Tell me about your long distance relationships ! :)

[corrda00]

We met at christmas time last year. She met one of my childhood friends and uni and we all lived in the same city. I was dating someone else at the time so I didn't really think much of it.

It wasn't until this summer when I was single again did I realize I had feelings for her. After a couple months of flirting I made a trip to go visit her and that was that

[Mine13]

I met my SO in summer 2011, when my parents decided to visit their good friends who live on the other side of the country. We had a great time and became something like best friends. What I didn't know: He fell in love with me on the very first day. It was kind of weird how I never thought of him that way. We really wanted to keep in touch, so we skyped a lot. We met again around Christmas 2011 and it was amazing.
In summer 2012, I finally realized how much he really means to me. It was a beautiful day, the sun was shining and we went to the beach. In the evening, we looked at the stars and had a fire in his backyard. To be honest, I don't know why I fell in love with him so suddenly, but there was something incredibly right about the way we were sitting there with a blanket around our bodies, talking and laughing about our past and our possible future. That was a magical and beautiful night. <3
The next time we met was winter 2012 and I felt that something was different. He was'nt as happy as he usually was and he didn't have much to say. When he drove away again, I felt like my world was crashing down on me. I missed him more than ever.
Another thing you need to know is that every single person who has ever seen us together, told me that he was in love with me. Some of them even thought we were a couple already, which was awkward.
One day, I felt like I needed to talk to him about his feelings and my feelings and pretty much everything we kept inside all this time. He told me that he's been in love with me, but now there was another girl he fell in love with. She didn't treat him well and hurt him, but he still had feelings for her. I cried a lot when I heard about that and he didn't even talk to me for quite some time. I felt like I wasn't good enough and she was soooo much better. Looking back, I definitly was better than her. A few weeks later, he apologized for everything and we had a long conversation about it. On February 3rd, we finally became a couple.
I'm going to meet him again in 5 days!!! OMG, I'm so excited...

[ladyshadow]

I'm not in an LDR anymore, but I'll share my story anyway x)

I was in an LDR from 6/29/2012-3/2/2013. I live in California and my ex lived in Kentucky. I was 16 at the time and he was 19. I met him on Omegle video chat. I had an attraction to him, but figured that he didn't feel the same way about me. I was going to get to know him first and then try to go for an LDR, but he ended up asking me out a few days after we met! So no time was wasted at all haha. Like the beginning of every relationship, it was all great and lovey dovey. Him and I would talk and text everyday and would Skype as often as we could. I thought this was the best thing to ever happen to me. I got with him during the summer so I had a great amount time to talk to him during the beginning of our relationship. Then school started so no more of talking with him throughout the entire day, but school starting was also exciting because it was the beginning of my Senior year of high school.

My ex and I moved rather fast. In the first month we were already talking about living together, but I would be the one that would have to move. He didn't have the money to move and live in California. Still in the honeymoon phase of the relationship, I thought that was a good idea and started making plans to go be with him. I applied to colleges in Kentucky, but didn't even consider applying to schools in California. My dad would pester me and ask me if I have applied to any colleges. I never told him about applying to schools in Kentucky because he would want to know why I have a sudden interest in that state and I did not want to tell him about my LDR. My dad had a say about my college choices since he would be paying my tuition then I realized that if I wanted to go to college in Kentucky I would have to get my own money, but the issue was how I was going to gather enough money to pay for 4 years worth of college tuition. I joined websites such as Cappex and Fastweb and would be on the computer for hours looking for scholarships and printed multiple scholarship applications (I never even finished any of those applications anyways) I would get headaches from looking at my laptop screen for hours and would stress about how I would get the money.

I couldn't just wait until I was 18 because my birthday is in September and the Fall year started in August so just waiting until I was 18, then leaving wasn't an option.

Since I was setting myself up to go to Kentucky, it made it look like I had no sense of direction to my parents since I kept the relationship a secret from them. Another plan I was going to go with to stay at home for another two years then transfer to a college in Kentucky. I really didn't want to stay home though because then it would mean two more years with my parents (ugh!) plus it meant two more years of long distance.

I remember dealing with those times where he took forever to text back and me getting sad about it. Getting exciting when I got a text hoping that it was from him and getting disappointed if it wasn't. I started neglecting my friends because I would get upset if it was them who texted me and not him. Whenever a friend texted me I would either not reply or only text them for a little bit then ignore them.

