Emotions or rather lack of please help feeling really depressed

[TheSteelAngel]

I am going through the same thing here. My boyfriend is a cop and when we first started talking he was all romantic and cute and sweet and everything. Then when we became official things started to cool off. He wasn't as sweet as he used to be and he doesn't say I love you unless I say it first. It sucks but I'll say that it's pretty much normal. Just take it as the end of the honeymoon phase. They are different with each relationship and him being in the military can be a factor.

[madamerouge]

He has always been stationed there we have only physically been together 2 weeks out of our relationship. He seems to have emotionally shut down for the most part just isn't romantic anymore always wanted to talk about our future now doesn't would want me to stay on the phone with him when he was sleeping because it helped him now its I don't know if it helps I am sleeping stuff like that.

[Unconditional]

Like, how exactly has he changed? Did he used to call you every day or text and now he just doesn't? Has he always been stationed in germany?

[madamerouge]

What do you feel like is missing and I will do my best to answer.

[Unconditional]

I feel like we don't have enough details- almost as if something is missing that would help me advise on this question.
That being said, he may have a hard time coping going from being together to all of a sudden not being together.
I can't say for sure if in being in the military is necessarily the reason even though it is a possibility, I am going to say no because i don't really know him at all and i don't really feel like we have all the details.
Edit: i have to agree with whatruckus it does seem a bit rushed, and many times guys get bored easily with women- they are not looking for a serious relationship. But sometimes, the feeling of emotion-less-ness comes as a factor of them being in the military, it really is hard to say.

[whatruckus]

To me, it seems like you guys rushed into everything so quickly. I don't want to say that he got bored fast, but for some guys, they like that chase. It does seem that the honeymoon phase is over for him, but it's pretty early for that to happen. Did something maybe happen when he went back? Also, if you don't say anything to him about it, he's not going to know how you feel and he'll keep continuing doing what he's doing.

[madamerouge]

My boyfriend and I have been together 4 months. We met on skype through a mutual friend. We met January 8th got together on the 15th for me 16th for him and he told me he loved me on the 22nd. Everything was amazing he was super sweet and romantic and that continued even when he came to meet me in person on April 9th. He was here two weeks it was amazing we were both so happy he didn't want to leave my side for anything. April 22nd he went back to Germany and that day everything change he stopped telling me he loved me unless I said it first no longer was romantic even went so far as to say been there done that am bored of it. I expected things to not be so mushy gushy with the honeymoon phase being over but not to completely stop in a 24 hour period. I guess my question is, is this normal? Some have told me yes others say he is cheating and I just don't know. Its breaking my heart not knowing why but don't want to say anything in fear of making it worse.