So i met this boy online we been talking for 11 months but im not sure if were together or not im kind of scared to ask but i lied my name i feel so bad abt it ,i wish i could just tell him the truth but its to late ,i made a promise to my self not to tell him till we see each other in person ,do u think i should tell him now or wait till we see each other?
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how old are you both?
when are you going to see each other?
and do you think he'll be less angry/sad/disappointed when you tell him in person than when you tell him online?
Relationship began: 05/22/2012
First Met: 03/21/2013 - 03/30/2013
Second Visit: 06/06/2013 - 08/21/2013 ~ Proposal: 07/06/2013 ♥
Third Visit: 10/09/2013 - 01/08/2013
Closed the distance: 11/20/2014 ♥
Married: 1/24/2015
Became Resident: 9/14/2015 -
Im 16 & he is 18 ... Well im not sure maybe next year , i feel like if i tell him online he wont talk to me no more but if i tell him in person he has no where to run and we can talk about itComment
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I would tell him before you meet. Meeting him under a false name would make for an awkward trip having to tell him. Get it out now so that when you meet there will be no tension.Comment
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But what if i tell him now and he doesnt want to talk to me no more?Comment
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I did this with my ex! I thought he was creepy when I first met him (through a wrong number haha) so I lied about my name. After we got close, I told him my real name and we laughed about it. But he continued to call me by my fake name, and now all my friends call me that too. You are just going to have to tell the truth, I hope it's not too late. And DON'T wait any longer!Comment
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Lol your rightComment
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Tell him now. The thing about not being honest is the longer it carries on the harder it becomes to come clean, and the worse the fallout is likely to be when you finally do!Comment
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But im so scared to tell him the truth , i dont want him to think im a lier i lied my first name but not my last nameComment
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You DID lie. You can't get around that now. If he thinks you are a liar, he has every right to. Telling the truth ASAP is your only option. If you continue lying, don't you think he'll think it's much worse?Comment
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I'd let him know why you said what you did, that you didn't lie for the sake of it, but you were wary of internet strangers etc. (I don't mean to put words into your mouth, but you see what I mean). Really, you'll have to tell him the truth at some point; the longer you leave it the more burdensome it will become to keep the whole thing secret and the worse it will look on you. You're always better off getting stuff like this out in the open as soon as you can.Comment
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I go by Claire or Elliotte online. This has meant that when I become fairly close to people, I tell them what my real name is. Even if it likely wouldn't matter if I gave it out in the first place, it's something that I choose not to give out until I've become closer to someone/know that I can trust them or even that we have a friendship that will last. I've been doing this since I was 15, and I so far have yet to have anyone get angry at me for it once I explained my reasoning. While I can't predict how he would react, I do think you have to keep this in perspective. Yes, it's wrong to lie, but it's not like you lied about how you look or where you live or who your friends are; you simply gave him an alias as opposed to your real name. I would tell him before you two have a visit because frankly, you have more of a chance of screwing things up if you tell him when you meet than if you tell him before. One conveys respect and the other conveys desperation, so tell him before you actually solidify your plans.Comment
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I wish i told him earlier i waited too long , but i dont how to bring it up , how to tell him...if i tell him and he doesnt speak to me i will be so depressedComment
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The website we met on was meez i was usin my cousins avatar and the avatar name was brittni so my cousin did not want it anymore so i started usin it and i carried on the name brittni so everyone called me brittni so did he one day we decided to text i was gonna tell him my name isnt really brittni but then i was like there is no point im just talking to him for now its not like we gonna become close and now were very closeComment
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