Did you kind of know a proposal would come eventually? Was he saving up?

[Yaaamiii]

Yea I'm pretty sure my SO is gonna pop the question sometime this summer or early in the fall. :P

[abc123]

I always love hearing proposal stories too, they're the best I was really confused when/if my proposal was coming. He never had to save any money, as the ring is a family heirloom piece.

[Tomlover45]

Me and my SO began talking about marriage very early on in our relationship. however, we didn't start talking about it too seriously until a couple of months ago. At first we agreed it would be best to get engaged once we were living together so that we didn't scare my parents (they think i'm too young as do most people). But recently i brought the idea up of getting engaged in the summer (not expecting anything to come of it), and my SO said he had actually been thinking about it too.

Soon after we had a good long chat about whether it was the right thing to do and we decided that it was .

Sooo, the tricky bit now is to tell my dad and hope he doesn't murder me.

Yipee.

[Malaga]

We've talked about it openly quite a few times and we're both serious about it. Every time we talk about it it seems more and more like a sure thing. For me this means more of a commitment than him just suddenly popping the question one day. It'd be like he's decided for the both of us that this is now the right moment. I don't like to be put in the position where all I can contribute to such an important decision is a yes or no.

[chizatlauren]

Wrong. It's all about a big expensive ring, engagement parties with gifts, posting on Facebook and a giant show. You obviously have no clue to how engagements work!

^^ not posted under the influence cuz I still can't drink! Ah!

Hahahaha! I love lucybelle!

Anyway. I only have one phrase for the OPer:

RELAX GIRL, RELAX.

[ams.201220]

I love the idea of marriage! But if you're just starting out your relationship and barely into it, marriage should really be the last on your mind. Austin and I talked about marriage occasionally because it was a nice thing to do. We would fantasize, I guess you could say. But it still isn't a really big thing on our agenda. There's so many other things we're focusing on right now, that marriage isn't a big thing.

Just take it slow girl! The time will come eventually, right now just focus on blossoming your relationship.

[kiara_silver]

We both knew we wanted to one day get married, early on in our relationship. Not saying we were going to get married anytime soon but that that is where we would want our relationship to one day be. And as we started getting serious I would think about it, not planning but i would sometimes say to myself "his name" might be my future husband. In this little musical tune lol But then after we met for the first time, we both knew 100% we would get married one day. And then a few months later he started dropping hints. So I knew a proposal would be in my future I just didn't know when. Now today happily engaged with our wedding date set <3

[snow]

We talked about it in the early stages of our relationship to see if we were on the same page regarding marriage and kids, but then I figured I'd drop it because I don't want to scare him away and he told me he will not talk to me about proposing or marriage because he wants it to come naturally..

However I feel like it could happen soon.. I don't know.. I just feel like it could

[Alle1770]

We've talked about it a couple of times, just to see if we're on the same page regarding kids, values, family and everything, but that wasn't until maybe 6-9 months into the relationship. I know I'd love to marry him some day, and I know he feels the same, but it's nothing we're focusing on right now - for now, we're trying to make it work with the regular day-to-day life.

He has teased me with hints and stuff though, I know they aren't serious but it shows he might do it sometime in the future - last time I came back from a visit one of my friends was so convinced he was going to ask me that she told all of my other friends even without knowing herself xD Since then we've both joked a bit about it, and a couple weeks ago he got down on one knee in my driveway and I freaked out O.O Out of his mouth come the words "Alicia, I love you. Will you please make me tea today?" and I just stared at him for 5 seconds before both of us started laughing

So for now it's just an idea, something we talk about every now and then but nothing that I'm pressuring him about - if he's ready, he's ready. As long as I get to spend the rest of my life with him, I don't really care if we're engaged/married or not

[Yaaamiii]

Yea I'm pretty sure my SO is gonna pop the question sometime this summer or early in the fall. :P

I was right! :P

[squeeker]

My boyfriend and I have talked about this and know we want to marry each other one day. However we also know it won't be for another few years most likely. It's in his court though. Whenever he asks, he knows I'll accept. He wants to meet my parents first though (he hasn't yet for reasons due to our personal situation which I won't get into here, nothing bad, just our thing) and he said when he comes and meets them then he'll likely ask their blessing. Though sometimes I think he might just ask otherwise without asking their blessing or maybe he'd do it online depending how life works.. but I know he'll probably most likely do it sometime after he's graduated and has a job at least so he can save up because I don't know how he could do it now.

