Seeing Each Other Before the Ceremony?

[lyonsgirl]

What do you guys think? I kind of want to see my SO before the ceremony so we can get the pictures out of the way (I don't want to miss any of our party, lol!) and because then we'd be able to pray together.

Do you believe that it's bad luck for the groom to see the bride in her dress before the ceremony? Do you want/did you see each other beforehand?

[nicole]

I don't believe in bad luck, but I don't want my SO to see me till the ceremony. Mainly because we've never had the opportunity to do anything the traditional way, going through immigration and all, and this was something I really wanted to keep.

My SO's best friends saw each other before theirs, not to take pictures, or pray, but to exchange gifts. I hate that idea! Just seems impatient to me!

But if this is important to you guys, and you want to pray with each other, then I'd say go right ahead! I've seen so many cute pictures of the "first look" before the ceremony and they look so special!

[Oldblighty]

I don't think it's bad luck to see each other before the ceremony, that's an old wives tale and it's just a tradition that most people abide by. I was actually living with my SO at the time we got married, he saw my dress before the ceremony and it didn't affect the day at all. It was the best day & night of my life.....

At the end of the day it's up to you whether you stick by these traditions......

[lucybelle]

I don't think it's bad luck. But I think I'll make my SO wait... mas o menos. Like we'll be getting ready together in our little train caboose () but I probably won't put on my dress until we get to where ever it is we'll get married. So I suppose he won't see the ''full look'' until I walk down ''an aisle''. He has already seen me in my dress though!

[snow_girl]

I definitely don't want to see my SO before the wedding. I want to see the look on his face as I walk down the aisle looking all bridely.

[stephanieaz]

Another who doesn't believe in bad luck and, as nice as tradition is, I'm not particularly worried about that either. I sort of want to see each other before the ceremony to do pictures, but nothing is set yet. We'll just have to see how it comes together.

[Belle]

I want that first =O moment when he sees me all dressed up to be down the isle. For no reason other than preserving that first reaction for such a special time.

[TwoThree]

We'll probably be in the same care driving to the court house, soooo....

I'll make the effort of not getting dressed in the same room as him, though :P

[kittyo9]

I don't want my SO to see me in my dress before the ceremony. I think I'd be fine spending the morning with him and helping him and stuff, but I don't want to see him all dressed up or vice versa until I walk in. Pretty much what Belle said-- I want that reaction to be pure and perfect. haha.

[Kristin91]

This is something that I can't figure out what I want when the time comes. Originally I wanted to wait to see each other because of the tradition and I love traditions, but then I came across the article linked below and I can't decide. Thankfully I have awhile before I have to make these decisions, but maybe the article will help you make up your mind! Good luck


https://thethingswewouldblog.blogspo...wednesday.html

[Oldblighty]

I know I commented earlier with regards to me not thinking it's bad luck to see each other before you take your vows, I do somewhat wish that we would have done it the traditional way. I didn't have much choice in the matter down to money etc but I would have liked to have felt the nerves and anticipation a bride would get when approaching the aisle. Just feel like as I'm older it wasn't quite apt to do it the way you should when your young.....that may sound wrong but once you get past the age of 40 it doesn't quite feel right doing it that way....

[princessmeg1328]

My fiance and I have decided not to see each other before the big day. I'm very traditional, and it's something I've always wanted to do. My sister did the first look pictures when she got married, and they came out beautifully. It's just not what I want to do for my big day.

[Trethsparr]

I don't believe it's bad luck to see each other before the wedding.

We debated on waiting (for the fun "tradition" of it) until he saw me walk down the aisle, but we realized it would be a lot easier, timeline-wise, to take most of our wedding party photographs before the wedding. So, yes, he did see me before the ceremony. We had our "alone moment" (other than the photographers, ha ha) where he saw me for the first time, though. It was very special to us.

[floridaellen]

I love the photos of the groom seeing the bride for the first time when she walks down the aisle. I think it's an adorable, pure moment. I know I always look at the groom's face rather than the bride when she first comes out - I love seeing the surprise and the obvious love.

I would love to do this. I want to pray with my future husband before the ceremony but I don't want him to actually see me. I've seen couples do this by standing on opposite sides of a door, having the groom be blindfolded, or like the picture by being around a corner. I think it's adorable

[Zephii]

I think bad luck is a crock of shit But, I did make sure he didn't "see" me that day, before the ceremony... even though we slept side by side the night before!
I hid under the sheet (even took a phone call there lol) until he got his pants on and left to pick up the wedding bus. I didn't peek at him either.

On his part, when my team arrived at the ceremony, he didn't look over (even though everyone else did!) until it was "time" for him to see me.

It was beautiful. He nearly cried. <3

But really it's about what works for you. I don't think there's really a solid reason not to see or speak to each other, so if that's your preference do it! But, on the other hand, praying alone might be something you need to do that morning. It is a big transition in your life, and I don't know how it works in your religion, but in mine at least the prayers for men and women for their transitions/rites of passage are a little different.