I eventually told my mother about my LDR. She would say negative stuff about it, but I would always brush it off.

Eventually our relationship started to go downhill in February. He started working 12 hours and I was involved in a play. He would get off work at 7:30 p.m. (4:30 p.m. my time) and he would call me, but I would be unable to answer because I was at my rehearsals. At rehearsals I was always checking my phone and sad to see that he hadn't contacted me. I thought that he could at least text me because I was able to do that. I wasn't focused on my play and was always depressed at rehearsal because I wished that I could've been able to talk to him instead of being at rehearsal.

I would tell him about how I felt like I wasn't important to him anymore and that we were drifting apart, at first he would tell me that I was important and blah blah blah, but after a while he stopped doing that too. It got to the point to where I was lucky if he replied to me once or twice. Valentines day was depressing because the relationship was already dwindling. I tried breaking up with him once in February, but I changed my mind because I still loved him.

And one time in one of my classes my teacher was talking about how technology ruins people and made a comment about having a boyfriend/girlfriend that you met online and how it was kind of sad if you haven't met them in person. Everyone in the class except me laughed. The girl who sits next to me (who knows about my LDR because one day in class my friend asked me if I was going to get anything for my boyfriend on Valentine's Day and the girl was like "You have a boyfriend?" and I said "Yeah but he lives in Kentucky" so that's how this girl knows) turned and looked at me, but I looked away and then she asked if I met my boyfriend in person and I said no, but I have seen him on Skype numerous times, but I think she laughed when I said that. I'm not sure because I looked away. No one else heard though, but I was so upset after that. I'm not mad at the teacher though because wasn't her comment wasn't aimed at me, but I wouldn't have been upset if the girl hadn't said anything. I was so upset about that so I texted my boyfriend telling what happened. He was at work when I texted him so I didn't expect him to reply right away, but I didn't end up hearing from him for the rest of the day. That night at rehearsal I sent him a text saying "I feel like I'm not important. If you don't care/love me anymore just tell me." I didn't hear from him at all the next day. I didn't text him the next day because I wanted to see if he would text me, but he didn't (but there had been days during our relationship where I wouldn't hear from him for a day or two so I don't know if it was just one of those days.) I didn't tried not to let it bother me because I was going to Youth Winter Camp for the weekend and wanted to make sure that I had fun. The next morning he sent me a text saying that he agreed that we drifted apart and that we should just be friends. At first I was sad, but I ended up getting over it.

Right after that happened I wanted to get rid of everything I had that was related to him. I deleted his number and the picture of him I had in my phone. I called my sister and asked her if she could change my relationship status to single and to unfriend my ex. I couldn't go on Facebook myself because I was still at camp and didn't have a phone that can go on the internet. So my sister did what I asked her to do. And the night of our breakup I made out with one of the guys in my Youth Group (Don't judge me -__-)

Luckily I still had time to apply to colleges in California. I got accepted to two of them (La Sierra University and Vanguard University of Southern California). I got financial aid from both schools, but Vanguard ended up giving me more financial aid ($18,000) so I will be attending that school this fall plus I'll be living on campus so I'll get to get away from my parents after all (yay!). I am glad that I still had enough time after my ex and I broke up to get my act together and now my parents can breathe because they know I have a sense of direction.

To be honest, I will never do long distance again and will try at all cost to avoid it. I'm not talking badly about LDRs, but I'm what I'm saying is that knowing how it is and all the heartache involved, I just wouldn't want to go through that again. I just don't have the capability to deal with it again. So never again, but I give props to the people who are still in an LDR.

Well that's my LDR story. Sorry if it was so long and will be surprised if you had the patience to sit and read this whole thing because I barely had the patience to sit and type this haha. Well I wish the best of luck to all the LDR couples out there because I know the work that goes into an LDR. May God bless your LDR!

