He wants to talk to my dad

[itsjen516]

My boyfriend and I have talked about getting married so it's not a huge shocker to me. But last night he told me he wants to talk to my dad he also told me been looking at rings. Do you think he wants to pop the question soon ?
His last text ended with "I love you talk to you soon miss you alot can't wait to get married "
I don't want to get my hopes up but do you think it's something that may come up Soon

[lyonsgirl]

Seems kind of early on in your relationship to get engaged. You've been together since the end of April this year, yea? Which means it's been like, just over 6 months? I dunno. I wouldn't get your hopes up if I were you. Though, why he told you he's been looking and wants to talk to your dad is beyond me.

[itsjen516]

Ya it's been fast but we known each other longer then what we been dating
Plus alot of people in his family have been really fast and they are all really happy so I'm not to worried about how fast it's been

[lyonsgirl]

Ya it's been fast but we known each other longer then what we been dating
Plus alot of people in his family have been really fast and they are all really happy so I'm not to worried about how fast it's been

It doesn't matter how other relationships have turned out, what matters is yours. If you two are ready for that step, that's up to you. Comparing your relationship to others' is a dangerous game.

[itsjen516]

That's true but I guess I feel I'm ready since I have never had a connection like this with anyone !

[Tooki]

That's true but I guess I feel I'm ready since I have never had a connection like this with anyone !

Nonetheless, it's better to give it some time. You have no reason to be married right now so why potentially rush it?

[Karlijn92]

Me and my SO started talking about getting married soon, too, and got engaged after 10 months of dating (which was still months after we actually started talking about it). If he mentioned it and already want to talk to your dad, doesn't necessarily mean he'll pop the question any time soon, but that depends of course.
Just talk about it with your boyfriend on how soon you want to get engaged (within a year, or two years?).

[Riyko]

I say it's a bit too early, but seeing that your SO is from Utah it makes me curious *is from Utah* is he mormon? I ask because a lot of mormons (not all) tend to get engaged and married shortly after they start dating.

[itsjen516]

Ya he is Mormon and he says there people usally get married fast and young
I really dont have a religion so I'm cool with whatever he believes in

[Deleted]

Whatever you feel is right, is right. I won't judge you for that. I wouldn't get your hopes up quite to soon; it can be a dangerous thing to be hopeful then have something suddenly dash it. Continue to love him and keep an open heart, and everything should be fine.

[itsjen516]

Yes ill wait till when ever just made me wonder you know even if it happens next week or in 2 years ill just be happy when it happens

[Riyko]

Ya he is Mormon and he says there people usally get married fast and young
I really dont have a religion so I'm cool with whatever he believes in

They do get married really fast and young, most girls get married within a year or two after graduating high school. All of my friends who are mormon that are girls got married by the time they were 20 or if they were already married they had their first child at 20 and my guy friends have gotten married by the time they were 21 or had kids by the time they were 21. It's actually quite strange if someone is mormon and not married at an early age (I have a few friends who are my age 27 and aren't married and they get looked down upon a bit, they are mormon i'm not, but i experience this as well).

[LadyDaemon]

They do get married really fast and young, most girls get married within a year or two after graduating high school. All of my friends who are mormon that are girls got married by the time they were 20 or if they were already married they had their first child at 20 and my guy friends have gotten married by the time they were 21 or had kids by the time they were 21. It's actually quite strange if someone is mormon and not married at an early age (I have a few friends who are my age 27 and aren't married and they get looked down upon a bit, they are mormon i'm not, but i experience this as well).

I noticed this as well back when I was in the church (no longer am and denounce the entire religion,but I digress). A lot of the girls that I met who were in their early 20s were already married or married and pregnant with their first kid too. The church was constantly holding mixers for the people in their 20s. It was kinda like they were saying 'Find each other and get married now! do eettt or be forever shunned!'

Anyway,I agree with what some of the others said. I think it's a little soon for you both to think about getting married and really wouldn't get my hopes up too quickly about it.

[alittlemind]

Because of his religion, I'd say it's likely. In my opinion getting married because his religion says so isn't necessarily the right decision. If you're ready to spend the rest of your life together, go ahead. If not, there is not harm in waiting a little while. If I remember correctly from one of your other posts, you're still in the honeymoon phase. I'd say it's pretty early. But who am I to tell you what to do. Do what makes you happy.

[itsjen516]

They do get married really fast and young, most girls get married within a year or two after graduating high school. All of my friends who are mormon that are girls got married by the time they were 20 or if they were already married they had their first child at 20 and my guy friends have gotten married by the time they were 21 or had kids by the time they were 21. It's actually quite strange if someone is mormon and not married at an early age (I have a few friends who are my age 27 and aren't married and they get looked down upon a bit, they are mormon i'm not, but i experience this as well).

Ya he told me his brothers are always telling him "by your age we were all married and had kids"