Time to let go of you :(
Hello LDRers,
It's come to that time, where we have made it 2 years but things went downhill before that. I came to visit in the summer, and he came here right after. But when he left it changed. I like to think life just sometimes changes and you don't realize it till you take the time to and sadly this change was not for the better. Two months ago He became more distant and busy, I felt quite neglected and tried as he did to make me feel better it just wasn't working.
The next issue was realizing how different we are, how I am more extroverted and him introverted. I wanted to go to NYC for NYE to see a concert but he was coming then and had zero interest in doing that or anything like that ever...I just kept seeing more differences, and I feel in close distance you see these sooner but now things are coming full circle.
Next, we had a plan, he was to come here and work or do a PhD but last year he told me he didn't like it here and could never live here. It broke my heart to pieces and his, but I understood why. He decided to stay to do a Masters and then expected me to make the move. Fast Forward a year, when once I was sure I was able to move I began spending more time with friends, family, and realized I am not ready to move either. I can't leave them behind...telling him this was hard but he seems to understand.
I have put us on a break for a month but it's been a week and I feel I know my answer. It hurts so much to think someone is for you and then they end up not being that person, and seeing that your lifestyles are just not the same...
So lovely people, I believe my LDR is ending, for a number of reasons as you can see. My question for everyone is what is the best way to go about ending things? Do these reasons seem to make sense? I love him with all my heart and want him happy but this is hurting us both, I see it more and more. And we are just unable to compromise on the move. Any thoughts and opinions would be great <3
Rosie
It's come to that time, where we have made it 2 years but things went downhill before that. I came to visit in the summer, and he came here right after. But when he left it changed. I like to think life just sometimes changes and you don't realize it till you take the time to and sadly this change was not for the better. Two months ago He became more distant and busy, I felt quite neglected and tried as he did to make me feel better it just wasn't working.
The next issue was realizing how different we are, how I am more extroverted and him introverted. I wanted to go to NYC for NYE to see a concert but he was coming then and had zero interest in doing that or anything like that ever...I just kept seeing more differences, and I feel in close distance you see these sooner but now things are coming full circle.
Next, we had a plan, he was to come here and work or do a PhD but last year he told me he didn't like it here and could never live here. It broke my heart to pieces and his, but I understood why. He decided to stay to do a Masters and then expected me to make the move. Fast Forward a year, when once I was sure I was able to move I began spending more time with friends, family, and realized I am not ready to move either. I can't leave them behind...telling him this was hard but he seems to understand.
I have put us on a break for a month but it's been a week and I feel I know my answer. It hurts so much to think someone is for you and then they end up not being that person, and seeing that your lifestyles are just not the same...
So lovely people, I believe my LDR is ending, for a number of reasons as you can see. My question for everyone is what is the best way to go about ending things? Do these reasons seem to make sense? I love him with all my heart and want him happy but this is hurting us both, I see it more and more. And we are just unable to compromise on the move. Any thoughts and opinions would be great <3
Rosie
It makes me more assured of my decision. I just really hate breaking up with someone, esp long distance. But I like to think that getting over them will be easier with the distance separating us. I really do want the best for him! But I also want the best for me too. You all rock <3
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