How old are/ were you when you married?

[Engel]

True, there'd probably be lots of pressure from other people about all this stuff, but you could still get engaged just as a sign that you want to marry some time Coz who says that you need to marry within the year that you got engaged that's probably just the community telling us..

I actually would not want to spend a long time engaged, even though many people i know do it and its common in brazil to have long engagements. is just i dont feel that having one ring and calling us an engaged couple would make that much of a difference, you know?
so i wanted to get engaged and already start to plan the wedding, and thats what im doing already, as we dont know if we will have to get married between december and february (if they dont renew my visa!) ir if we will have time to plan for somewhere between july and december of next year.

in any of the situations, i already started to look around, so i will have a plan for either situation!

today is a holiday in here but tomorrow i will go look for invitations and/or wedding bands.
really excited!

[11MikesGirl21]

I've been engaged for three months and I'm nineteen. We HOPE to get married after I graduate undergrad, if not then at least when I'm done with a year of grad school. So if it all works out we'll both be 22, 23. Depending on job prospects though we may be looking at a long distance marriage for a few years.

(That's what I get for getting my teaching certification in New York, and looking at living the rest of my life in Maryland, but it's definitely worth it.)

[sw+pc]

yay finally i see some 18yr olds in here with me yay im not alone lol we got engaged about a month ago on are 4 month anniversary we have devoted more time to are relationship but we are looking at in about a year for the wedding its really kinda funny there moments that its like it feels like a cycle then the window opens and you see what you and that you truly love them and the cycle your in yea its hard sometimes but if that person can make u smile and laugh and be happy thats all that it comes down to i know i love her but i cant tell you how much cause i cant measure or possible be able to tell all of you how much i love her lol best of luck to all
p.s i live in las vegas shes in in cedar city utah i had her friends tune into a live you tube broadcast i did in front of the belagio as the water show went off i was in a tux and i knelled down n proposed to her

[Madge]

Engaged at 21 but will be 23 when we get married. (My SO is 24)

[Xanahtas]

Engaged this year (august 2011) and will be married 2013 when im 18 My SO is 19, and will be 21 by the time we get married my grandparents married at like 18, were together since they were 15/16, and are still married now and they're both 70 So thats about 52 years? So it can last

[rivi87]

Got engaged May 23rd 2011. Talked about it and decided to get married before he deployed and did so on July 14, 2011. We will be having our actual ceremony on July 14, 2012 . I CANNOT WAIT!

[Engel]

Got engaged May 23rd 2011. Talked about it and decided to get married before he deployed and did so on July 14, 2011. We will be having our actual ceremony on July 14, 2012 . I CANNOT WAIT!

we will have a simple courthouse wedding january of 2012 and the actual wedding with friends and family on january of 2013, when we turn one year of married, just like you.

[Bobbiejeanne]

I was actually engaged to my high school sweetheart from like age 16 until I finally broke it off with him at age 17. It was a little too much for me to handle at the time, and he also was pretty horrible to me the last few month we were together.
I'm 18, 19 in February.... and we've talked about getting married, but not anytime soon. It's always a "when we're older and we're rich..." haha
I wouldn't mind a long engagement, especially with our distance. He's transferring to the Naval Academy next year, meaning an additional 3 years after college I wouldn't be able to be with him.
I would love for it to be May 20th, 2016... but I don't have my heart set on it at all. I just thought it would be funny it we got married on our anniversary.... that would make remembering it so much easier! I'd be 23.. perfect age.

[CynicalQuixotic]

To be what seems like the lone dissenting voice of this thread, I'm not really too keen on marriage.

I do know where the wedding excitement comes from, though. From the ages of 15 to about 19ish, so not too long ago, I was wedding obsessed. Not to the point of being creepy, but I did spend a lot of time on TheKnot.com, looked at Maggie Sottero wedding dresses, daydreamed about my flower arrangements and a big, elaborate, ornate winter wedding with a reception in the ballroom of a fancy hotel. I think it was a combination of the American obsession with weddings (look at how many wedding shows are on TV!) and my general romantic, dreamy nature, but, I thought my wedding would be the apex of my life. I also was in a relationship for much of that time--my first relationship started when I was 16 and lasted nearly four years--and I really thought that we were destined for each other and going to be together for the rest of our lives. Our relationship was great while it lasted, but we grew apart (well, I grew up, but that's a different story) and in the aftermath of our relatively amicable break up, I realized that I had changed a lot. Incidentally, I went to Paris and met JP three months after.

I guess the best way I can sum up my current feelings on marriage right now is...meh. In France, where I am planning on living long-term, regardless of how my relationship with JP pans out (though I very much hope it does, of course!), there is not nearly as much emphasis placed on marriage, and in some circles it's quite trendy to be against marriage entirely. Most couples nowadays get a PACS (pacte civile de solidarité, a civil union) which affords them pretty much all of the basic legal rights of marriage, and in France a civil ceremony at your local mairie (town hall) is required before you can have a religious/traditional "wedding" ceremony anyway, so since the French are general much more secular than Americans, I guess a lot of them figure that they might as well skip all of the pomp and circumstance and just get PACSd at a tribunal and be done with it. Also, the big wedding that is so typical in the US doesn't happen very often in France, and usually people just have dinner at a nice restaurant with their family and friends. Like many things, I've found that I align more with the French way of doing things--now that I'm a bit older, the idea of a huge party and a fancy white dress and my father walking me down the aisle just seems sort of...silly to me now. Also, I don't have the best relationship with my parents or some of my extended family, and the idea of all of them together in one room with free-flowing alcohol makes me break out into a cold sweat. No thank you. There are many things that excite me a lot more--relocating to Paris, getting a job teaching English, moving in with the boyfriend and establishing a life with him, hopefully having a kid or two in 10 years or so. The institution of marriage and all that comes with it, to me, sort of pales in comparison to these things, especially when there is a less complicated way of being able to obtain the legal rights that are afforded in marriage.

