Hello!
So my boyfriend and I have been together for close to 2 years, doing long distance the entire time. We're an international couple, I'm located in the U.S and he's in the U.K. During this time we've had 2 visits in which he's come to see me both times, and in less then 2 months I will be traveling to visit him for 6 days. If you add up the amount of time for all 3 visits will have had a total of 16 days together in person.
We obviously, like everyone else, want to close the distance. I want nothing more then to have a normal relationship with him and to never have to miss him again. The difficult part is in order for us to close the distance will have to get married. I should be honest, it's difficult for ME, not for him as he's told me he's ready for marriage and all it entails.
Now, maybe it's just my take on marriage that is ruining things for me. I personally don't see the point in getting married. I don't like weddings and wouldn't have one because the dress, flowers, party, etc, seems like a waste of money. I don't even like jewelry so even the idea of an engagement ring doesn't thrill me. I've yet to determine if this view I have on marriage/weddings is because that's just how I am, or if it's a sign that I am just not ready for that part of adulthood so the very idea of it turns me off?
Either way. I feel like I will have to get married just to have a boyfriend, and truthfully that's all I want. I love my boyfriend, I care about him. When we are together in person it's GREAT. I'd love to live together, etc. But marriage? To be a wife? Maybe it's because we're missing out on the natural flow that a relationship in my mind should take. You date, you move in together, you get engaged, THEN you get married. For me it seems like it all being sped up. I'm going from NEVER having a boyfriend or relationship, to having one that's long distance and I barely see, to BAM, someone's wife.
I don't know why I'm coming here, I guess in hopes that someone can say they understand and can relate? I feel like closing the distance would get rid of a lot, if not all of the issues we have. But I can't help but feel like I am not ready for marriage, and that this isn't the right way to do it.
So my boyfriend and I have been together for close to 2 years, doing long distance the entire time. We're an international couple, I'm located in the U.S and he's in the U.K. During this time we've had 2 visits in which he's come to see me both times, and in less then 2 months I will be traveling to visit him for 6 days. If you add up the amount of time for all 3 visits will have had a total of 16 days together in person.
We obviously, like everyone else, want to close the distance. I want nothing more then to have a normal relationship with him and to never have to miss him again. The difficult part is in order for us to close the distance will have to get married. I should be honest, it's difficult for ME, not for him as he's told me he's ready for marriage and all it entails.
Now, maybe it's just my take on marriage that is ruining things for me. I personally don't see the point in getting married. I don't like weddings and wouldn't have one because the dress, flowers, party, etc, seems like a waste of money. I don't even like jewelry so even the idea of an engagement ring doesn't thrill me. I've yet to determine if this view I have on marriage/weddings is because that's just how I am, or if it's a sign that I am just not ready for that part of adulthood so the very idea of it turns me off?
Either way. I feel like I will have to get married just to have a boyfriend, and truthfully that's all I want. I love my boyfriend, I care about him. When we are together in person it's GREAT. I'd love to live together, etc. But marriage? To be a wife? Maybe it's because we're missing out on the natural flow that a relationship in my mind should take. You date, you move in together, you get engaged, THEN you get married. For me it seems like it all being sped up. I'm going from NEVER having a boyfriend or relationship, to having one that's long distance and I barely see, to BAM, someone's wife.
I don't know why I'm coming here, I guess in hopes that someone can say they understand and can relate? I feel like closing the distance would get rid of a lot, if not all of the issues we have. But I can't help but feel like I am not ready for marriage, and that this isn't the right way to do it.
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