Hey guys, so i made a post about our relationship and what the current circumstances are, but im not allowed to post links yet.... but this is the thread title - In need of serious long distance relationship advice... - please do read it, and the comments, it's necessary to answer the following question related to it <3
After presenting her with the comment someone made about "is she doesn't have time now, she'll never have time for you, except for maybe 15-20 years down the road once she's settled down. But if when you visit her, she finds that she does actually have the time and that having you is beneficial to her well-being and study then it will work out" because, i don't see waiting 15-20 years very plausible... but i would do it if there was promise or sanctity of marriage/life together, 100%
The fact is, if i go over in August for this concert (if you didnt read my previous post, you should, but i am heading over there for a coldplay concert with her this august ) and it does actually work out that its more beneficial to have me in her life and commit to the relationship, i will obviously hold on. but if not, if she still claims she doesnt have the time or energy to devote to even her friends or social life, let alone a freakin long distance relationship, then i mean, there is nothing left i can do.... i may just have to let her go, as heartbreaking as that sounds... though if she found someone there with similar interests and whatnot, and i start seeing pictures of them together or snap chats or anything, then i would probably actually break-down, like, seriously break down... i would not have the motivation to do anything and i would be so, truly devastated that it would eat me from the inside out. I kind of feel like letting go of her now, but it just seems impossible, i don;t want to let her go, though i feel it is actually the best decision, i just love her so much... she's different from any person ive ever met. And also, i want to go to the concert with her and hold her in my arms while we listen to the very songs that brought us together, live, and just have probably the most magical night of my entire lifetime... but she seems very intent on 'taking a break' for now, which is seriously what she needs, she doesn't need all this emotional stress but i find it extremely hard not talking to her and have her not talk to me back.... it's killing me inside.
There is one thing in common that we both want... a life together... but for the meanwhile it's proven almost impossible to the sheer fact that she has years of studying and career establishment left, and i want to be a part of all that, comforting her after long nights and being there for her when she feels like shes going nowhere. but i also need to get some life goals of my own out of the way if theres a chance of us living together in the future. If worst case scenario happens and i have to let her go for a while after august, should i still remain friends even if we are taking a 'break'? because i really want to, but the prospect of her being with someone else would completely destroy me inside... and i think thats likely to happen in a 15 year timeframe....
im just really lost and battling sever mood swings, like one moment ill be super happy and thinking it will all be ok, shes just busy and stressed, shell message me soon, its going to work out blah blah, and then 15 mins later ill have tears flowing down my cheeks listening to a coldplay song that came on shuffle and think my life is over because i can't have the one girl ive always dreamed of....
After presenting her with the comment someone made about "is she doesn't have time now, she'll never have time for you, except for maybe 15-20 years down the road once she's settled down. But if when you visit her, she finds that she does actually have the time and that having you is beneficial to her well-being and study then it will work out" because, i don't see waiting 15-20 years very plausible... but i would do it if there was promise or sanctity of marriage/life together, 100%
The fact is, if i go over in August for this concert (if you didnt read my previous post, you should, but i am heading over there for a coldplay concert with her this august ) and it does actually work out that its more beneficial to have me in her life and commit to the relationship, i will obviously hold on. but if not, if she still claims she doesnt have the time or energy to devote to even her friends or social life, let alone a freakin long distance relationship, then i mean, there is nothing left i can do.... i may just have to let her go, as heartbreaking as that sounds... though if she found someone there with similar interests and whatnot, and i start seeing pictures of them together or snap chats or anything, then i would probably actually break-down, like, seriously break down... i would not have the motivation to do anything and i would be so, truly devastated that it would eat me from the inside out. I kind of feel like letting go of her now, but it just seems impossible, i don;t want to let her go, though i feel it is actually the best decision, i just love her so much... she's different from any person ive ever met. And also, i want to go to the concert with her and hold her in my arms while we listen to the very songs that brought us together, live, and just have probably the most magical night of my entire lifetime... but she seems very intent on 'taking a break' for now, which is seriously what she needs, she doesn't need all this emotional stress but i find it extremely hard not talking to her and have her not talk to me back.... it's killing me inside.
There is one thing in common that we both want... a life together... but for the meanwhile it's proven almost impossible to the sheer fact that she has years of studying and career establishment left, and i want to be a part of all that, comforting her after long nights and being there for her when she feels like shes going nowhere. but i also need to get some life goals of my own out of the way if theres a chance of us living together in the future. If worst case scenario happens and i have to let her go for a while after august, should i still remain friends even if we are taking a 'break'? because i really want to, but the prospect of her being with someone else would completely destroy me inside... and i think thats likely to happen in a 15 year timeframe....
im just really lost and battling sever mood swings, like one moment ill be super happy and thinking it will all be ok, shes just busy and stressed, shell message me soon, its going to work out blah blah, and then 15 mins later ill have tears flowing down my cheeks listening to a coldplay song that came on shuffle and think my life is over because i can't have the one girl ive always dreamed of....
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