[PlaguesLullaby]

I met my SO years ago .. when was about 13 , I joined a clan for call of duty 4 on xboxlive. We never talked much back then .. and I lefted the clan a few months later. After those years passed I found my old clan leader online and I ran into my SO , we started talking, I got him to get black ops 2 and it was instant chemistry ! we talked about our love for games , his friends kept asking me if I liked him and I kept telling them yes. He finally asked me out and its been co-op gaming ever since ♥ lol

[Karoshi]

My story is similar to the one above me x) We first met about 3 years ago in WoW guild. We both had our regular relationships back then - he and his ex were even engaged. We talked a little, but nothing big, I never had any feelings for him. Then he stopped playing and we lost contact completely, but about 3 months ago he started with the game again and we started talking. I broke up with my boyfriend about a year ago and I found out that he and his fiancé are also not together anymore - she cheated on him and left him. He was really down and needed help, and I was there for him. As we talked almost 24/7, I soon started to have feelings for him and also did he. We are now happily together <3

[Nova7]

It's funny, my story is also similar to the two above! Me and my SO met in an online mmorpg spring of 2011 when I was recruited into a guild which he helped manage. We didn't talk at all at first, in fact he never talked to anyone. A couple months into playing the game the guild leader set up a group voice chat on a program called raid call. That was the first time I ever heard my SO's voice, and the first time he ever even attempted to talk to me. From that day on we talked more and more, eventually all the closer guild members all exchanged Facebook profiles (me included). Me and my partner then began to chat over Facebook. Now I lost my mother October of 2009, so Mother's Day is a hard holiday for me, when my SO noticed how disoriented I was Mother's Day of 2012 he wanted to cheer me up, and so he skyped me for the first time. Since then we have become inseparable, I cried in front of him, and I never cry in front of people, we became a couple in July of 2012. There is something in our connection I cannot explain, but I wouldn't want it any other way.

[TooFarAway]

Ayyyyyy we met on a MMORPG too <3
Our story is pretty funny, since we absolutely hated each other at first. We were rivals on the game x)

Well, long story short, some friends and me were playing and one friend decided to invite this guy(My boo<3). We started the battle and I totally kicked this guy's ass ok. Like utterly defeated. >;D (*highfive* to all pro gamer girlsss yea yeaaa).
He got mad (obviously because he got his ass kicked by girl mwahahaha). He raged and kept talked sh*t. So I talked sh*t back and it just became like a fricken' action movie with cool action quotes and comebacks and everything.

Unfortunately, he like beat me once (OK LISTEN HE CHEATED I SWEAR- using noob tactics on me, how dare you?!)
And once you win you can like kick other players out of the game room, and so he kicked me out (Ye I know right, he's realllllll mature).
That was our first meeting ;D

My friend tried to get us to make up and be friends -.- I was like uhm no. Apparently, he told me that he was "sorry." (Obviously a lie) But I was dragged back into a battle with him anyway.

This time though we were just trolling each other on the game lololol. Then our arguments started having subtle flirting. Pretty cute right? xD (When me and my baby talk about the day we first met the thing that attracted him was my witty bitchy-ness lmao. I guess what attracted me to him was that too- his witty asshole-ness).

Blehhh I still hated him but out of the blue he asked me out on the game (I didn't see it coming....seriously). Of course I rejected him. Straight-up rejected him.
Listen, for all you girls that play MMORPG games you feel my pain. Random guy players will always ask you out of the blue and you're gonna be like "what the f*ck man, I just met you, calm your d*ck and leave me alone please." I also told him I thought online relationships were stupid (Like I was seriously an anti-online relationship advocate)

I felt something different with him though, but I chose to ignore it and brush him off anyway (which I regret doing oh my goodness I could have been together four months earlier with this amazing guy). We still continued to talk and play together on the game competitively. Exchanged msn's too. etc. etc. We became good friends.

~There's a lot of extra events that happened during that four month period, from a pedophile to whorish women online to jealousy to a huge amount of heart pain and tears- but that's too much to mention here~

But he never gave up on me...He waited for me to return his feelings.
And finally I came to like him after four months...Well, actually fall crazy in love with him ...head over heels in love with him. (Like...that's a big deal xD *repeats* I seriously HATED online relationships with a passion). I'm just so happy that he didn't give up on me >_<

~And then more bullcrap happens to us. Like seriously we're true star-crossed lovers. It's been a beautifully sweet but extremely rocky to this day~

[JulieAndJosh]

I love your story I met my Bf, in June 2010 and he asked me to be his gf very quickly. we were together 6 months before things didnt work out to well.. we recently started talking again and are working out a few things in our own personal life before trying a relationship again. When we met i was 12 and he was 15. Bad ? Now I am 15 he is 18. We plan on closing the distance once hes done with college hes moving to florida (hes in ohio) to get a job and live close to me or possibly together while i get through college.