JP and I haven't been together for very long, so we've never seriously talked about marriage (though he has told me jokingly that we should get married, which I have to admit, makes my heart swell a bit ), but I figure that we'll cross that bridge when we get to it--if we're still together by the time I finish my master's, then I think we'd probably decide get PACSd so I'd be able to stay in France long-term, but who knows what will happen in two years. I'm trying not to get too wrapped up in the future--between applying to grad school and thinking about finding a place to live in a foreign country on top of my regular schoolwork, I'm already a little crazy.

[illona]

we got engaged December last year, and married on 30th April 2011.... we were 25 at that time!

[Engel]

To be what seems like the lone dissenting voice of this thread, I'm not really too keen on marriage.

I do know where the wedding excitement comes from, though. From the ages of 15 to about 19ish, so not too long ago, I was wedding obsessed. Not to the point of being creepy, but I did spend a lot of time on TheKnot.com, looked at Maggie Sottero wedding dresses, daydreamed about my flower arrangements and a big, elaborate, ornate winter wedding with a reception in the ballroom of a fancy hotel. I think it was a combination of the American obsession with weddings (look at how many wedding shows are on TV!) and my general romantic, dreamy nature, but, I thought my wedding would be the apex of my life. I also was in a relationship for much of that time--my first relationship started when I was 16 and lasted nearly four years--and I really thought that we were destined for each other and going to be together for the rest of our lives. Our relationship was great while it lasted, but we grew apart (well, I grew up, but that's a different story) and in the aftermath of our relatively amicable break up, I realized that I had changed a lot. Incidentally, I went to Paris and met JP three months after.

I guess the best way I can sum up my current feelings on marriage right now is...meh. In France, where I am planning on living long-term, regardless of how my relationship with JP pans out (though I very much hope it does, of course!), there is not nearly as much emphasis placed on marriage, and in some circles it's quite trendy to be against marriage entirely. Most couples nowadays get a PACS (pacte civile de solidarité, a civil union) which affords them pretty much all of the basic legal rights of marriage, and in France a civil ceremony at your local mairie (town hall) is required before you can have a religious/traditional "wedding" ceremony anyway, so since the French are general much more secular than Americans, I guess a lot of them figure that they might as well skip all of the pomp and circumstance and just get PACSd at a tribunal and be done with it. Also, the big wedding that is so typical in the US doesn't happen very often in France, and usually people just have dinner at a nice restaurant with their family and friends. Like many things, I've found that I align more with the French way of doing things--now that I'm a bit older, the idea of a huge party and a fancy white dress and my father walking me down the aisle just seems sort of...silly to me now. Also, I don't have the best relationship with my parents or some of my extended family, and the idea of all of them together in one room with free-flowing alcohol makes me break out into a cold sweat. No thank you. There are many things that excite me a lot more--relocating to Paris, getting a job teaching English, moving in with the boyfriend and establishing a life with him, hopefully having a kid or two in 10 years or so. The institution of marriage and all that comes with it, to me, sort of pales in comparison to these things, especially when there is a less complicated way of being able to obtain the legal rights that are afforded in marriage.

JP and I haven't been together for very long, so we've never seriously talked about marriage (though he has told me jokingly that we should get married, which I have to admit, makes my heart swell a bit ), but I figure that we'll cross that bridge when we get to it--if we're still together by the time I finish my master's, then I think we'd probably decide get PACSd so I'd be able to stay in France long-term, but who knows what will happen in two years. I'm trying not to get too wrapped up in the future--between applying to grad school and thinking about finding a place to live in a foreign country on top of my regular schoolwork, I'm already a little crazy.

we are oposites, LOL


I never wanted to get married in my life, that is, til I met my SO. and wasnt from the begin that I wanted either, but when I saw the feeling that I wanted to soend the rest of my life with him, i thought: isnt that what a marriege is? well, them i guess i want to marry him!
plus in our case marrying just makes everything all that much easier for me to be with him forever (VISA, ble), we were living together already we are in love with each other, we want to have kids together and spend the rest of our lives together, so what the heck, we can sign a piece of paper to tell the world if it means we will be able to do all that while living in the same country (same city, same house, same bed! <3)

[Engel]

Now I can say! I was (still am!) 23 years old when I got married! end he was (still is) 25!

[princessmeg1328]

My SO just proposed to me last month, and I was 23. He was 34. We currently have a date set for August 17, 2013. I'll be 25, and he'll be 36. It's funny because that's the age I always wanted to be when I got married. Strange how things work out sometimes.

[loveknowsnodistance27]

My SO just proposed to me last month, and I was 23. He was 34. We currently have a date set for August 17, 2013. I'll be 25, and he'll be 36. It's funny because that's the age I always wanted to be when I got married. Strange how things work out sometimes.

That's my SO and my anniversary!

[lademoiselle]

I guess I'd like to get married between 22 and 25 years old, but we'll see