So what's the longest you've gone without contacting your SO?

[voskaya]

Just like the title says, what's the longest time you've gone without contacting your SO?

The reason why I'm asking is because long-story-short, my boyfriend hasn't contacted me in a week. School has just started for him so I understand that he would be busy. He told last Friday that he would be downloading the [facebook] Messanger app so we can message each other and even call more frequently. Ever since then he hasn't spoken to me, but he's been online talking to his friends (on their status updates and what-not). I'm guessing that he's just spending time with his new found friends, but I can't help but feel slightly .... heartbroken(?) Or maybe a better word would be forgotten.

I think I may be overreacting (and maybe jealous of his friends) since it's only been one week without contact.

So basically, do you think I may be overreacting and what's the longest you've gone without contacting your SO (because I'm curious anyway)?

[R&R]

Here is a link on this topic. Hopefully it will give you some answers and insight.

https://members.lovingfromadistance....-communication

[differentcountries]

The longest SO would go without contacting me is 48 hours. Even when we don't talk much, at least there are some texts most days.

I very much doubt that school has just started for him. The schools in Norway generally started a month ago, so he should be settled by now. Anyhow, not contacting your girlfriend/boyfriend in a week is bad form. Of course you feel bad about this. He needs to do much better than that, and you need to tell him that. Or, as we say in Norwegian: "Skjerp deg!"

[MissingMyDutchLove]

I agree. I would be furious if I haven't heard from my SO in a week. We try to stay in communication every day even if it's just a text. Yeah, sometimes we go longer without skyping if we're busy, but we always communicate what's going on in our lives even if it's just to say that we cannot talk for the day.

[Lycka]

The longest was 4 days but that was because I was on a trip and it was bad internet connection. But in any kind of cafe/resturant or any shop who had Wify, I tried to text him, but didn't go well, not sure why but it just didn't sent. He said it was annoying and I can understand, just no getting a "good morning" text makes me feel Though I understand in the mornings you have hurry. Though one week sounds a bit too long, there must be a time on the day he can find. Tell that you are worried by him or what you feel when he says he will do something but he doesn't.

But doesn't sound so nice of him to do that, sometimes they can wait and text you but the people around there can't wait. But you should try to find time to at least check in, IMO. Because I've realized that when being in a LDR,texts messages and words becomes so much more valuable. A "hi there" makes me happy and calm, I know he's okay, and a "I miss you", "Glad you're back" just brightens you more than anything.

[farandaway]

We've gone much longer than that just because of his very difficult situation with sick parents. I worry less now because I know he would contact more if he could. I also know his heart is with me. Not knowing is the worst thing. I hope you can solve it soon.

[essie]

Any update? Here's my 2 pence worth - longest we go without communicating, is only when one of us is asleep because of the time difference. I too would feel very upset and forgotten if I didn't hear from him in a week! We once had a little fall out (early on) and didn't speak for almost 4 days, I was a complete mess..

[Kristina88]

Almost two days is the most. Sometimes we only send a good morning text. But normally we talk a bit through the day..

Just try to send him a text, and remind him that "hey, I am still here". And maybe you can bring it up next time you have a longer conversation, that it would be nice to send just a small text more frequently.

[Hollandia]

Longest was 2 days, but he had warned me his parents cabin where he was going was out of internet for a few days. Other than that, 1 day.

I would be upset if this is not his norm and he is online with other friends....big red flag. It only takes 5 minutes to send an email and say I love you.

[makandcheese]

I've went 5 months. I was heartbroken and felt forgotten, but as soon as he comes back, i bet you guys will figure it out.

[Honour]

Er... a few hours? lol.

[Ella85]

ummm a day? If he didn't text me I'd call when I knew he was out of work/not busy because I'd be concerned if he didn't message me. It's happened before where he has been unwell and he let me know and we didn't text that day. Usually we call every day, especially since I got back from my last trip. There have been a few days where we could only text. But I would be devastated if he didn't make any contact what so ever for a whole week. I'd be out of my mind with worry thinking something had happened.

[Unicorn26]

About 8 hrs i.e. when we are sleeping.

To not hear from your SO in a week is no good. You need to speak to him about this....

[sasad]

Only when we are both asleep. Although a couple times we both waited for the other to call/text first,...we are put that now. It's important o know limits/boundaries for communication.

[Unconditional]

These days, Only whenever I'm sleeping or working. Longest was two days when we had our first argument, he needed time to calm down and think and so did I. We talked through it later and are stronger because of it.