I thought I'd quickly elaborate why people don't always take our relationship as seriously as we'd like. My SO and I sleep with other people while we're apart. The people are "pre-approved" and need to meet a set of criteria the other has laid out. But we do sleep with people other than each other. Most people are confused why we do this and assume there must be problems in our relationship. But there are no problems in our relationship associated with this. We both just like novelty and having sex. We will probably be doing this our entire marriage/relationship because it's what makes us happy.
We understand a "monogamish" relationship isn't for everyone, but we know it's for us. We know we'll be together until one of us dies and the "other" people are just for fun. They aren't a threat and just spice things us to keep us satisfied until we can see each other again. Although I can see this going on well into our marriage even when we're living together.
The nature our relationship is why people think we're a bit crazy. But it's only because we find it hard to find people with a mind as open as ours. And the people that will be coming with us for our early marriage are the ones that understand us. The close-minded family and friends will understand this kind of relationship more when they see we've been together for a long time.
We understand a "monogamish" relationship isn't for everyone, but we know it's for us. We know we'll be together until one of us dies and the "other" people are just for fun. They aren't a threat and just spice things us to keep us satisfied until we can see each other again. Although I can see this going on well into our marriage even when we're living together.
The nature our relationship is why people think we're a bit crazy. But it's only because we find it hard to find people with a mind as open as ours. And the people that will be coming with us for our early marriage are the ones that understand us. The close-minded family and friends will understand this kind of relationship more when they see we've been together for a long time.
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