My SO and I met (and were together for a little over a year) before he moved away. He didn't go too far but it's still too costly (I only work a part time retail job and I have bills to pay) to drive there all the time. It's about a 45 minute drive, plus food for the weekend (because he eats the dorm food), parking is $10 a stay, etc. It can get expensive to go there too much so we try to limit it to once every two weeks. I am blessed that we get to see each other that often but I believe that it is still difficult. He is Trans as well and so that adds a new level of difficulty to the playing field. Trans relationships are hard in general but a LDTR can be even more so.
The problem I'm having is that my friend is in a military LDR and she is done with me. She always posts on social media sites that military LDR's are the hardest out of them all, that nobody can possibly understand what she is going through, and that anybody complains about not seeing their SO for two weeks are petty and stupid. I understand her frustrations and what she's going through. I didn't even tell her I was in a relationship (I got in one right around the time her boyfriend left) for the first few months because I didn't want to depress her. Now if I post something about missing him or about an LDR being hard, she counter posts something right after me saying that military LDR's are harder. She has tons of online support and support from friends in real life that are going through the same thing. I do not know a single person dating a trans person, and I've tried to reach out but I haven't found anything yet. I guess I'm just frustrated because I want her to see that all relationships have struggles and hardships, and she shouldn't be trivializing other people's LDR's just because hers is military. I tried to be there as a friend but clearly "I don't understand and only her online friends understand", and then she dismissed the fact that my relationship has any distance at all. She's literally stopped hanging out with me.
I've tried talking to her about how I got offended by a few of her posts and she said she didn't want to hear it. We've been friends for 5 years so I'm pretty upset. What do I do? Has anybody else been in a trans relationship?
The problem I'm having is that my friend is in a military LDR and she is done with me. She always posts on social media sites that military LDR's are the hardest out of them all, that nobody can possibly understand what she is going through, and that anybody complains about not seeing their SO for two weeks are petty and stupid. I understand her frustrations and what she's going through. I didn't even tell her I was in a relationship (I got in one right around the time her boyfriend left) for the first few months because I didn't want to depress her. Now if I post something about missing him or about an LDR being hard, she counter posts something right after me saying that military LDR's are harder. She has tons of online support and support from friends in real life that are going through the same thing. I do not know a single person dating a trans person, and I've tried to reach out but I haven't found anything yet. I guess I'm just frustrated because I want her to see that all relationships have struggles and hardships, and she shouldn't be trivializing other people's LDR's just because hers is military. I tried to be there as a friend but clearly "I don't understand and only her online friends understand", and then she dismissed the fact that my relationship has any distance at all. She's literally stopped hanging out with me.
I've tried talking to her about how I got offended by a few of her posts and she said she didn't want to hear it. We've been friends for 5 years so I'm pretty upset. What do I do? Has anybody else been in a trans relationship?
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