[AuroraBorealis]

The first time I was ever in contact with the amazing young man who is now my BF was when he commented on my blog (which he later told me he had been following for almost 2 years before picking up the courage to comment!). We both share a nerdy interest in history and love to attend events and reenactments dressed up in historical costume. After a couple of comments it turned out he was going to be attending the same event in the UK that I was in just a few weeks, so we decided to keep our eyes open and see if we could spot each other. And we did. He claims it was love at first sight for him. I certainly liked him very much, but it took a little longer for me to know I was in love. We spent the evening talking, laughing and dancing together at a ball and later that night when it was time to leave he escorted me back to where I was staying (which pleased the romantic in me very much I can tell you!).
A few days later he sent me a message and asked if he could see me again, and we spent a fantastic and memorable day together in London before I flew back to Sweden. That is two years ago now and since that day we have chatted or talked almost every singel day.
He went back to New Zealand soon however, and it was a full year before we could meet again in person. During that time he kept on being amazing and showing me how much he cared for me, and after having been too scared about admitting it (even to myself) I finally realized that I had fallen for him completely.
We met again in September/October last year, spent some incredible days together, and now I cannot wait until I get to see him again!! It's probably going to be at least 2-3 months more until I do and it's so frustrating! But I know when we finally are together it will make up for all this time spent apart!

[princessmaria]

It's funny, my story is also similar to the two above! Me and my SO met in an online mmorpg spring of 2011 when I was recruited into a guild which he helped manage. We didn't talk at all at first, in fact he never talked to anyone. A couple months into playing the game the guild leader set up a group voice chat on a program called raid call. That was the first time I ever heard my SO's voice, and the first time he ever even attempted to talk to me. From that day on we talked more and more, eventually all the closer guild members all exchanged Facebook profiles (me included). Me and my partner then began to chat over Facebook. Now I lost my mother October of 2009, so Mother's Day is a hard holiday for me, when my SO noticed how disoriented I was Mother's Day of 2012 he wanted to cheer me up, and so he skyped me for the first time. Since then we have become inseparable, I cried in front of him, and I never cry in front of people, we became a couple in July of 2012. There is something in our connection I cannot explain, but I wouldn't want it any other way.

This is literally almost the same thing that happened with me. I was playing an MMORPG for the first time ever. He was leader of his guild (I didn't even know what a guild was). I couldn't stand him at first--I thought he was haughty and melodramatic. I joined his guild after a month or so of him haggling me to join it. The guild had a teamspeak set up which lead to us getting closer. We got together in October 2011 (after only about a week of talking). It didn't take long for me to fall in love with all of his irritating charms.

[archjhawk]

I'm in St. Louis and she is in Denver. We met on an online chatroom and have met in person once when she came to St. Louis to visit family. She was able to get away and we had a great hour or two together. I'm heading into my freshman year of college and she will be a senior in high school. We plan to meet in Denver over winter break but we don't have a firm date yet. I really hope we can see each other and we always talk about what it will be like when she picks me up from the airport. I've been saving money from two jobs for months to pay for the hotel and plane ticket. We Skype as often as possible, although it is just voice because she doesn't have a webcam or smart phone with a self facing camera. I love hearing her voice and we text as much as possible. We've promised ourselves to each other and we're getting married after college. I already know how I'm gonna propose to her and the ring design I'll have for her too.

[kane22]

I'm in Australia and she's in Portugal we met last year when i was on a holiday in Malaysia we hit it off straight away it was like love at first sight she was stunning, smart and perfect shes 19 i'm 17 and when we got back to our countries we continued it. We talk on the phone 6 hours a day and thats hard with time zones but it's defiently worth it i have saved up with working after school to see her in 2 months and i couldn't be more excited aftter i finish school i want to study overseas in Europe and be with her. every dad hurts not being with her but i just got to keep studying and working and one day everything will be perfect

[marieseul]

