Hello everyone!
I'm new to LDRs and I do need some help
I'm a 19 y.o girl, a first year college student. I've been friends with this guy I met on a RP since last May and we got super close starting from December, we were texting everyday and had a few phone calls; and that was when I found out that I actually had a big crush on him. I didn't say anything cuz I was worried I would lose my friend (I know, that was stupid) but hopefully he was braver and told me he has feelings for me this January and everything just went super fast after that.
We already did get our share of hard moments as well, but I think things are getting better and much more serious.
The thing is that... he was actually the one helping me to hold on to the relationship and not giving up... but now I'm worried that if ever something like what happened happens again, or if he ever wants to breakup (my last relationship was a mess and I'm always worried about breakups) I wouldn't be able to hold onto him or anything like "fight for him" and stuff like that... At least not for the moment
So my questions are :
- How can I stop worrying about this? And should I tell him about that? Is it bad that I'm too scared and not ready to fight for this relationship yet?
- I know 3 months are quite short, but isn't it also too short for conflicts as well?
(It wasn't really a conflict, it was about one of the girls he used to know that he planned to visit two weeks ago ; but I've been feeling really unsecure since then.)
- And finally, he said he'll be visiting this summer and I want to help out with organizing and stuff... how can I bring it up again and ask if I can help him? And... that wouldn't sound too clingy or needy, right?
I'm new to LDRs and I do need some help
I'm a 19 y.o girl, a first year college student. I've been friends with this guy I met on a RP since last May and we got super close starting from December, we were texting everyday and had a few phone calls; and that was when I found out that I actually had a big crush on him. I didn't say anything cuz I was worried I would lose my friend (I know, that was stupid) but hopefully he was braver and told me he has feelings for me this January and everything just went super fast after that.
We already did get our share of hard moments as well, but I think things are getting better and much more serious.
The thing is that... he was actually the one helping me to hold on to the relationship and not giving up... but now I'm worried that if ever something like what happened happens again, or if he ever wants to breakup (my last relationship was a mess and I'm always worried about breakups) I wouldn't be able to hold onto him or anything like "fight for him" and stuff like that... At least not for the moment
So my questions are :
- How can I stop worrying about this? And should I tell him about that? Is it bad that I'm too scared and not ready to fight for this relationship yet?
- I know 3 months are quite short, but isn't it also too short for conflicts as well?
(It wasn't really a conflict, it was about one of the girls he used to know that he planned to visit two weeks ago ; but I've been feeling really unsecure since then.)
- And finally, he said he'll be visiting this summer and I want to help out with organizing and stuff... how can I bring it up again and ask if I can help him? And... that wouldn't sound too clingy or needy, right?
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