Hi all! It's my first time posting here so I apologize if I've made any mistakes.
I met my boyfriend in the same high school last year, he came here to learn English and we started dating around the end of the last year. But he had to go back to Korea because he wanted to study in his country again. We decided that we would hold onto this relationship because we really felt a connection and loved our relationship.
We only dated for 2 months before he left, and we've now been doing 4 months of LDR. It's being going up and down as expected, but we've always managed to solve our problems and we've been okay again. We both established that we would like to be apart of each other's futures so he's made it clear that I'm very important to him.
However recently, he's been going to institute where he comes home around 5pm. On top of this, he has a separate batch of exams that he has to study for, unrelated to to what he's studying at the institute. He does not want to do these exams but his mother is pressuring him to do them, so he's been feeling stressed about this.
He therefore has to study a lot. We used to talk a lot, but it's now shortened to about an hour or so every day. He doesn't message me throughout the day but instead we have a call before the day ends. But now these calls are too short for my liking. The past 2 days we didn't talk because we got into a fight, so on the third day we talked, and he wasn't very happy in the call even though I tried to make him feel better. I know I can't expect him to be feeling great, but that bummed me out. He then tried to leave about an hour and thirty minutes later because he said he needed to rest, study and then sleep-- which made me quite upset because we had barely talked the past two days. I unfairly got angry over this and we had a fight before we left.
I felt bad about this, so I sent him some messages and apologized for my reaction. He apologized too and we talked it out and then he said he has to sleep. I asked him to stay for a few minutes (because I was still feeling lonely and sad about our situation) and he said "No, sorry" and this hurt me-- I couldn't understand how sacrificing a few minutes of sleep would then affect his entire day?
So here I am posting about your advice. I'm trying to be mature about this, but at times it's quite hard not to feel upset. I have to study too and I have my own responsibilities too, but I would always want to make time for him. How do you deal with your partner being busy? And do you think I'm overreacting and being immature? Honesty would be appreciated.
Also very sorry that this is so long! Just feeling a lot of emotions right now
I met my boyfriend in the same high school last year, he came here to learn English and we started dating around the end of the last year. But he had to go back to Korea because he wanted to study in his country again. We decided that we would hold onto this relationship because we really felt a connection and loved our relationship.
We only dated for 2 months before he left, and we've now been doing 4 months of LDR. It's being going up and down as expected, but we've always managed to solve our problems and we've been okay again. We both established that we would like to be apart of each other's futures so he's made it clear that I'm very important to him.
However recently, he's been going to institute where he comes home around 5pm. On top of this, he has a separate batch of exams that he has to study for, unrelated to to what he's studying at the institute. He does not want to do these exams but his mother is pressuring him to do them, so he's been feeling stressed about this.
He therefore has to study a lot. We used to talk a lot, but it's now shortened to about an hour or so every day. He doesn't message me throughout the day but instead we have a call before the day ends. But now these calls are too short for my liking. The past 2 days we didn't talk because we got into a fight, so on the third day we talked, and he wasn't very happy in the call even though I tried to make him feel better. I know I can't expect him to be feeling great, but that bummed me out. He then tried to leave about an hour and thirty minutes later because he said he needed to rest, study and then sleep-- which made me quite upset because we had barely talked the past two days. I unfairly got angry over this and we had a fight before we left.
I felt bad about this, so I sent him some messages and apologized for my reaction. He apologized too and we talked it out and then he said he has to sleep. I asked him to stay for a few minutes (because I was still feeling lonely and sad about our situation) and he said "No, sorry" and this hurt me-- I couldn't understand how sacrificing a few minutes of sleep would then affect his entire day?
So here I am posting about your advice. I'm trying to be mature about this, but at times it's quite hard not to feel upset. I have to study too and I have my own responsibilities too, but I would always want to make time for him. How do you deal with your partner being busy? And do you think I'm overreacting and being immature? Honesty would be appreciated.
Also very sorry that this is so long! Just feeling a lot of emotions right now
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