Hey everyone as you can tell I'm new to the forums. 
So basically here's the deal. Me and my long distance friend (though we're more of best friends at this point)have known each other for four years, but only became very close since August of 2012, and romantically interested around September or October of 2012. We met online through a mutual friend at the time, and we have never seen each other in real life. Anyways, he confessed his feelings to me in late September or early October, and said that now that he really got to know me very personally (before we would talk maybe once every few months because he had a girlfriend) he realized that I was just as beautiful on the inside as I was on the outside.
He asked me to try LDR, but me being cautious of LDR relationships, I said when he came to see me, we would decide then and there. But I told him I had feelings for him as well. We haven't missed a day since then of talking at least via text, and almost every day we call and Skype each other. Since we talked almost 24/7, we did finally reach that stage where we weren't in the super honeymoon stage anymore (even though we haven't dated, but it feels like we have, just not officially). That was I believe during January. He still tells me he feels crazy about me and wants me to live with him ASAP and wants us to be married after we finish school, (however he is in the military right now). We talk(ed) about our life during marriage and children and it sounds perfect, meaning we want the same things.
However end of last month and this entire month, we seem to talk less and less and have close to nothing to talk about. I still feel strongly for him and he talked a lot about being able to visit this or next month, but now he doesn't ever talk about it. Whenever I ask when he's coming, he says he has to get his tax returns first and then plan out leave, but they haven't come yet. He still texts and calls and asks to skype everyday, but he texts maybe 5-10 texts per day because he sends one text maybe once every 1-2 hours, and that's after he gets off work. He'll call me and we talk for maybe 5 minutes now, and then he asks to skype. We used to be crazy and always talk or play video games, but now, all we have really done is talk and show each other funny videos that we talk about. That's on a good day. Recently, he'll get on skype, and then just start watching videos and ignoring me, or playing video games that I don't have with his guy friends. I give him PLENTY of time to simply be with friends and don't ever complain. But now he uses time to be with them during our time. Today, he called me on skype, and talked to me for maybe 4 minutes. I tried to be as lively and talkative, but he got a text from his friends and then said, "Hey can I text you?" That basically meant, his friend asked him to go do something and he isn't going to text me till God knows when.
I feel sad about this. Do you think his feelings for me are fading? Or he's bored with me? He's never hinted at that and seriously acts like he's so seriously into me. He even said he is in love with me multiple times. But lately...not so much. Should I say something? What do you think?
-Kiki
So basically here's the deal. Me and my long distance friend (though we're more of best friends at this point)have known each other for four years, but only became very close since August of 2012, and romantically interested around September or October of 2012. We met online through a mutual friend at the time, and we have never seen each other in real life. Anyways, he confessed his feelings to me in late September or early October, and said that now that he really got to know me very personally (before we would talk maybe once every few months because he had a girlfriend) he realized that I was just as beautiful on the inside as I was on the outside.
He asked me to try LDR, but me being cautious of LDR relationships, I said when he came to see me, we would decide then and there. But I told him I had feelings for him as well. We haven't missed a day since then of talking at least via text, and almost every day we call and Skype each other. Since we talked almost 24/7, we did finally reach that stage where we weren't in the super honeymoon stage anymore (even though we haven't dated, but it feels like we have, just not officially). That was I believe during January. He still tells me he feels crazy about me and wants me to live with him ASAP and wants us to be married after we finish school, (however he is in the military right now). We talk(ed) about our life during marriage and children and it sounds perfect, meaning we want the same things. However end of last month and this entire month, we seem to talk less and less and have close to nothing to talk about. I still feel strongly for him and he talked a lot about being able to visit this or next month, but now he doesn't ever talk about it. Whenever I ask when he's coming, he says he has to get his tax returns first and then plan out leave, but they haven't come yet. He still texts and calls and asks to skype everyday, but he texts maybe 5-10 texts per day because he sends one text maybe once every 1-2 hours, and that's after he gets off work. He'll call me and we talk for maybe 5 minutes now, and then he asks to skype. We used to be crazy and always talk or play video games, but now, all we have really done is talk and show each other funny videos that we talk about. That's on a good day. Recently, he'll get on skype, and then just start watching videos and ignoring me, or playing video games that I don't have with his guy friends. I give him PLENTY of time to simply be with friends and don't ever complain. But now he uses time to be with them during our time. Today, he called me on skype, and talked to me for maybe 4 minutes. I tried to be as lively and talkative, but he got a text from his friends and then said, "Hey can I text you?" That basically meant, his friend asked him to go do something and he isn't going to text me till God knows when.
I feel sad about this. Do you think his feelings for me are fading? Or he's bored with me? He's never hinted at that and seriously acts like he's so seriously into me. He even said he is in love with me multiple times. But lately...not so much. Should I say something? What do you think?
-Kiki
It doesn't relate to feelings at all, but it can sometimes get in the way and sometimes you simply want to do something else. I would, however, recommend talking to him about it. Communication is key and being able to talk to him about things like this is important. 
I wouldn't say you need to worry too much, though. This all sounds pretty normal and what happens to people when they fall out of the lovey dovey phase of things.
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