We've known each other for over two years, most of it online. We were friends at first but it has developed wonderfully along the way. We've met twice in the US but it's been very tough and still is. We have not been free during all of it. We found each other as friends when we were both in bad relationships. We supported each other, we offered an outsider's view on what's best to do when you have kids and all. It has been smoother for me, I've been divorced for over a year but he is not as far in the game and just starting the divorce process. So we haven't been able to be together since last summer and it is so hard for me. He has to get his life in order and find financial independence before we can be together. It's the hardest thing to be together and not know when to see each other.
We have a very strong basis for our relationship. We were friends for so long and we've become each other's best friends. But I like to plan my life ahead and he worries about the presence. For me, it means that I have moments when I don't trust us, when we don't have a real plan. For him, when we love each other and are committed, is enough. He trusts that we will be together when the time is right. Of course the biggest thing is that when he is going through his divorce we can't always keep in touch. He does do his best that we can talk daily but we can't always. I don't want to make things any more difficult for him so I wait when he contacts me. I have wanted to move faster but it is not possible. That has been the reason for many of our arguements.
Our plan is to live together in Finland. There will be a language barrier. I know he can learn Finnish but it will take time. A lof of practical issues to overcome. But I don't want to move to the US. I run my own company and I have everything here. We have not even discussed this much. He has "volunteered" to move here and I hope it will be fine.
Well, this was kind of an introduction. I wish we don't have to spend too much time apart any more. But before his divorce is clear he cannot even leave. How he can work in Finland without marrying me right away, I don't know either. So many unanswered questions, drives me nuts sometimes
We have a very strong basis for our relationship. We were friends for so long and we've become each other's best friends. But I like to plan my life ahead and he worries about the presence. For me, it means that I have moments when I don't trust us, when we don't have a real plan. For him, when we love each other and are committed, is enough. He trusts that we will be together when the time is right. Of course the biggest thing is that when he is going through his divorce we can't always keep in touch. He does do his best that we can talk daily but we can't always. I don't want to make things any more difficult for him so I wait when he contacts me. I have wanted to move faster but it is not possible. That has been the reason for many of our arguements.
Our plan is to live together in Finland. There will be a language barrier. I know he can learn Finnish but it will take time. A lof of practical issues to overcome. But I don't want to move to the US. I run my own company and I have everything here. We have not even discussed this much. He has "volunteered" to move here and I hope it will be fine.
Well, this was kind of an introduction. I wish we don't have to spend too much time apart any more. But before his divorce is clear he cannot even leave. How he can work in Finland without marrying me right away, I don't know either. So many unanswered questions, drives me nuts sometimes
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