I have been dating with my SO for a year. We met at college when I studied abroad and kept our relationship after I went back to my country.
Now we have been in LDR for six months and we visited each other a few times the past few months(longest time was 2 weeks).
The problem is we won't be able to see each other more than 6 months from now.
Another problem is both of us know what we want to do in our future. Currently we are still college students. He'll graduate in a half year and I still have one and half year until graduation. While I want to pursue my career first in my country, he wants to be engaged in a certain business in his country and he's pretty sure he can get it. He wants to work in Asia where I am, but it's going to be hard because he doesn't speak any Asian languages.
We discussed how to do with this relationship so many times. We agreed that we are still young (both are 21 years old) so we should focus on our own future and career. Based on that, he suggested we should breakup. He wants to breakup but continue keeping in touch with me. What he said was we will breakup for a while but if he really needs me, he wants to come back to me.
We hoped to live together someday and I thought he was the one for me. We love each other so much but the reality is too hard and we have no choice but to accept the sad reality. I expected he would fight for me if he really loves me. However, we cannot be idealist all the time.
I was devastated from the brokenheart as you can imagine. I tried to move on so I suggested we should cut all contacts because my heart aches so bad when I see his life on facebook or just to think about him. I dont think I can go back to friend soon. I need to delete his contacts to move on but he doesn't want me to do that. I think if we still take contacts, I can never move on and its kind of the same with being the relationship. The only difference is that he can hook up other girls. I don't wanna be a convenient girl that he can always come back whenever he wants to. My suggestion is "all or nothing". If we still want to talk, I want to be in a relationship. or cut all contacts to really move on. He said if our paths cross again, we can back together.
I really don't know what to do with this relationship. Should I cut contacts to move on or be friends while my heart aches? I do not want to end this relationship. I still love him and want to keep working on this relationship as much as we can. We haven't reached the final agreement yet.
Thank you for reading and I really hope someone can give me some advice.
Now we have been in LDR for six months and we visited each other a few times the past few months(longest time was 2 weeks).
The problem is we won't be able to see each other more than 6 months from now.
Another problem is both of us know what we want to do in our future. Currently we are still college students. He'll graduate in a half year and I still have one and half year until graduation. While I want to pursue my career first in my country, he wants to be engaged in a certain business in his country and he's pretty sure he can get it. He wants to work in Asia where I am, but it's going to be hard because he doesn't speak any Asian languages.
We discussed how to do with this relationship so many times. We agreed that we are still young (both are 21 years old) so we should focus on our own future and career. Based on that, he suggested we should breakup. He wants to breakup but continue keeping in touch with me. What he said was we will breakup for a while but if he really needs me, he wants to come back to me.
We hoped to live together someday and I thought he was the one for me. We love each other so much but the reality is too hard and we have no choice but to accept the sad reality. I expected he would fight for me if he really loves me. However, we cannot be idealist all the time.
I was devastated from the brokenheart as you can imagine. I tried to move on so I suggested we should cut all contacts because my heart aches so bad when I see his life on facebook or just to think about him. I dont think I can go back to friend soon. I need to delete his contacts to move on but he doesn't want me to do that. I think if we still take contacts, I can never move on and its kind of the same with being the relationship. The only difference is that he can hook up other girls. I don't wanna be a convenient girl that he can always come back whenever he wants to. My suggestion is "all or nothing". If we still want to talk, I want to be in a relationship. or cut all contacts to really move on. He said if our paths cross again, we can back together.
I really don't know what to do with this relationship. Should I cut contacts to move on or be friends while my heart aches? I do not want to end this relationship. I still love him and want to keep working on this relationship as much as we can. We haven't reached the final agreement yet.
Thank you for reading and I really hope someone can give me some advice.
If it was me I wouldn't break up but I am a hopeless romantic. I like what you said about being all or nothing though because its not right to keep you in limbo and but being able to date others. 
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