Hi,
Me and my girlfriend have been together for a year and a half now, and honestly its great and we love each other a lot.
we met through an online game and we still play the game together and its a lot of fun. out of the year and a half we have met 5 times i visited her 4 out of those 5 times ( almost a month each time with the exception of christmas and new years where i spent almost 2 months visiting her )
The only constant issue I'm facing in the long distance is communication. we use a chat app to text and talk daily because at the start of the relationship she never liked to Skype so we settled for texting. The app has a "Read" notification that lets the other person know when i see the text. so we usually keep the app on when we sleep to get a feel that we are sleeping next to each other.
About 3 months ago we started skyping a lot, and we use it the same as the text app when we sleep we Skype and sleep with it on.
Now here is where the problem is:
I just started working, i work from 8 am till 4 pm and i come home exhausted so i take a nap or go eat lunch with my family as we live next to each other. My social life is packed and i have a big family. meaning i go out with my dad to formal visits, go out with friends almost every night.
We always text when I'm at work or at home and send pictures and share our day BUT she wants more than that. i suggested movie nights, game nights, or anything of the sorts but she doesn't have a fast laptop and doesn't want to pay for movies and our only option is game, and we play our game so much that i really don't feel like playing any other game and spending more time than i do watching a screen.
We had a fight recently regarding communication. she says she feels like a filler and that I'm only skyping in my free time (Driving to work, driving home from work, driving to friends or when its close to sleep time and we are both in bed) and she doesn't count the texts we share throughout the day as a part of it and says i need to make more time for her. and i feel like even if we did have a full day of nothing but Skype there wouldn't be much to talk about because we won't do anything since we can't really watch a movie or anything like that.
she gets upset when i don't text her that i went out, or when i don't text her that i arrived home.
if i get home and go spend time with my family or of something comes up and i don't tell her she gets upset too and accuses me of getting bored of her and not sharing as much as i did before.
After the most recent fight she said that she shares too much and because of that expects me to do the same and that she will control her expectations, but what really happened is she is pushing me away and barley talking at all, not caring even what i shared and not accepting to Skype at all.
i don't know if I'm being selfish or if I'm right to think she is being unreasonable. i know this might be harder on her than me because i have so much stuff that distract me but its not like i don't miss her. but feeling the need to constantly text her to inform her where I'm going and exactly when i get home or when i get to my friends is exhausting and is making it more like a job.
I apologize for the obviously poor grammar but bare with me lol
Thank you
Me and my girlfriend have been together for a year and a half now, and honestly its great and we love each other a lot.
we met through an online game and we still play the game together and its a lot of fun. out of the year and a half we have met 5 times i visited her 4 out of those 5 times ( almost a month each time with the exception of christmas and new years where i spent almost 2 months visiting her )
The only constant issue I'm facing in the long distance is communication. we use a chat app to text and talk daily because at the start of the relationship she never liked to Skype so we settled for texting. The app has a "Read" notification that lets the other person know when i see the text. so we usually keep the app on when we sleep to get a feel that we are sleeping next to each other.
About 3 months ago we started skyping a lot, and we use it the same as the text app when we sleep we Skype and sleep with it on.
Now here is where the problem is:
I just started working, i work from 8 am till 4 pm and i come home exhausted so i take a nap or go eat lunch with my family as we live next to each other. My social life is packed and i have a big family. meaning i go out with my dad to formal visits, go out with friends almost every night.
We always text when I'm at work or at home and send pictures and share our day BUT she wants more than that. i suggested movie nights, game nights, or anything of the sorts but she doesn't have a fast laptop and doesn't want to pay for movies and our only option is game, and we play our game so much that i really don't feel like playing any other game and spending more time than i do watching a screen.
We had a fight recently regarding communication. she says she feels like a filler and that I'm only skyping in my free time (Driving to work, driving home from work, driving to friends or when its close to sleep time and we are both in bed) and she doesn't count the texts we share throughout the day as a part of it and says i need to make more time for her. and i feel like even if we did have a full day of nothing but Skype there wouldn't be much to talk about because we won't do anything since we can't really watch a movie or anything like that.
she gets upset when i don't text her that i went out, or when i don't text her that i arrived home.
if i get home and go spend time with my family or of something comes up and i don't tell her she gets upset too and accuses me of getting bored of her and not sharing as much as i did before.
After the most recent fight she said that she shares too much and because of that expects me to do the same and that she will control her expectations, but what really happened is she is pushing me away and barley talking at all, not caring even what i shared and not accepting to Skype at all.
i don't know if I'm being selfish or if I'm right to think she is being unreasonable. i know this might be harder on her than me because i have so much stuff that distract me but its not like i don't miss her. but feeling the need to constantly text her to inform her where I'm going and exactly when i get home or when i get to my friends is exhausting and is making it more like a job.
I apologize for the obviously poor grammar but bare with me lol
Thank you
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