Hello all,
I'm new to this forum and here's my situation: I'm on the east coast of the U.S. and my SO is in the UK. We met online back in January and quickly fell head over heels for each other. We've managed to meet three times already, with three more visits planned over the next four months. We text throughout the day and Skype every night. We also do many of the recommended things for LDR couples: playing online games together, watching movies, and often just being online while we do our own thing. All good, right? I'm finding that the absence - despite everything we are doing right - is giving me great anxiety. I nearly always have this unsettled feeling in the pit of my stomach, have difficulty concentrating and often wake up during the night thinking about how long we'll be LDR before closing the gap. It's far too early for that decision, but I find that I'm often bringing it up for discussion because it's kind of like the elephant in the room and cannot be avoided. I find that these serious issues need be addressed early on - since we are both getting more and more invested in the relationship. My SO has agreed that a move to the U.S. is not an issue of "if" but more an issue of "when." Despite those words of assurance, but brain screams: WHEN? It's difficult to enjoy each others' company online when these thoughts weigh heavily on me. I'm constantly wondering whether I can "do this." I could go on and on, but I'd appreciate any feedback from folks that deal with this real pain on a daily basis due to a separation and no knowing when/if the distance gap will be bridged.
-Chuck from Philadelphia, PA
I'm new to this forum and here's my situation: I'm on the east coast of the U.S. and my SO is in the UK. We met online back in January and quickly fell head over heels for each other. We've managed to meet three times already, with three more visits planned over the next four months. We text throughout the day and Skype every night. We also do many of the recommended things for LDR couples: playing online games together, watching movies, and often just being online while we do our own thing. All good, right? I'm finding that the absence - despite everything we are doing right - is giving me great anxiety. I nearly always have this unsettled feeling in the pit of my stomach, have difficulty concentrating and often wake up during the night thinking about how long we'll be LDR before closing the gap. It's far too early for that decision, but I find that I'm often bringing it up for discussion because it's kind of like the elephant in the room and cannot be avoided. I find that these serious issues need be addressed early on - since we are both getting more and more invested in the relationship. My SO has agreed that a move to the U.S. is not an issue of "if" but more an issue of "when." Despite those words of assurance, but brain screams: WHEN? It's difficult to enjoy each others' company online when these thoughts weigh heavily on me. I'm constantly wondering whether I can "do this." I could go on and on, but I'd appreciate any feedback from folks that deal with this real pain on a daily basis due to a separation and no knowing when/if the distance gap will be bridged.
-Chuck from Philadelphia, PA
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