(Extremely long im sorry) Hey everyone, first of all I'd like to explain ny situation. My boyfriend (now ex) and I have been dating for almost 1 year (october 14th would make it one whole year). It wasn't a long distance relationship until a month ago. We both studied in China for some time and my family decided it was time to return to my home country, Canada, so I could go to highschool there. My ex (korean who also happened to be studying in China for 9th grade) wanted to continue the relationship. We promised to meet every summer when I went back to China to visit him. We loved each other more than anything and were head over heals madly in love. I was his first girlfriend and although I've dated before, this was the first time I felt such strong connection and love for someone.
Once I moved though, things started to change. It as only been a month and the time difference and distance already got in our way. I had to wake up every other day at 4am in order to have a proper conversation with him. The lack of sleep made me extremely cranky and I could tell he was suffering from all this. We fought often but always made up very quickly. I often bothered him to make time for me because I couldn't stand waking up in the middle of the night any more.
A week ago he broke up with me for the first time. He just said he wasn't sure if this was working and didn't know if he still loved me. I couldn't accept something so sudden when the previous day we were fine. however, the next day he came back telling me how much he missed me.
We got back together for another week or so then two days ago he decided to break it off again. This time because he thought he loved me but was actually just missing what we had before. He said the first time he cried and cried and he mistook it for love so he came back.
I still love him very much and know the break up wasn't all distance's fault. I want him back in my life but I also don't want to pressure him into loving me again. Due to panic and shock I have begged for him to come back, which probably just pushed him further.
Do you think its possible for us to get back together? Or should I just move on? If so, what is the fastest way... I really can't stand this sadness and emptiness any longer..
Once I moved though, things started to change. It as only been a month and the time difference and distance already got in our way. I had to wake up every other day at 4am in order to have a proper conversation with him. The lack of sleep made me extremely cranky and I could tell he was suffering from all this. We fought often but always made up very quickly. I often bothered him to make time for me because I couldn't stand waking up in the middle of the night any more.
A week ago he broke up with me for the first time. He just said he wasn't sure if this was working and didn't know if he still loved me. I couldn't accept something so sudden when the previous day we were fine. however, the next day he came back telling me how much he missed me.
We got back together for another week or so then two days ago he decided to break it off again. This time because he thought he loved me but was actually just missing what we had before. He said the first time he cried and cried and he mistook it for love so he came back.
I still love him very much and know the break up wasn't all distance's fault. I want him back in my life but I also don't want to pressure him into loving me again. Due to panic and shock I have begged for him to come back, which probably just pushed him further.
Do you think its possible for us to get back together? Or should I just move on? If so, what is the fastest way... I really can't stand this sadness and emptiness any longer..
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