I probably shouldn't be making this right now because of how recently this happened (hell its going on as I speak im multi-tasking) but anyways.
Me and my GF met online about 9mo ago. we love eachother to death and want to send the rest of our lives together.
but then my phone broke and we were only able to text on my computer (no mic) and that was hard enough. three weeks ago now I got my computer taken away because of a D and now I only get it on the weekends. my GF has taken this really hard and today she texted me this "Idk if this is working anymore ryan...."
I was scared to death instantly that she was breaking up with me... when I probed a little I found that she dosent want to leave me but dosnt know if she wants to wait. she says she feels like were not even together anymore because we hardly talk and that she texted this wich is easily the scariest of all her text thruout the conversation "Its not just tht ryan! Its everyting! I cnt tak all of this anymore. Its too much. Theres no more butterflies or laughter or anyting else. I feel lik i
HAV 2 b with u. I dnt wanna feel lik tht! I want 2 WANT 2 b with u. I dnt wann feel lik i HAV 2"
i am desperate for any help or advice. she is my first love and i desperately do not want to loose her!
heres the convo.
Me and my GF met online about 9mo ago. we love eachother to death and want to send the rest of our lives together.
but then my phone broke and we were only able to text on my computer (no mic) and that was hard enough. three weeks ago now I got my computer taken away because of a D and now I only get it on the weekends. my GF has taken this really hard and today she texted me this "Idk if this is working anymore ryan...."
I was scared to death instantly that she was breaking up with me... when I probed a little I found that she dosent want to leave me but dosnt know if she wants to wait. she says she feels like were not even together anymore because we hardly talk and that she texted this wich is easily the scariest of all her text thruout the conversation "Its not just tht ryan! Its everyting! I cnt tak all of this anymore. Its too much. Theres no more butterflies or laughter or anyting else. I feel lik i
HAV 2 b with u. I dnt wanna feel lik tht! I want 2 WANT 2 b with u. I dnt wann feel lik i HAV 2"
i am desperate for any help or advice. she is my first love and i desperately do not want to loose her!
heres the convo.
Spoiler:
Okay, first and foremost: I'm sorry you're going through this. I know it's hard to deal with. I'm going to try and be as reasonable as possible. The two of you are young--is she 15 as well? If so, that's a little too young to be thinking about spending the rest of your lives with this person. Hell, I know I wasn't thinking like that at 15. Ya'll are both still so young, and you have so much more to experience. From what I've gathered through what she's told you, it sounds like the idea of "forever" is scary to her--which is understandable. She's saying she doesn't know if this is what she wants for the rest of her life; you can't be in just a one-sided relationship. She's also mentioning not having an emotional connection with you. Have the two of you met in person yet? It sounds like she's unsure on where this relationship is going to go...which is completely understandable. To me, it sounds like she's leaning towards ending it. Ask her to open up and tell you what's really bothering her. She's giving you very spacey responses to me, which are all pretty much saying the same thing: she doesn't know, she's confused, her feelings aren't there. OR, give her some space. Leave her alone for a couple days to really think things through and then come back together and talk about it. Just a suggestion. Good luck!
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