So, I know I'm not ready for a proposal (we've been together 9 months), but after my SO made a comment about marriage, I can't help but think about it.
When I'm ready, I know I'd want to propose with a "placeholder" ring. Not a true engagement ring, just something "for now" until she helps me choose something she will love. Basically, something nice enough to wear all the time for a few months, and that she might wear on another finger later if she wanted, but inexpensive enough that I won't care much if it sits in a box forever once she has her "real" ring.
Is it crazy to start looking for this "placeholder" ring now? We're in an awkward spot in the relationship now where a non-LDR couple might be looking at steps to move in together...but because of the distance, there's no possibility of a gradual shift. And yeah, together 9 months, but we've spent 3 weeks together in person. It's this difference that is weird to me...like, 9 months is pretty serious, but it still feels new sometimes because I don't get to hold her on a regular basis, y'know? But the minute I'm there with her, it's as if I'd never left, so... Sorry, that long ramble is why I'm not ready to actually propose. But, at 35, this is the first time I've ever felt like she is "the one." I've been married twice before, and didn't feel this way about them. Obviously, life happens, and maybe we'll never be able to close the distance, maybe something will happen and it just will never work out, but as of right now, I see my future with her. Idk why I feel a drive to buy a physical representation of that, but it's on my mind every day. Even if I won't give it to her for another 9 months (or whenever). Is that weird? Lol
Sorry, long ramble, looking more for conversation than specific answers, if that makes sense.
When I'm ready, I know I'd want to propose with a "placeholder" ring. Not a true engagement ring, just something "for now" until she helps me choose something she will love. Basically, something nice enough to wear all the time for a few months, and that she might wear on another finger later if she wanted, but inexpensive enough that I won't care much if it sits in a box forever once she has her "real" ring.
Is it crazy to start looking for this "placeholder" ring now? We're in an awkward spot in the relationship now where a non-LDR couple might be looking at steps to move in together...but because of the distance, there's no possibility of a gradual shift. And yeah, together 9 months, but we've spent 3 weeks together in person. It's this difference that is weird to me...like, 9 months is pretty serious, but it still feels new sometimes because I don't get to hold her on a regular basis, y'know? But the minute I'm there with her, it's as if I'd never left, so... Sorry, that long ramble is why I'm not ready to actually propose. But, at 35, this is the first time I've ever felt like she is "the one." I've been married twice before, and didn't feel this way about them. Obviously, life happens, and maybe we'll never be able to close the distance, maybe something will happen and it just will never work out, but as of right now, I see my future with her. Idk why I feel a drive to buy a physical representation of that, but it's on my mind every day. Even if I won't give it to her for another 9 months (or whenever). Is that weird? Lol
Sorry, long ramble, looking more for conversation than specific answers, if that makes sense.
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