Hey all, first time poster here...I've been reading around for a couple weeks and am oddly comforted knowing there are a ton of people going through the same thing as me. I'll try to keep this as short as possible!
Met my girlfriend last spring (she's from Europe, I'm in the US) while she was in the US for a year. We hung out several times over the summer, and each time it was awesome. Last fall she went back to Europe, so we've been doing the distance thing for several months now. I have been in 2 other LD relationships before, both with girls still in the US, just a few states away. Each one ended horribly when I tried to move closer to them. Now I'm finally back in an area I love, good job, lots of friends, etc. My SO is planning to visit here soon, but the visa can only be for 3-6 months. I'm excited to see her again, but sometimes I don't feel that excited. I might be apprehensive because I won't know what to do after 6 months. She would have to go back home, then I feel like we'd be starting over again trying to figure out everything to get to be together. I feel like the only option we have would be to get married, but I'm pretty sure I'm not ready for that yet. I know I'm the lucky one, she's making all the efforts to visit here...but then again she doesn't have a job, or go to school, and doesn't really want to be where she grew up anyway. I just don't want her to think the whole time here was wasted for nothing if she has to go back home after 6 months and I don't think I could do the LDR thing again...
Should someone smack some sense into me?
Met my girlfriend last spring (she's from Europe, I'm in the US) while she was in the US for a year. We hung out several times over the summer, and each time it was awesome. Last fall she went back to Europe, so we've been doing the distance thing for several months now. I have been in 2 other LD relationships before, both with girls still in the US, just a few states away. Each one ended horribly when I tried to move closer to them. Now I'm finally back in an area I love, good job, lots of friends, etc. My SO is planning to visit here soon, but the visa can only be for 3-6 months. I'm excited to see her again, but sometimes I don't feel that excited. I might be apprehensive because I won't know what to do after 6 months. She would have to go back home, then I feel like we'd be starting over again trying to figure out everything to get to be together. I feel like the only option we have would be to get married, but I'm pretty sure I'm not ready for that yet. I know I'm the lucky one, she's making all the efforts to visit here...but then again she doesn't have a job, or go to school, and doesn't really want to be where she grew up anyway. I just don't want her to think the whole time here was wasted for nothing if she has to go back home after 6 months and I don't think I could do the LDR thing again...
Should someone smack some sense into me?
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