Marrying to stay together?

[schwee44]

Just wondering what you guys think of LDR's (international or not) marrying to stay together?

[lucybelle]

I'm all for convenience marriages!

[Captivated]

We did that. Best decision we ever made

[Dezface]

If you gotta, you gotta. But I still think every marriage for any reason should be given a lot of thought. Having been through a divorce, I can tell you it sucks and I can only imagine how complicated it would be internationally.

[alittlemind]

We've considered marriage as our way to close the distance. If you know you're going to be with that person in the long run, why not?

[ioanna]

If you're marrying to stay together then you're marrying for love, no? sounds like a good reason to me

[differentcountries]

I would definetely consider that! At least with some time on my back to know the person and if the relationship had any future, and if the other person might possably be happy after a relocation. I cannot marry though, since I am already married to my husband. I don't think getting a (fake) divorce is kind to any of us three either... so my best option is helping my SO get an education so he can relocate by himself.

[snow]

I see it exactly like ionna. If you're marrying to stay with your SO then you're doing it out of love and that's what it should be built on

[lyonsgirl]

To the OP, or, possibly, to everyone, because clearly I'm missing something: you basically mean, "marry to stay together" as in "marry so you can live together in the same house without risk of the government/family kicking you out", right?

[TwoThree]

As far as I'm concerned, that's actually one of the very few instances in which marriage is entirely justified

Provided that you have an established relationship with several visits in between, of course.

[lyonsgirl]

To add to my PP: I ask this because I've known a few people that have gotten married because they felt it was "required", and were pressured into it. (They're not married anymore.) She pushed him into marriage, he realized the mistake it was. They married because they thought their parents would "have" to think of them as adults since they got married.

[Tooki]

Getting married for a visa? Eh, you gotta do what you gotta do but make sure that you're ready for it.

Getting married because you're 'supposed to' or you 'should'? You're gonna have a bad time.

[milaya]

I'm all for convenience marriages!

same! ^^
Maybe it's because I'm not religious and such, but for me getting married was mostly about getting that very special piece of paper, that opened out a lot more opportunities for my SO and I.

[snow]

To add to my PP: I ask this because I've known a few people that have gotten married because they felt it was "required", and were pressured into it. (They're not married anymore.) She pushed him into marriage, he realized the mistake it was. They married because they thought their parents would "have" to think of them as adults since they got married.

I wouldn't get married if someone thought I had to, if that's what you mean.

My big sister got married to the father of her child while she was pregnant even though it was a one-night-stand and he was engaged to another woman, because their parents made them - you can guess they are not married anymore.

[kittyo9]

I'm also kind of unsure as to the meaning of "stay together," since you said "international or not," and visa issues only apply to international couples.