He wants to talk to my dad

[itsjen516]

They do get married really fast and young, most girls get married within a year or two after graduating high school. All of my friends who are mormon that are girls got married by the time they were 20 or if they were already married they had their first child at 20 and my guy friends have gotten married by the time they were 21 or had kids by the time they were 21. It's actually quite strange if someone is mormon and not married at an early age (I have a few friends who are my age 27 and aren't married and they get looked down upon a bit, they are mormon i'm not, but i experience this as well).

Because of his religion, I'd say it's likely. In my opinion getting married because his religion says so isn't necessarily the right decision. If you're ready to spend the rest of your life together, go ahead. If not, there is not harm in waiting a little while. If I remember correctly from one of your other posts, you're still in the honeymoon phase. I'd say it's pretty early. But who am I to tell you what to do. Do what makes you happy.

I know but we also connect really well more then I ever have with anyone so even though we can be super annoying hahaha we do have really good communication. and it just seems to be right

[snow]

I honestly think that him asking your dad is a very nice move. I really like it when guys do that.
You can just wait and see what your dad says.

[itsjen516]

My family loves him so I hope they say yes lol

[Laural007]

It sounds like an engagement is coming up! If your happy and he's happy then it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks. Only the two of you can judge your relationship and how fast it moves.

[Yaaamiii]

I knew a girl in college who was dated a Mormon at the time. They loved each other which was great, and eventually got engaged, but he always told her he hoped she would convert from Catholicism to Mormonism eventually. His family also slightly disaproved of her not being a Mormon, if I'm remembering that correctly. I'm pretty sure they expected her to convert eventually.

I'm not saying your SO is like this though! I have no idea what he's like. I'm just letting you know of that experience.

[itsjen516]

I knew a girl in college who was dated a Mormon at the time. They loved each other which was great, and eventually got engaged, but he always told her he hoped she would convert from Catholicism to Mormonism eventually. His family also slightly disaproved of her not being a Mormon, if I'm remembering that correctly. I'm pretty sure they expected her to convert eventually.

I'm not saying your SO is like this though! I have no idea what he's like. I'm just letting you know of that experience.

i actually asked him if i had to convert and he said i didnt. and his family did kinda want him to be with a mormon but after they met me they actully really liked me and accepted that i wasnt mormon. So i like that

i respect the religion ALOT though and he said in the future if we have kids he would like them to be mormon and thats not an issue for me at all so its all good im super easy going lol

[Riyko]

I knew a girl in college who was dated a Mormon at the time. They loved each other which was great, and eventually got engaged, but he always told her he hoped she would convert from Catholicism to Mormonism eventually. His family also slightly disaproved of her not being a Mormon, if I'm remembering that correctly. I'm pretty sure they expected her to convert eventually.

I'm not saying your SO is like this though! I have no idea what he's like. I'm just letting you know of that experience.

This is the case with a lot of relationships, My brother married a Mormon and he eventually converted to Mormonism, but until he did my sister in laws family didn't approve of him (which is sad), they don't approve of me or my mom either because we aren't mormon's, aren't going to convert and have tattoo's. In actuality it depends on how much they follow the religion, the strict mormons (the ones who follow everything to a T and go to church every sunday and for every event) expect their child to marry a nice mormon boy or girl and have 100 cute little mormon babies, the not so strict mormons (the one's who go to church every sunday and follow the rules, but loosely) want their kid to marry a nice mormon boy or girl and have some kids, the regular mormon (they go to church maybe 2-3 sundays a month, follow only the parts of the rules they agree with) they'd like their kid to marry a nice mormon boy or girl, and would like a grand kid. then there's the no so mormon mormon (they go to church once a month and follow only the basic rules) they would like their kid to marry a nice mormon boy or girl, but don't force them to and are happy with what their kid chooses and last but not least the jack mormon (they never go to church and never follow the rules, but they are still mormon because they were baptized as one) they don't care who or what their child marries just as long as the child is happy.

*long post is long*

[itsjen516]

This is the case with a lot of relationships, My brother married a Mormon and he eventually converted to Mormonism, but until he did my sister in laws family didn't approve of him (which is sad), they don't approve of me or my mom either because we aren't mormon's, aren't going to convert and have tattoo's. In actuality it depends on how much they follow the religion, the strict mormons (the ones who follow everything to a T and go to church every sunday and for every event) expect their child to marry a nice mormon boy or girl and have 100 cute little mormon babies, the not so strict mormons (the one's who go to church every sunday and follow the rules, but loosely) want their kid to marry a nice mormon boy or girl and have some kids, the regular mormon (they go to church maybe 2-3 sundays a month, follow only the parts of the rules they agree with) they'd like their kid to marry a nice mormon boy or girl, and would like a grand kid. then there's the no so mormon mormon (they go to church once a month and follow only the basic rules) they would like their kid to marry a nice mormon boy or girl, but don't force them to and are happy with what their kid chooses and last but not least the jack mormon (they never go to church and never follow the rules, but they are still mormon because they were baptized as one) they don't care who or what their child marries just as long as the child is happy.

