This is probably one of many communication topics.. however my issue is not so much lack of communication..
We talk everyday..but it's just so boring now.. It's the same sort of conversation..Unless we talk about stocks and the price of gold.. or paleo (things he's interested in..where i have to be enthusiastic)..then the conversation blows..
I'll start conversation about something random and all i'll get is "oh" "i see"..
something big happened the other night .. i told him a bit..not much (expecting him to ask me further) he never did..
There's no banter either.. we rarely laugh together.
In some situations i'll tell him something and he'll take it the wrong way.. so when we do talk i struggle to know what i can/cant say without some reaction.
The most thrilling the conversation gets is when we argue.. and that's a terrible thing to have.
A long time ago I found this 1000 questions thing for couples.. but then during a fight he said he didnt give a **** about the questions so that put me off too..I can ramble on for days about something stupid but then when he only replies with "oh" i feel deflated..
I've got to the point now where I'm replying like him.. I've lost enthusiasm for even trying to talk because its never anything interesting.
I thought in these situations where communication is all you have..that you'd have the ability to talk about anything and everything.. instead i seem to talk more to people i see daily.
Any suggestions would be great..how to relight that conversation spark..Or even to know anyone else has been thru this and got out the other side.
Many thanks.
Ama
We talk everyday..but it's just so boring now.. It's the same sort of conversation..Unless we talk about stocks and the price of gold.. or paleo (things he's interested in..where i have to be enthusiastic)..then the conversation blows..
I'll start conversation about something random and all i'll get is "oh" "i see"..
something big happened the other night .. i told him a bit..not much (expecting him to ask me further) he never did..
There's no banter either.. we rarely laugh together.
In some situations i'll tell him something and he'll take it the wrong way.. so when we do talk i struggle to know what i can/cant say without some reaction.
The most thrilling the conversation gets is when we argue.. and that's a terrible thing to have.
A long time ago I found this 1000 questions thing for couples.. but then during a fight he said he didnt give a **** about the questions so that put me off too..I can ramble on for days about something stupid but then when he only replies with "oh" i feel deflated..
I've got to the point now where I'm replying like him.. I've lost enthusiasm for even trying to talk because its never anything interesting.
I thought in these situations where communication is all you have..that you'd have the ability to talk about anything and everything.. instead i seem to talk more to people i see daily.
Any suggestions would be great..how to relight that conversation spark..Or even to know anyone else has been thru this and got out the other side.
Many thanks.
Ama
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