So my boyfrinend and I have been together four years CD 3 LD 1.
He has mentioned in the past doing some branch of military ( US btw ) he isnt sure what to do he is really struggeling with his living situation. He mentiond possibly doing Air force or something so the military would pay for college. Now let me be very clear on this ive never wantnted a military man for fear of losing them in war.... However ive been with him too long to back out if he decides this is what he wants. So I do support his choice Hes had it rough and this may help him.
We have been planning to close the distance Soon. I told him to talk to his doctor see if school gets any better than if not we could discuss other options he has. He doesnt want to drop out of college. But he isnt sure what to do his living situation on job corps is ver abusive emotionally for him.
And job corps rules as far as crefew goes wont allow him a job with decent hours.
Now im trying to stick to the positive on this. If he joins the military, free school/ housing and money. So he will beet.
However we will be long distance. And unless we got married we wouldnt be able to live together on base. I DONT WANT AND WILL NOT rush a marriage
. I had a friend do this so she could live with her now spouce and stay with him after his Basic. And she felt she didnt get the wedding she wanted... And she Also cheated on him while he was away. ( whole other story. ) im not saying I would do the same. I would never hurt someone that way.
I just dont want to have him rush marriage hell we arent even engaged. Im leaving it to him to pop the question when he is ready.
Also ive heard of the military changing people. Like some people come back total assholes and I dont want that to happen with my SO.
I have so many worries with this but I refuse to stand in his way if he decides to do this.
Im scared ill lose the man I love either phyaically as in death or emotionally/mentally as in a personality change.... Can anyone help?
He has mentioned in the past doing some branch of military ( US btw ) he isnt sure what to do he is really struggeling with his living situation. He mentiond possibly doing Air force or something so the military would pay for college. Now let me be very clear on this ive never wantnted a military man for fear of losing them in war.... However ive been with him too long to back out if he decides this is what he wants. So I do support his choice Hes had it rough and this may help him.
We have been planning to close the distance Soon. I told him to talk to his doctor see if school gets any better than if not we could discuss other options he has. He doesnt want to drop out of college. But he isnt sure what to do his living situation on job corps is ver abusive emotionally for him.
And job corps rules as far as crefew goes wont allow him a job with decent hours.
Now im trying to stick to the positive on this. If he joins the military, free school/ housing and money. So he will beet.
However we will be long distance. And unless we got married we wouldnt be able to live together on base. I DONT WANT AND WILL NOT rush a marriage
. I had a friend do this so she could live with her now spouce and stay with him after his Basic. And she felt she didnt get the wedding she wanted... And she Also cheated on him while he was away. ( whole other story. ) im not saying I would do the same. I would never hurt someone that way.
I just dont want to have him rush marriage hell we arent even engaged. Im leaving it to him to pop the question when he is ready.
Also ive heard of the military changing people. Like some people come back total assholes and I dont want that to happen with my SO.
I have so many worries with this but I refuse to stand in his way if he decides to do this.
Im scared ill lose the man I love either phyaically as in death or emotionally/mentally as in a personality change.... Can anyone help?
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