Hi everyone.
me and my boyfriend live in different countries. We are hoping to get married so we can finally be together. I am currently living with him (for past 5 months). I love him so much and i swear we have the best relationship. I have always had trust issues but with him all of that went away. he made sure i had his trust always in any way possible. i have never not trusted him even being in other countries. I know he loves me so much, he appreciates everything and shows me all his love. I also know there are some cultural differences we struggle with. We went from never seeing each other to spending every second together so i can understand when he needs his space. i give him plenty of times to go out drinking with friends. no rules no curfew no questions because i trust him. however, the last few weekends when he was supposed to be going to school, he lied and went out with friends. the problem is not that he went out but why did he lie?? he specifically made plans and then ditched school to hang out all day and all night without me. i know he lied but he thinks he got away with it. i’m not sure what to do?? everyone i have to talk to will say leave him but i feel like that is dramatic. When i confront him when he is in the wrong he gets defensive and always turns it around on me and makes it my fault. i would rather just stay happy and in love but i also don’t want him to think he is getting away with lying. what should i do?? i need help and advice. my mind is jumping to all worst possible conclusions. did he cheat? why doesn’t he want me to go? has he lied about other things ? i think he will end this for accusing him...but i know for a fact he lied so i don’t know what to do. part of me wants to pack my bags and hop on the next plane leaving a note asking why i deserve to be lied to? but i know he will be fine with me. for as much as he loves me he doesn’t seem to have as hard of a time as i do with separating. (maybe just wants to seem manly) when i say all these things i make him seem bad but he’s perfect. why is he lying all of a sudden??
me and my boyfriend live in different countries. We are hoping to get married so we can finally be together. I am currently living with him (for past 5 months). I love him so much and i swear we have the best relationship. I have always had trust issues but with him all of that went away. he made sure i had his trust always in any way possible. i have never not trusted him even being in other countries. I know he loves me so much, he appreciates everything and shows me all his love. I also know there are some cultural differences we struggle with. We went from never seeing each other to spending every second together so i can understand when he needs his space. i give him plenty of times to go out drinking with friends. no rules no curfew no questions because i trust him. however, the last few weekends when he was supposed to be going to school, he lied and went out with friends. the problem is not that he went out but why did he lie?? he specifically made plans and then ditched school to hang out all day and all night without me. i know he lied but he thinks he got away with it. i’m not sure what to do?? everyone i have to talk to will say leave him but i feel like that is dramatic. When i confront him when he is in the wrong he gets defensive and always turns it around on me and makes it my fault. i would rather just stay happy and in love but i also don’t want him to think he is getting away with lying. what should i do?? i need help and advice. my mind is jumping to all worst possible conclusions. did he cheat? why doesn’t he want me to go? has he lied about other things ? i think he will end this for accusing him...but i know for a fact he lied so i don’t know what to do. part of me wants to pack my bags and hop on the next plane leaving a note asking why i deserve to be lied to? but i know he will be fine with me. for as much as he loves me he doesn’t seem to have as hard of a time as i do with separating. (maybe just wants to seem manly) when i say all these things i make him seem bad but he’s perfect. why is he lying all of a sudden??
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