My boyfriend and I are both South Korean adoptees! We met on a two week tour of South Korea which was made for Korean adoptees. I went with my mom and he went with both of his parents. This tour group had only 36 ish people, me being the only teenaged girl and him being one of four teenaged guys. At first, we were super shy around each other, but I always admired from a distance the first three days of the trip. (I later found out he had been doing the same). We're both very into Korean dramas and music, and in one of the places we visited there was a poster for a drama we had both apparently seen. We started talking about it which led to even more conversation after that. On the same day during lunch, he sat next to me and we spoke even more. Eventually, we were inseperable. My mom kept getting mad at me for ditching her to sit next to him on the tour bus... :3 Unfortunately, we didn't have a lot of alone time, so when we held hands on the bus, we had to hide it and the only time we could meet is if we stayed up late and stayed in the lobby or if we ditched everyone (which sounds suspicious... Lol! There were kids and my mom around so... Yeah). We made soo many memories together on that trip. Unfortunately though, he lives in Minnesota and I live in Maryland. Our cities are 1,091.9 miles apart from each other. On the day we all had to go home, I had to leave for the airport at 6:00 am... So he stayed up all night just to say goodbye to me.
It wasn't until after the trip that we made it official. We agreed that a LDR would just have to work because we love each other sooo much. We chose the date of our first kiss to be our anniversary. We text everyday and skype almost every day too (he works weekends). We skype all night a lot and it's so nice waking up to his face...
As of now, we don't really know when we'll see each other next. He might come down and visit during his college's j-term. But I don't want him to spend his money just on a plane ticket... (He is trying to save up to help his parents out with tuition fees) I do know I'm flying to see him next year though, because while we were in Korea, he told me about a Korean culture camp I should go to, and I convinced my mom to let me do it! So yeah. We'll see how it goes.
It's a little late but I'll provide some more background on the situation. He's 18 and I'm 14 (It sounds a lot worse than it actually is. In fact we hardly even notice the age gap.). His parents both know about the relationship and love me. My parents don't.... But they're super suspicious... Lol! My boyfriend and I send each other snail mail a lot too so... Let's see how that goes too. Yep that pretty much sums it up! Sorry it's so long

[alizee]

We are both from Romania, but 310 miles apart (we have the same hometown, which I still live in, but he left it for work, so we are 310 miles apart). I have met him through a relative of his (who gave him my IM adress). So, we started for one week just sending e-mails and then decided on a day to talk on IM. I never thought I could do that - talking to a stranger on the internet (I always thought that internet relationships are stupid!!!), but something made me do it, and I am glad I did!!!! So, our first IM conversation took place on May, 10, 2013, two days before his birthday! Then we continued to talk 4 times a week on IM and I discovered an intelligent, mature, calm, hard working, sincere, active , understanding, smart man! We even discovered we went to the same college together (he*s one year older than me) but never knew each other! After just 3 weeks of talking to him (only on IM) he invited me for a weekend to his town, but I said it would be too early to pay him a visit, because I am not an easy woman and I want something meaningful and serious! He understood me completely and told me to announce him when I am ready and I appreciate and admire him for his attitude. So, now, we are on the phone stage, talking almost daily on the phone and texting from time to time ... at first I was a little mad with his communication rythm (he has a stressful job, spending many hours there and then he gets to the gym and I used to think that I was not important to him, but I just understood that is his way of being, his personality) and now we seem to talk a little more, but I sense that he is not to much of a phone talker. He always tells me when he goes out with his friends, and although I am a little jealous of his friends (I never showed him my jealousy!!!), I appreciate his sincerity. He DID invite me to visit him again 2 weeks ago, but I said I would disturb him, because he is doing some renovation on his house. So, we plan on meeting in September, when he comes home and we can meet face to face!!! I can*t wait and I am excited and fearful at the same time!!!!

[mschmidt81]

Me and my boyfriend met a few years back in middle school, we were friends for a while then in the summer of 2011 he asked me out.. i said no! I don't really remember why, it was probably because i had just gotten out of a relationship. We drifted in 9th grade, didn't talk much. But in 2013 when my boyfriend was his friend we got closer. He had a girlfriend at the time then, too. We had a few classes together and we would talk about our relationship problems, then we ended up texting all the time and hanging out. Soon after my boyfriend dumped me, but he helped me through it. I could tell that he liked me, and I was scared but I liked him too. Him and his girlfriend broke up because they fought too much. Then once the air cleared nothing stood in our way. Except for the fact that at the end of the summer I'd be moving to oregon at the end of the summer. We decided to live for the moment and enjoy the time we had. Then when moving time came we decided why not try long distance! He's spending a week with me for winter break and all of summer 2014. When we graduate his plan is to move out here and go to school by me so we can life happily ever after