He broke up with me today

[LDLovebird]

Thank you all again! Makes me feel better. Yes differentciuntries you are right. No I'm alone here in this city but I talked to a few friends further away and in the USA. Thank you for the good wishes.
Today I just think how could he give up on our love so easily. But yeah ldr wasn't for us. I'll learn how to deal with it. Never got my heart broken ever before though so that's quite an experience. -.-

[innocentbutterfly]

ah i so feel your pain...my SO Is doing the same stuff, ever since our first meeting 3 months ago...he is just distancing himself...for every fight he finds a reason to not write me at all and if i dont it would just end like that. It breaks me and its destroying my daily routine...i cant focus on eating, studying or anything...and it would be 2years for us in a month. He is just a quitter, he says its life and it breaks me to see he isnt afraid to lose me anymore or when he uses insulting words when we argue. I know i should stop hanging on, but I Too feel like I Never felt love so strong before.. I just dont know how to quit it. But good luck to you, you have your kid to live for... I dont have any reason like that

[LDLovebird]

I am sorry girl. Good luck.

[LittleBox]

I'm sorry to hear that My ex and I went through the same thing. Not having that physical contact was too hard on him after over a year of dating. We took a break and kind of got back together but he was miserable. I was really bitter when we split because he seemed to be taking it better than I did, he even "thanked me" for being the one to formally end things which really hurt. We message each other sporadically on Facebook and have kept things "friendly". It took me a while to get there and hopefully you will too. Just give it time for both of you to settle. If you're not ready to talk to him on friendly terms yet then don't push it. My ex gave me the space I asked for and we are able to talk to each other as friends now. Good luck and do stick around (:

[LDLovebird]

Thank you LittleBox. I think i need a little break from contact too. I hope some day we can be friends too. He was my best friend too before we started dating. Nobody knows me better. Still can't grab how this could go down the drain that fast. Like within a month basically. But an ldr is hard. No doubt about it. Some ppl are tougher than others i think.

[LDLovebird]

Thank you LittleBox. I think i need a little break from contact too. I hope some day we can be friends too. He was my best friend too before we started dating. Nobody knows me better. Still can't grab how this could go down the drain that fast. Like within a month basically. But an ldr is hard. No doubt about it. Some ppl are tougher than others i think.

[differentcountries]

ah i so feel your pain...my SO Is doing the same stuff, ever since our first meeting 3 months ago...he is just distancing himself...for every fight he finds a reason to not write me at all and if i dont it would just end like that. It breaks me and its destroying my daily routine...i cant focus on eating, studying or anything...and it would be 2years for us in a month. He is just a quitter, he says its life and it breaks me to see he isnt afraid to lose me anymore or when he uses insulting words when we argue. I know i should stop hanging on, but I Too feel like I Never felt love so strong before.. I just dont know how to quit it. But good luck to you, you have your kid to live for... I dont have any reason like that

I don't know if it is Turkish guys..or just guys...or just some people. I find that I cannot argue with my SO at ALL. I had one fight with him and he was really like; why does she hate me so? And would get cold and distant as a response. I find I have to treat him differently than I am used to treating others. His English is ok but not fantastic so I have to be open to language misunderstandings as well. It is not easy, because sometimes you have to confront in order to get something done. For me, it helps that I can sometimes be a bit like that myself (getting emotionally cold to protect myself), so I know what he is going through. Also, it is much harder to have a fight at a distance when you can not make up afterwords with a hug etc. That is why I try to keep it light, or say things very calmly even when I get upset, I try to remind myself that he loves me and that the distance is hard on him too. Also, this is not easily done but if you don't get your everyday life together, with sleep, eating habits and so on, you are going to give yourself an energy drain that will make it so much harder to deal with your relationship. I recomend getting some rules about arguing (like we agreed to never argue in writing, we have to do it on skype/phone because our voices/faces will soothe us plus we will not be able to use delays to think strange thoughts). I hear you on insulting words, I got so, so scared and sad over something my SO said. I don't even remember what it was, just that I got extremely hurt (apparently I hurt him too, without even meaning to). There is one thing and that is you must be able to forgive each other. Apart from sex, I think that is the most important skill one must have. The best of luck to everyone out there, sometimes love can be so tricky because it is scary good