Rings

[CanadianGirl]

Maybe it's just how I grew up, but I don't quite understand engagement rings.. I'd rather have a ringless proposal and go pick out wedding bands together afterwards. My SO can be more traditional and if he was in a position to buy an expensive ring, I think he would. What I look forward to is hearing what he chooses to say. He's great with words and I know it'll be one of the sweetest things I'll hear in my life

[Hololz]

LEts just say, I know exactly where my ring will be coming from should he ever decide to propose to me :P He has great taste in jewellry for me, and both of us have a bit of a love affair with a certian high end jewellers. IMO, if you're going to invest money in a wedding, it should be invested in the ring!

We have browsed the website together before. But I think he knows what I would like anyway: Silver/white gold, square cut stone. I like jewellrey thats simple and classic.

[Yaaamiii]

He knows my taste. I've always wanted him to pick out the ring. I like the element of surprise. :P Apparently he always imagined I'd go with him to pick it out, he'd propose and I'd choose it later. But nope, I told him I wanted him to make it a surprise .

[LoveJ]

I think it's really sweet when the guy picks the ring on his own. He goes out and picks something he thinks you'll like. He imagines what it'll look like on your finger and knows that it's going to be there for a long time. When he picks the ring, it's a combination of the both of you: what he wants to see on you, and what he thinks you'll like. I think that's really romantic.

LoveL was so nervous about getting just the right one, and it turns out that the one he decided on couldn't have been more perfect. I love it with all of my heart, because it came from his.

If girls pick their own rings, it doesn't seem like there's as much "collaboration" there as there is just the girl wanting what she wants and the guy paying for it. Engagements (and ultimately marriages) should be about the bond and the love you have for each other, not the jewellery you can show off. I hate hearing girls gush about their rings and how many carats they have. It's the least important thing about spending your life with someone. Don't even get me started on people who spend into the tens of thousand of dollars on a one-day wedding. It makes you wonder if it's more about the party than it is love.

[lyonsgirl]

If girls pick their own rings, it doesn't seem like there's as much "collaboration" there as there is just the girl wanting what she wants and the guy paying for it.

Agreed. Although, I have "picked out" my ring several times. (Almost every one that I see that's pretty. which is pretty much all of them.... lol!) Ultimately, my SO knows that he's going to pick it out for me, and ultimately, that's what I want. But it sure is fun to oggle at pretty jewelry! (not just rings, either, haha)

[LoveJ]

Agreed. Although, I have "picked out" my ring several times. (Almost every one that I see that's pretty. which is pretty much all of them.... lol!) Ultimately, my SO knows that he's going to pick it out for me, and ultimately, that's what I want. But it sure is fun to oggle at pretty jewelry! (not just rings, either, haha)

I think all girls are guilty of that with our wishlist rings

[lyonsgirl]

I think all girls are guilty of that with our wishlist rings

lol, true.

[LotusWing]

My fiance wanted to buy a nice and beautiful ring, but because we don't have so much time we went to the jewelry store last week and we both decided what to get. We got 14kt white gold, and the rings looks very simple.

[lucybelle]

If girls pick their own rings, it doesn't seem like there's as much "collaboration" there as there is just the girl wanting what she wants and the guy paying for it.

My mom picked out and bought her own engagement and wedding ring.

[lonelyinlove]

I would want him to pick out the ring, but I want him to have an idea of what I'd like. I've been so anti-marriage for such a long time that now I need to start dropping some serious hints of what I like & don't like...lol

[marbear31]

Awww I love reading these!! It makes me so warm and fuzzy to think about engagement rings and finally being engaged to my SO after he meets my family...hmmm, not to get too gushy :P, but we talked about it one night, and he sent me pictures of stuff he thought i'd like, and he nailed it right on the head. Apparently my SO has excellent taste in jewelry, cause the rings...mmmm gives me butterflies just thinking about it!!

Taste-wise, I'd love white gold or a silver band, with princess cut diamonds. I love the look of one diamond and flanking sapphires, or little diamonds around it...I don't want it to be huge or super gaudy, just simple, classic, and tasteful. I'll be happy with whatever he chooses (I want him to choose and surprise me--it's so much more romantic that way, and it'll be priceless because he picked it out with love); I already consider the Claddaugh ring he bought me in Ireland an engagement ring. I did the moment he put it on my finger.

Ahhh I love him so much!

[Kerry]

my fiance has told me that he's clueless when it comes to jewelry. when I finally get my engagement ring I'm thinking that I will be picking it out. I can't wait for this day! we picked out my promise ring together.

[SquishyLove]

I'm not too fancy about jewelry and prefer gemstones and silver over diamonds and gold, myself. My husband is Russian, and the concept of engagement is handled differently in Russia. Usually, even when the wedding date is set, the couple still calls each other "my guy" and "my girl" (they don't use "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" there, but those terms I just listed are used in the same context) until about a month before the wedding, and then there's a term they use that I can't remember currently, which is kind of like our "fiance/fiancee" term, but only very close to the actual wedding date. And they don't usually use engagement rings by tradition, although my husband says there are exceptions, but engagement rings aren't the norm in Russia. They also happen to use the right ring finger as the standard wedding ring finger, whereas we use the left.

We knew when we first fell in love that we would eventually be married. We knew that we'd spend our lives together. We decided mutually, pretty early in our relationship, that we would eventually marry legally in whichever country we chose to settle down in together. I told him that I'd like to have a ring, mostly because it's the tradition in my culture, and to announce to family and friends an engagement in a more official tone, so it would go over better with my family. He understood completely, and during a long visit we had, he let me pick my ring. I went way under-budget, but I picked the one that "called out" to me, and it's completely my style. He has picked other jewelry for me and surprised me with it, and it's always been my style (he just knows what I like, which is awesome ), but this one he let me pick for myself. We called my parents and sisters with news of our "official engagement" although to us we feel as though we've been married in our hearts from day one...it was a way to let the family know in a more traditional way they'd respect. Personally, though, the ring itself is simply a symbol and what matters is the connection between the couple. Everyone has their preferences. For our situation of being in an international relationship (where one person would need to move overseas to close the distance), it worked better to have a mutual plan for becoming "officially engaged."

[staystrong12]

I'd rather him surprise me with it. I mean I'll hint to him what style I prefer, but I'd honestly love anything he gives me(: