what do you reply when someone asks you how long you have been together?

[Lucky]

This is a common question a lot of people ask when they find out I am in a serious relationship and planning a wedding, I just went to church to ask for information about the religious ceremony and the priest asked me that question among other similar ones actually, when it's long distance, specially if you met online and have met in person but have not closed the distance for good it is hard to answer!

Being really strict and honest, in my case is going to sound like this if everything goes as planned:

We became a couple after 2 days we met in person and then 5months later we got engaged and moved in together, 2.5months after that we legally married and 6 months after that we went through the religious ceremony and celebration right on our first anniversary.

Sounds fast no? but if you check my timeline we were actually a couple of slowpokes not realizing we were right for each other after almost 3 years, so once we did, we really didn't want to waste any more time.

How do you guys reply to these sort of questions?

Personally I feel a bit silly saying I got into a relationship after only a couple of days like I was throwing myself at some stranger haha, but at the same time I can't bring myself to consider it a relationship if we had not met in person.

I guess it's not really important, I was just curious

[summerkid]

i haven't met SO yet, but provided all goes well, I'd add the time we spend without having met eachother.. this isn't nothing, and even though it's not exactly a bona fide romantic relationship, it is some sort of relationship.. the feelings are there, we're doing most of the things a couple would normally do and we'd be together if we could... so I don't see why I this time wouldn't count at all...

[MattDavies86]

How long you have been together? From the day you became a couple to the present day, simple ok you haven't been physically together all that time but you have been in a relationship all that time, been faithful to each other all that time. so it stands. in my book anyway

[lademoiselle]

How long you have been together? From the day you became a couple to the present day, simple

I agree with this!

[LittleBox]

How long you have been together? From the day you became a couple to the present day, simple

I second this

[Em22]

As soon as we made it official, until today, is the amount of time I consider being together. Even though the past 3 years we havent been 100% physically together, but in my heart- that's what counts! I don't care what anyone else says. I know that I love this man, and he has been mine for 3 years. Therefore, we have been together for 3 years! haha. Don't let what other people might think bother you!

[kayla_622]

As soon as we made it official, until today, is the amount of time I consider being together.

This.

When I'm asked how long we've been together I just tell them how long since we've made it official. I think it would be to tedious and a little silly to either say how long I've actually known him or how long we've physically been together.

[Zephii]

We didn't go "official" and consider ourselves a couple til we met in person either, so that's just shy of five years of time flirting/being best friends/being intimate online that now simply don't count, and yeah that can be annoying. Especially during my first visit there.

Them: "So how long have you been together"
Me: "Oh about a week and three days now"

Aaaanyway, then we got married and now people don't ask how long we've been together they say "how long have you been married?" so the three years of dating in now moot too haha.

But like, who cares? I just answer whatever is technically correct. If people want my life story, then I flesh it out a bit and tell them about what came before. I figure it's not a competition and I don't care what they think anyway