My girlfriend and I have been together for two years now, I think I have posted on this forum before, although at an earlier stage in our relationship. We have spent 7 months together, by miracle, as our families are quite supportive of us we were able to live in each others countries and really just get used to everything. It was by far the best time of my life, and I am now certain that she is the girl I want to be with forever.
As I said we have met each others families, and everyone got along well. My family however, likes to guilt trip me all the time about how our relationship will end up being not fair to them, however they do this to everyone and actually they can be very selfish sometimes. My girlfriend and I decided to move to Canada, as it would be almost impossible for me to get a job as I do not speak Polish. I am learning, but it's just not realistic to move there yet. Here is where the problems begin.
We are both very poor, our families struggle to survive, my parents have 6 kids, a house that's falling apart, and we live in an area with no jobs. Also, in order to have a job it requires a car and driving at least 30 minutes, so they don't save any money. My mom stays at home with the kids, and my dad only has part time work as a teacher. My girlfriends parents work 3 jobs between them and have trouble surviving on the brutal wages in Poland. My girlfriend has been unable to find a job in 6 months of looking, there is over 40% youth unemployment now in Poland, plus she is only 20 and doesn't have a degree.
Next, I am unable to afford tuition in Canada, and I feel very let down by my own country. I attended school for economics for one year but when I switched to computer science the troubles began. I am now in a legal battle with government assistance programs. They say that they paid me too for school, and I have to pay them back more money than I have ever had. Not to mention the fact that they didn't even give me enough money for school and I had to drop out in second semester because I ran out of money. I have been a straight A student, got 90% and National Honours on my high school diploma. I have always dreamed of starting my own business after getting a decent job after university, however it seems that this will never happen.
Sorry for the long post, but there was a lot to explain. So now what we want to do is get married so that at the very least we can be together. We are faced right now with the prospect of having to live apart our entire lives in dead-end jobs. I am working now, only part time retail, but I hope to be able to save up enough to get married in the summer. We have looked into all of the spousal sponsorship processes and we can't see any reason they won't accept us since there is no income requirement. Basically we know we want to get married, and we don't mind being poor as long as we can be together. I feel like being born a poor Canadian has ruined my life, perhaps only a poor American would have it worse as far as first world countries go. Basically Canada has told me that I can't have an education. So should we go ahead with it?
Any thoughts?
As I said we have met each others families, and everyone got along well. My family however, likes to guilt trip me all the time about how our relationship will end up being not fair to them, however they do this to everyone and actually they can be very selfish sometimes. My girlfriend and I decided to move to Canada, as it would be almost impossible for me to get a job as I do not speak Polish. I am learning, but it's just not realistic to move there yet. Here is where the problems begin.
We are both very poor, our families struggle to survive, my parents have 6 kids, a house that's falling apart, and we live in an area with no jobs. Also, in order to have a job it requires a car and driving at least 30 minutes, so they don't save any money. My mom stays at home with the kids, and my dad only has part time work as a teacher. My girlfriends parents work 3 jobs between them and have trouble surviving on the brutal wages in Poland. My girlfriend has been unable to find a job in 6 months of looking, there is over 40% youth unemployment now in Poland, plus she is only 20 and doesn't have a degree.
Next, I am unable to afford tuition in Canada, and I feel very let down by my own country. I attended school for economics for one year but when I switched to computer science the troubles began. I am now in a legal battle with government assistance programs. They say that they paid me too for school, and I have to pay them back more money than I have ever had. Not to mention the fact that they didn't even give me enough money for school and I had to drop out in second semester because I ran out of money. I have been a straight A student, got 90% and National Honours on my high school diploma. I have always dreamed of starting my own business after getting a decent job after university, however it seems that this will never happen.
Sorry for the long post, but there was a lot to explain. So now what we want to do is get married so that at the very least we can be together. We are faced right now with the prospect of having to live apart our entire lives in dead-end jobs. I am working now, only part time retail, but I hope to be able to save up enough to get married in the summer. We have looked into all of the spousal sponsorship processes and we can't see any reason they won't accept us since there is no income requirement. Basically we know we want to get married, and we don't mind being poor as long as we can be together. I feel like being born a poor Canadian has ruined my life, perhaps only a poor American would have it worse as far as first world countries go. Basically Canada has told me that I can't have an education. So should we go ahead with it?
Any thoughts?
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