*long post is long*

from what i seen they are pretty relaxed another one of his brothers also married a non Mormon girl and they have 3 kids?
and his other 2 brothers have 2 kids each and are done with having kids. I dont think they are to strict at all. Yes they go to church and follow the rules such as no drinking or any of the additcting stuff. But they are open to things like i also have tattoos and they dont seem to care to much about it. They just want him to be happy thats all

[Riyko]

from what i seen they are pretty relaxed another one of his brothers also married a non Mormon girl and they have 3 kids?
and his other 2 brothers have 2 kids each and are done with having kids. I dont think they are to strict at all. Yes they go to church and follow the rules such as no drinking or any of the additcting stuff. But they are open to things like i also have tattoos and they dont seem to care to much about it. They just want him to be happy thats all

Yeah, each family is different (those are just the types of mormon's i've ran into while living here in Utah). In my sister in laws case her family is the type that if something isn't exactly how it's suppose to do they don't like it, but they are also the type that feels like if you aren't mormon you shouldn't live in Utah or you should convert then again her family is a bit strange haha. Anyways, this is a far bit off topic and I blame myself for it.

I hope it works out for the two of you , you seem happy even though you've been together for 6 months !!

[mllebamako]

from what i seen they are pretty relaxed another one of his brothers also married a non Mormon girl and they have 3 kids?

That's a relief! I grew up in Utah and almost all the Mormons I know, even the not-so-strict ones, place a huge importance on marrying another Mormon. The problem with marrying a non-Mormon is that you couldn't get married in the temple and have your marriage sealed. If your marriage isn't sealed, then your marriage will be dissolved upon death and you will not be married in the "celestial kingdom". Your future children also won't be sealed to you.

I dated some nice Mormon boys growing up, but we always knew that the relationships couldn't go anywhere because of this issue.

[itsjen516]

Hmm he hasn't told me any of that and I'm just wondering if it's cuz I'm also Christian not sure :/ we have talked about it and all he said was he wants to get married in his church other then that it's not a huge deal.

[mllebamako]

Hmm he hasn't told me any of that and I'm just wondering if it's cuz I'm also Christian not sure :/ we have talked about it and all he said was he wants to get married in his church other then that it's not a huge deal.

Well, you would have to be LDS to enter the temple and not just any LDS, you would have to get a temple recommend from the bishop (meaning you have to pass an interview and be deemed temple-worthy). That's why many friends, and even family members, get excluded from the sealing at the temple- for example, my friend's (who converted for her husband) mom couldn't attend the ceremony because she wasn't a church member.

Anyway, I think it's something that you should bring up with him, as it's a pretty important part of the LDS church. Maybe ask him how the marriage went with his brother and the non-Mormon.

[itsjen516]

Well, you would have to be LDS to enter the temple and not just any LDS, you would have to get a temple recommend from the bishop (meaning you have to pass an interview and be deemed temple-worthy). That's why many friends, and even family members, get excluded from the sealing at the temple- for example, my friend's (who converted for her husband) mom couldn't attend the ceremony because she wasn't a church member.

Anyway, I think it's something that you should bring up with him, as it's a pretty important part of the LDS church. Maybe ask him how the marriage went with his brother and the non-Mormon.

ya i will ask that I didn't know it was so complicated -_-

[mllebamako]

ya i will ask that I didn't know it was so complicated -_-

Sorry! Wasn't trying to scare you. I just grew up with lots of Mormons and wanted to share with you what I know about Mormon marriages. But like Riyko said, there are certainly different levels of strictness, like with any religion. I think it's a good sign that his brother is married to a non-member! There's totally hope

[itsjen516]

Well, you would have to be LDS to enter the temple and not just any LDS, you would have to get a temple recommend from the bishop (meaning you have to pass an interview and be deemed temple-worthy). That's why many friends, and even family members, get excluded from the sealing at the temple- for example, my friend's (who converted for her husband) mom couldn't attend the ceremony because she wasn't a church member.

Anyway, I think it's something that you should bring up with him, as it's a pretty important part of the LDS church. Maybe ask him how the marriage went with his brother and the non-Mormon.

Ya and his family has been wanting me to go there meet me they would like to help me with a job and a place to live
I guess I gotta see what happens