ago, I was asking him if I'm going and when and he just told me I don't know I don't think this is working for me, obviously I was in shock I thought we were ok, we talk every day and I was excited because we were just one month apart to see each other. So I told him that he needs to tell me if he wanted me with him or not, because I think love can do everything I met so many friends that they only see once per year with their boyfriends and after years they are together and even married. So he told he was sorry to think about breaking up and he wants to continue with our plans.
Everything was ok, I was busy doing some food and he was busy at work so yesterday I ask him so when do you want me to go, and again he told me he doesn't know if he wants to continue this.
It breaks my heart so bad because I was next to him in so many difficult things he's being through and suddenly he doesn't want to try it? Besides that he always ask me if I haven't look for something to go over there because obviously he's not moving to Mexico. Really I've been looking everywhere and I can get a visa until 2015, obviously I can go to study English but its only for 3months and besides that I don't have the money because i haven't work because over here they give vacations after a year and you only get one day off so if I work I couldn't go and stay as long as he wants.
Right now I'm sad and angry at the same time, I'm sad because I thought we were doing ok and apparently he didn't thought that and I'm angry because I've done so many sacrifices one of them is not working because I want to see him and go, so I literally wasted a year and now that I tell him that the next year I want yo work so I can get money to go over there on 2015 he is angry because now he has to come. Really I'm desperate for a visa, we talk about getting married but he is divorced I told him I don't is fair for him to get divorced and get married so early, he used to be the one that insisted about us getting married and now he told me he doesn't want to. Really I never asked for a green card or something, but he doesn't help me either trying to look how can I get a visa he is just mad that I don't do anything to go over there, of course I already looked but the only solution is wait until 2015 and he doesn't want to wait.
I'm so sad I don't want to loose him, but I don't think is nice of him the way he is being acting. So what do you think I should do? Or does someone know how can I get a visa? :s I'm desperate and sad.
Well so the year ends and I have to go back to Mexico, but then he came one month later to met my parents, then after one month and a half I went to Phx and stayed for 3months, then I came back trying to get a job because he told me that he was coming on January, but then he changed his mind and told me to go on November I told him it's ok I can start looking for a job in January. Right now I've been living with the money that I make baking and cooking for parties it's not to much but I've been saving to go over there. Well the problem started 2 weeks ago, I was asking him if I'm going and when and he just told me I don't know I don't think this is working for me, obviously I was in shock I thought we were ok, we talk every day and I was excited because we were just one month apart to see each other. So I told him that he needs to tell me if he wanted me with him or not, because I think love can do everything I met so many friends that they only see once per year with their boyfriends and after years they are together and even married. So he told he was sorry to think about breaking up and he wants to continue with our plans.
Everything was ok, I was busy doing some food and he was busy at work so yesterday I ask him so when do you want me to go, and again he told me he doesn't know if he wants to continue this.
It breaks my heart so bad because I was next to him in so many difficult things he's being through and suddenly he doesn't want to try it? Besides that he always ask me if I haven't look for something to go over there because obviously he's not moving to Mexico. Really I've been looking everywhere and I can get a visa until 2015, obviously I can go to study English but its only for 3months and besides that I don't have the money because i haven't work because over here they give vacations after a year and you only get one day off so if I work I couldn't go and stay as long as he wants.
Right now I'm sad and angry at the same time, I'm sad because I thought we were doing ok and apparently he didn't thought that and I'm angry because I've done so many sacrifices one of them is not working because I want to see him and go, so I literally wasted a year and now that I tell him that the next year I want yo work so I can get money to go over there on 2015 he is angry because now he has to come. Really I'm desperate for a visa, we talk about getting married but he is divorced I told him I don't is fair for him to get divorced and get married so early, he used to be the one that insisted about us getting married and now he told me he doesn't want to. Really I never asked for a green card or something, but he doesn't help me either trying to look how can I get a visa he is just mad that I don't do anything to go over there, of course I already looked but the only solution is wait until 2015 and he doesn't want to wait.
I'm so sad I don't want to loose him, but I don't think is nice of him the way he is being acting. So what do you think I should do? Or does someone know how can I get a visa? :s I'm desperate and sad.
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