Though in some other ways I'd call us engaged or even married in a non technical way because he's asked me without a ring and I've accepted and we are already committed to being with each other forever really. Just nothing official, no ring or wedding plans yet. But we're on the same page with it. The idea of him proposing or being engaged or wedding talk makes me "girly giggle" and get excited though. :P

[sarahjane1992]

I'm sort of in the same position as the OP, katiecat08. Me and my SO have talked about getting married, but way in the future. He is a little bit younger than I am, and we're looking right now to get financially stable and have a place to live before we get engaged. I thought a couple needs to be together X number of months, years etc to know they want to get married.

But it really depends on the couple. My SO's parents were together 6 months and knew they wanted to get married. Fast forward 20 years later, and they're still going strong! On the other hand, my parents got engaged a year or so after they started dating. And they've been married for almost 27 years.

I know that my SO is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. Right now, I don't need a ring to symbolize that commitment. Within 6-12 months maybe? Sure. I in no way want to rush my SO. I want it to be a total surprise and really special. He can be really romantic when he wants to be When the time is right, there will be a ring. And I'l get to call him my husband. But for right now, I'm just lucky to have him. And that's what I'm focusing on right now. <3

[MattDavies86]

I see engagement as a promise, it's the step before marriage of course and shouldn't be taken lightly either, as for us, well, we plan to get married next you (will have been together for 2 years by then) and it's not quite how I expected it, then again I never expected to have a love from the otherside of the world either, so we make do, since she's coming here for 5months (from next week I can't FUCKING wait) and I already have to save so much for the wedding and the rings, I'm going to propose to her here on our anniversary (Nov 10th) and get her a ring, I know you should spend like a month wage on the ring, but due to the situation I'll go between £100-300 for traditions sake and to make it proper , she knows it's coming, doesn't know when and I don't think she's expecting a ring.

[delightful]

I haven't seen all the other posts that have been made, but maybe he's just as excited/keen to get engaged as well? I personally don't see the big deal with time really, I mean... if you're with a person and you get engaged a month in, it's your business, noone elses, right? I would personally wait a minimum of a year before I gave that some thought, but some people just know when they know. Why put time constraints on something that feels right (as long as it feels right to both people)? The worst than can happen if you do it soon after getting together is that during the engagement period, you learn more about your SO and may or may not stay together, right?

I'm just one of those people who's really firm in the belief that people should do what makes them happiest (as long as it's not hurting or pressuring anyone else into doing something they don't want to). My aunty was engaged three months in, they've been together for over 30 years now.

I'd just like to state that I personally take engagement and marriage as a pretty big deal, and as a promise you're making to your SO to stick by their side forever and through anything. Some of the happiest couples I know aren't married or engaged though, so whatever works best for you I think.

[dragonlady]

I don't regard engagement as an "institution"

To me, if you are in a committed relationship and have openly discussed getting married eventually, you are already engaged. Having him give you a ring while on one knee is just "folklore" and shouldn't come as a surprise at all. Having him spend thousands on a diamond ring, unless he can easily afford to, is also stupid in my own opinion.

You asked, didn't you?

OMG am i engaged????? awesome and i even didnt know it lol we both even got a ring hihi sorry couldent resist

but yeah i am kinda with you on this, we made a "prommises" to each other and know we will marry when i move to his country, both for the security that gives and ofcourse the paper work