Things have been rough for my SO and I. More so for me, as I've no doubt been dealing with waves of depression over the last couple of weeks. As hard as the distance has been, I always get that second wind in my sail...the motivation to keep going. Because even though I have my doubts and my "moments" , my heart is still in this.
My problem lies with this. We've known each other for 9 months, and have been in a relationship for 5. I have not spoken to a single friend, or family member of his. And for the most part, I don't have any solid proof that he's told anyone about me. This as you can imagine is very concerning. Every time I have asked, he's told me "no" or "not yet" or "soon". Tonight I told him...the next time we Skype I want to speak to his parents. It's important to me. There have been a few "red flags" and the fact that nobody really knows about me (as far as I can see)..really bothers me.
I'll admit...things between us have felt different for the last week or two. It felt like something had shifted in our relationship. I chalked it up to my being such a downer, and his nerves...as he's hopefully (supposedly) going to be visiting me next month. I understand he's nervous and might get cold feet, but I never expected for him to tell me that he's worried about us in the long term. He's now afraid of things not working out, and for this all to be "for nothing". Talk about a punch to the gut! He was in the Army and had to leave due to injury, he wants to get back in (which is something he's never really said before)...and he is now worried about whether or not he wants us to keep going. I keep reassuring him, but at this point, the ball is in his court. And here I sit, feeling completely hopeless and not being able to do anything about the situation.
I can't help but feel like these are all excuses. That for some reason, he's trying to end things on purpose.
My problem lies with this. We've known each other for 9 months, and have been in a relationship for 5. I have not spoken to a single friend, or family member of his. And for the most part, I don't have any solid proof that he's told anyone about me. This as you can imagine is very concerning. Every time I have asked, he's told me "no" or "not yet" or "soon". Tonight I told him...the next time we Skype I want to speak to his parents. It's important to me. There have been a few "red flags" and the fact that nobody really knows about me (as far as I can see)..really bothers me.
I'll admit...things between us have felt different for the last week or two. It felt like something had shifted in our relationship. I chalked it up to my being such a downer, and his nerves...as he's hopefully (supposedly) going to be visiting me next month. I understand he's nervous and might get cold feet, but I never expected for him to tell me that he's worried about us in the long term. He's now afraid of things not working out, and for this all to be "for nothing". Talk about a punch to the gut! He was in the Army and had to leave due to injury, he wants to get back in (which is something he's never really said before)...and he is now worried about whether or not he wants us to keep going. I keep reassuring him, but at this point, the ball is in his court. And here I sit, feeling completely hopeless and not being able to do anything about the situation.
I can't help but feel like these are all excuses. That for some reason, he's trying to end things on purpose.
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