Distance is really tough today.
My SO is a bartender, he has regular customers and a lot of them I met when I visited him as I hung around at the bar on the days he had to work. One of the guys I really liked. He was an intelligent fella and we had some great in depth conversations and we would sit and watch jeopardy in the afternoons at the bar. He had some personal issues though, he'd lost some close family and he had hit the booze hard. My SO had liver failure two years ago (not through alcohol abuse) and recognised the signs of it starting in his friend. He kept tabs on him, made sure he was eating properly and having regular check ups with the doctor.
Recently SO took on another job which meant he couldn't bar tend quite so much. His friend kept phoning him and asking him when he'd be back and SO always took the time to speak to him and even went to see him at his house.
Yesterday his friend was found dead at home. SO has taken it really really badly. He's upset and is blaming himself for his friends death. I have told him that he's not responsible for anyone's health apart from his own but he's feeling responsible for his friend dying...
I hate that I can't just go round to his place and just sit with him, let him talk if he wants to and just give him a hug. I'm devastated his friend had died alone, such a horrible way to go. Hating the distance today and feeling really low.
My SO is a bartender, he has regular customers and a lot of them I met when I visited him as I hung around at the bar on the days he had to work. One of the guys I really liked. He was an intelligent fella and we had some great in depth conversations and we would sit and watch jeopardy in the afternoons at the bar. He had some personal issues though, he'd lost some close family and he had hit the booze hard. My SO had liver failure two years ago (not through alcohol abuse) and recognised the signs of it starting in his friend. He kept tabs on him, made sure he was eating properly and having regular check ups with the doctor.
Recently SO took on another job which meant he couldn't bar tend quite so much. His friend kept phoning him and asking him when he'd be back and SO always took the time to speak to him and even went to see him at his house.
Yesterday his friend was found dead at home. SO has taken it really really badly. He's upset and is blaming himself for his friends death. I have told him that he's not responsible for anyone's health apart from his own but he's feeling responsible for his friend dying...
I hate that I can't just go round to his place and just sit with him, let him talk if he wants to and just give him a hug. I'm devastated his friend had died alone, such a horrible way to go. Hating the distance today and feeling really low.
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