I've been in an LDR since March of 2012. Since then, we've flown back and forth to see each other 8 times. It's a lot of money, I know, but we're (hopefully) at the end of our LDR. By this August, the verdict will be in. My SO has made the decision to move to CO with her kids to be with me! We're doing it the right way and not moving in together. So many people I talk to just assume that we're going to be living together if she moves here. First of all, can you imagine how complicated that would be? Plus, I hold the view that living together should be reserved for marriage, but that's another story.
Anyways, although closing the gap can be difficult for most people, it's MUCH easier for those without kids. I have kids and she does too. I can't move because of the parenting plan in my divorce says that I can't. Plus, who wouldn't want to live in Colorado? Anyways, there are court documents to be filled out, an ex husband to inform and a lawyer to hire. At first, my SO didn't want to hire and attorney but then I asked her, "Think about it. What if you didn't hire a lawyer and the judge told you that you couldn't move here? Wouldn't you want to hire one so that you wouldn't have to live with that regret?" Anyways, she hired a lawyer and we're waiting for the paperwork for the intent to move to be filed. For those of you who have gone through this before or know someone who has, I would love to hear how things turned out.
Our LDR has hit a ceiling. We have done everything that we can possibly do at 1,000 miles apart. We are deeply in love. I have met her kids and she has met mine. The one thing that we haven't done is that our kids haven't met one another. We Skype every night for at least 1 hour. Someone suggested to me that we Skype only every other day so we wouldn't get tired of each other but then I got to thinking that Skyping is all we have! I don't want to give that up!
Although we see each other just about every other month, we don't have that physical interaction that couples who live close have. It becomes maddening at times! I feel that we have progressed as far as we can in our LDR and we both know that there is so much more we can experience together.
If she moves here in August, we will move on to the next step and that is our kids getting used to one anther. Also, since the only times we've seen each other have been when we were in "vacation mode", we haven't really experienced real life together. I want to be with her and see how she handles frustration. I want her to see me mad because I didn't have a good day at work. I want to experience how she handles it when someone cuts her off. We need to get used to our lives and how we'll be living it together in a normal setting.
Then after that step, I think I'll be ready to ask her to marry me. We haven't discussed marriage yet because, well, we don't even know if she'll be moving here and that does need to happen before we can marry! Anyways, I feel like we've hit a glass ceiling because we can see to the other side. We both know that in the next 4 months or so, we'll have the answer. We'll know if she'll be able to move here with her kids and our relationship can go on and resemble a normal relationship.
We have taken the leap, the plunge. We have risked getting our hearts broken and have once again fallen in love. We both know that there is that potential to have our hearts broken if our physical distance cannot be closed. Everything in an LDR depends on that doesn't it? An LDR cannot last unless there is a hope for a future together in the same city.
So that's where we are. She might be moving here and our physical distance could be closed within the next 4 months! We're also a bit frustrated because we've done all that we can do in our year + long LDR and have hit that glass ceiling. All we can do is hope, pray and work our hardest to keep things together! I'll keep you guys informed about anything that progresses! Best of luck in all your LDRs!
Anyways, although closing the gap can be difficult for most people, it's MUCH easier for those without kids. I have kids and she does too. I can't move because of the parenting plan in my divorce says that I can't. Plus, who wouldn't want to live in Colorado? Anyways, there are court documents to be filled out, an ex husband to inform and a lawyer to hire. At first, my SO didn't want to hire and attorney but then I asked her, "Think about it. What if you didn't hire a lawyer and the judge told you that you couldn't move here? Wouldn't you want to hire one so that you wouldn't have to live with that regret?" Anyways, she hired a lawyer and we're waiting for the paperwork for the intent to move to be filed. For those of you who have gone through this before or know someone who has, I would love to hear how things turned out.
Our LDR has hit a ceiling. We have done everything that we can possibly do at 1,000 miles apart. We are deeply in love. I have met her kids and she has met mine. The one thing that we haven't done is that our kids haven't met one another. We Skype every night for at least 1 hour. Someone suggested to me that we Skype only every other day so we wouldn't get tired of each other but then I got to thinking that Skyping is all we have! I don't want to give that up!
Although we see each other just about every other month, we don't have that physical interaction that couples who live close have. It becomes maddening at times! I feel that we have progressed as far as we can in our LDR and we both know that there is so much more we can experience together.
If she moves here in August, we will move on to the next step and that is our kids getting used to one anther. Also, since the only times we've seen each other have been when we were in "vacation mode", we haven't really experienced real life together. I want to be with her and see how she handles frustration. I want her to see me mad because I didn't have a good day at work. I want to experience how she handles it when someone cuts her off. We need to get used to our lives and how we'll be living it together in a normal setting.
Then after that step, I think I'll be ready to ask her to marry me. We haven't discussed marriage yet because, well, we don't even know if she'll be moving here and that does need to happen before we can marry! Anyways, I feel like we've hit a glass ceiling because we can see to the other side. We both know that in the next 4 months or so, we'll have the answer. We'll know if she'll be able to move here with her kids and our relationship can go on and resemble a normal relationship.
We have taken the leap, the plunge. We have risked getting our hearts broken and have once again fallen in love. We both know that there is that potential to have our hearts broken if our physical distance cannot be closed. Everything in an LDR depends on that doesn't it? An LDR cannot last unless there is a hope for a future together in the same city.
So that's where we are. She might be moving here and our physical distance could be closed within the next 4 months! We're also a bit frustrated because we've done all that we can do in our year + long LDR and have hit that glass ceiling. All we can do is hope, pray and work our hardest to keep things together! I'll keep you guys informed about anything that progresses! Best of luck in all your LDRs!
We send each other pictures constantly. I probably send him more than he sends me but I think he said he has like 500 of me so his own personal portfolio. We also play games on our phone together like words with friends etc.. I think that gives us a closeness and gives us something to chat about at times.
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