I've been with my husband for 3 years, I'm in the UK and he's in Zambia. I returned to the UK In November after fails to try and get a job and settle down where he lives, so I came home to work for 6 months whilst I work towards getting him a settlement visa. The plan was I'd be at home working, and he would be at home, we had our routine, we have wifi at the house so we were talking every day. And I was kind of getting through the days and feeling positive about this year.
Then my husband was offered a job where he travels over the whole country, in some very rural places with no wifi, I cannot call him because the rates are so expensive, we have no communication apart from text messages, and to make matters worse I didn't know about it and didn't have time to prepare my self because he only find out on the same day that he was going away!
He's doing something he loves and it's a great opportunity for him, and we are still working towards the visa and still have our plans in place, but for some reason I feel like he has just left all over again. I feel like i'm going through the same stages of depression that I did when I physically left him. Our calls every day was the only thing giving me strength but now I feel like I've lost him.
Has anybody else gone through a similar situation?
It's strange because we were thousands of miles apart to start with, it's just that he's gone to another place. But I feel as if now our routine (our coping strategy) has been broken, I feel like I cannot cope at all!
Please it would be nice to know your thoughts on this, there's not really anybody who I know apart from my husband who I can talk to about it!
Then my husband was offered a job where he travels over the whole country, in some very rural places with no wifi, I cannot call him because the rates are so expensive, we have no communication apart from text messages, and to make matters worse I didn't know about it and didn't have time to prepare my self because he only find out on the same day that he was going away!
He's doing something he loves and it's a great opportunity for him, and we are still working towards the visa and still have our plans in place, but for some reason I feel like he has just left all over again. I feel like i'm going through the same stages of depression that I did when I physically left him. Our calls every day was the only thing giving me strength but now I feel like I've lost him.
Has anybody else gone through a similar situation?
It's strange because we were thousands of miles apart to start with, it's just that he's gone to another place. But I feel as if now our routine (our coping strategy) has been broken, I feel like I cannot cope at all!
Please it would be nice to know your thoughts on this, there's not really anybody who I know apart from my husband who I can talk to about it!
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