Teens Questions about how to communicate better

[007manyo]

Hey there, guys and gals. I want to create this thread firstly as a way to ask for ideas on how to make communicating with my SO more easily, and secondly as a place that my fellow teens can reference later on.

So. For my segment: my girlfriend not only refuses to call me on the phone, but also find herself unable to say "I love you" to me. Are there better ways for us to talk via texting and have the same effect?

Now for you guys: post your questions regarding better communication with a seemingly-distant (or literally distant) SO, and try to answer questions others may have! I'll do my best to add my two cents too

[snow_girl]

Maybe she simply isn't at the stage where she does love you yet?

[snow]

Maybe she simply isn't at the stage where she does love you yet?

I do agree with this. It took me about a month before I was able to say that I loved him, give her some time!

[LittleBox]

I take those words very seriously and perhaps she does too. As silly as this sounds, I found myself saying "elephantshoes" (which when you mouth in front of the mirror makes it seem like you're saying "I love you") until I was I able to properly say it.

[007manyo]

Thanks for the suggestions, guys. the only problem is that she used to say "I love you" but now she won't... And like I've said in a previous thread she has called me before but now she refuses to.

[haley]

Thanks for the suggestions, guys. the only problem is that she used to say "I love you" but now she won't... And like I've said in a previous thread she has called me before but now she refuses to.

When you guys talked on the phone were you able to have a conversation, or was it just kind of awkward and silent? So when you say "I love you" she just doesn't say it back?

[Kitty Boo]

Thanks for the suggestions, guys. the only problem is that she used to say "I love you" but now she won't... And like I've said in a previous thread she has called me before but now she refuses to.

I would also say that maybe she just isn't ready yet. Those three little words shouldn't be thrown around. ^_~ As for phone calls, some people just naturally dislike talking on the phone. Perhaps she isn't ready for that yet either. I know I don't like talking on the phone to a lot of people ... I find it quite awkward! But when you say that she used to do these things, but she won't now ... has anything out of the ordinary happened lately? And when you say she refuses to, do you just mean that she hasn't said it lately? Or that she outright refuses? Because I know in the beginning, many people feel almost ... pressured into saying it by their S.O, because they feel like it's a sort of manner thing ... like "Thank you" goes with "You're welcome". So if she is not saying it herself, maybe she is only comfortable saying it if you say it first. As for calling ... do you know what her family situation is like? Perhaps she's keeping it from her family and it's difficult to call? Or maybe she lacks credit on her phone or something?

We could probably come up with a million different possibilities, but the only person that really knows is her. So if possible, I would say that the best answer to your question will come from asking her directly. No topic should be "taboo" in a relationship ... remember communication is key! Anyways, good luck!

[007manyo]

We used to talk before we were in a relationship, but afterward, she outright refuses to call. She used to say "I love you" all the time... But for some reason, now she won't. Its been about a year since she last told me she loved me... But she stays with me anyhow, so I know she still does.