So in an effort to steer clear of the "bridezilla" title, I felt I needed to vent to third-parties such as you fine people. 
I do a fair amount of event coordination as part of my job at work - so putting together a huge event isn't a big deal. But I'm not the least bit as organized as my anal-retentive, type A, work self is with this wedding planning. And the fact that I have to design and control everything also puts strain on my already packed schedule.
Take invitations for instance. Sure I could've had someone deal with that. No. I had to go and order invites to be put together (by us), design the invitation myself and find a good printer (Kinko's just wouldn't do) and also design the inserts to go along with the invite. Everything was going fine, finished designing them, had them printed and got them mailed to me. But as I was looking over the invite today I noticed that the ceremony time was wrong. Yep...so I had to reprint those and now it's costing me more (when I really wanted to save on this part of the wedding). Well that was moot.
On to the bridal shower. You'd think that a shower thrown for you wouldn't be on your mind. You just have to show up and enjoy. Well nope...not in my case. My mom and maids of honor (I have two) are throwing me one. However my mom is getting frustrated with the MOHs because she can never get a hold of them. So she starts asking me "how should we decorate it? where should we host it? who should I put for the guests to RSVP?" Meanwhile I'm thinking "I shouldn't have to worry about this!!!"
On top of it all - my parents wanted to finance this wedding (much to my objections). I'm 30 years old, I don't believe my parents should pay a cent as it was my decision to get married. However, from the start, I told them that I could only afford a small wedding. But my dad said, "well if you're going to invite some family, you have to invite all family...and we'll pay." I said fine - if that's what you want. Even though he offered to pay, I still couldn't let him pay for everything. So I'm financing 45% of the costs (which is a stretch on my pocket book) of this huge wedding - 99% being my family . Now, my dad is having to make huge decisions about whether he should stay at work or find a new job - which as a result - may affect the finances of the wedding. Great.
So that's that...thus far. I know all will come out okay in the end and I've read other horror stories of the wedding planning process and mine seem miniscule to those. I just had to really vent. Thanks for listening. lol
Oh and reading other wedding woes might lift my spirits some (as morbid as that may sound lol). So feel free to share...
I do a fair amount of event coordination as part of my job at work - so putting together a huge event isn't a big deal. But I'm not the least bit as organized as my anal-retentive, type A, work self is with this wedding planning. And the fact that I have to design and control everything also puts strain on my already packed schedule.
Take invitations for instance. Sure I could've had someone deal with that. No. I had to go and order invites to be put together (by us), design the invitation myself and find a good printer (Kinko's just wouldn't do) and also design the inserts to go along with the invite. Everything was going fine, finished designing them, had them printed and got them mailed to me. But as I was looking over the invite today I noticed that the ceremony time was wrong. Yep...so I had to reprint those and now it's costing me more (when I really wanted to save on this part of the wedding). Well that was moot.
On to the bridal shower. You'd think that a shower thrown for you wouldn't be on your mind. You just have to show up and enjoy. Well nope...not in my case. My mom and maids of honor (I have two) are throwing me one. However my mom is getting frustrated with the MOHs because she can never get a hold of them. So she starts asking me "how should we decorate it? where should we host it? who should I put for the guests to RSVP?" Meanwhile I'm thinking "I shouldn't have to worry about this!!!"
On top of it all - my parents wanted to finance this wedding (much to my objections). I'm 30 years old, I don't believe my parents should pay a cent as it was my decision to get married. However, from the start, I told them that I could only afford a small wedding. But my dad said, "well if you're going to invite some family, you have to invite all family...and we'll pay." I said fine - if that's what you want. Even though he offered to pay, I still couldn't let him pay for everything. So I'm financing 45% of the costs (which is a stretch on my pocket book) of this huge wedding - 99% being my family
. Now, my dad is having to make huge decisions about whether he should stay at work or find a new job - which as a result - may affect the finances of the wedding. Great. So that's that...thus far. I know all will come out okay in the end and I've read other horror stories of the wedding planning process and mine seem miniscule to those. I just had to really vent. Thanks for listening. lol
Oh and reading other wedding woes might lift my spirits some (as morbid as that may sound lol). So feel free to share...
The Day we went long distance: 08.08.2010
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