How old are/ were you when you married?

[MTK]

I got engaged 6 months ago at age 20. And if i am lucky and we can get all the papers settled we'll be married in 2 months. Yay.

[squiddie]

@ noodle, squiddie and ozzigirl

I think it's AMAZING that people can get married soo soon, and still be married years and years later. I believe it's just a matter of doing it when you're ready. You can't set an age or a date on when you want to marry, because if you meet the right person, it may happen sooner than you plan! So I just kind of go with the flow. haha

Eh, I personally believe in waiting. I mean, if he/she is truly the right person, then he/she will still be there in a few years, right? And then you've had that time to get to know each other very well and deal with each others ups and downs. You know how to fight with each other, and how to resolve it. I wouldn't personally want to jump into something right away, especially as I believe that all relationships have a "honeymoon period" where of course everything is lovey-dovey and wonderful--you need to get past that to know if you'll truly last.

But that's what I believe and I won't begrudge people who are of other opinions. I only expect myself to act in the way that I believe. We're each our own person and we'll know what's right for ourselves.

[Ozzigirl]

Eh, I personally believe in waiting. I mean, if he/she is truly the right person, then he/she will still be there in a few years, right? And then you've had that time to get to know each other very well and deal with each others ups and downs. You know how to fight with each other, and how to resolve it. I wouldn't personally want to jump into something right away, especially as I believe that all relationships have a "honeymoon period" where of course everything is lovey-dovey and wonderful--you need to get past that to know if you'll truly last.

But that's what I believe and I won't begrudge people who are of other opinions. I only expect myself to act in the way that I believe. We're each our own person and we'll know what's right for ourselves.

Yeah, you're right. I think I agree that there's a honey-moon period, so probably like the first 3 months of a relationship that is that way. I don't know personally my bf and me had our hone-moon period the first 6 months, so I guess that might be different for each couple.

I think that each and own couple needs to know when they're ready for marriage, then I don't think that it matters if you're 20, 30 or 60 when you marry. When you really love each other and are ready for it, then nothing should stop them. Personally, I'd probably marry in my twenties sometime, though if my bf would propose now I'd say yes, but stay engaged until we'd be older. Don't know why I believe that, just don't want to get married all too early. But each and everyone knows themselves when they want to and are ready to

[ioanna]

Congrats to you and your bf

thank you : )

[Ozzigirl]

thank you : )

A pleasure

[leonina]

Wow lots of young engagements. I definitely was too immature to be committed at that age to anyone As for me, I want to be engaged around 25-27. My boyfriend says whenever he can afford a ring we can get engaged (he will be in medical school for the next five years). So looks like age 27 might be it! Married by 28, pregnant by 29.

[Silviar]

Wow lots of young engagements. I definitely was too immature to be committed at that age to anyone As for me, I want to be engaged around 25-27. My boyfriend says whenever he can afford a ring we can get engaged (he will be in medical school for the next five years). So looks like age 27 might be it! Married by 28, pregnant by 29.

I was ready when were engaged and married when I was 23, but unfortunately, he wasn't, and he waited until after we got married to completely change and show that.

[Karringtyn]

I married at 31 and divorced at 38 - it was so depressing. But one door closed then another opened and through it walked the most wonderful man I now love.

Beautiful. So well said. When a door closes...another one opens...for me too!

[milaya]

I'll be "officially" engaged from November (buying the ring, telling the parents, once again visit me... etc), at that time I'll be 21.
But, we decided to become engaged last month. I'm now still 20 years old and he's 30.

We're not sure when we'll get married.
We talked about November next year (when I'm 22), but it depends on ... yeah how we feel around that time.

[Samanthabear]

I got married at 19 and divorced at 22....be careful, alot changes between the teens and twenties according to my experience......I would still do it again in a heartbeat even if I knew how it would turn out in the end

[Ozzigirl]

My bf and me thought about marrying at around 20 a couple of months ago because it would make a lot of things easier for us, but we thought about it without thinking about everything.. we were both 18 then:P but then after a couple of weeks, like we were both thinking about it and realised that we're both still too young and not ready for that kind of commitment yet, but I think we'll marry towards the end of uni, so maybe in 4 years But I'd get engaged at any time if my bf would ask me

[leonina]

Yeah I would want to get engaged at any time because it's a greater sign of commitment. But I'm afraid that engagement would also have a lot of pressure from everyone else to get married. "You're engaged? When's the wedding?" "Have you got your dress?" "When is the date set?" "How many bridesmaids are you having?" Blah blah blah. I don't want that kind of nagging/ stress for years leading up until we're ready to get married.

[Ozzigirl]

Yeah I would want to get engaged at any time because it's a greater sign of commitment. But I'm afraid that engagement would also have a lot of pressure from everyone else to get married. "You're engaged? When's the wedding?" "Have you got your dress?" "When is the date set?" "How many bridesmaids are you having?" Blah blah blah. I don't want that kind of nagging/ stress for years leading up until we're ready to get married.

True, there'd probably be lots of pressure from other people about all this stuff, but you could still get engaged just as a sign that you want to marry some time Coz who says that you need to marry within the year that you got engaged that's probably just the community telling us..

[leonina]

Maybe there should be "What will your wedding be like?" thread. I think at my wedding I definitely want someone to mention the year my boyfriend and I spent apart and how it made us stronger.

[Mio]

I got engaged at 25 and married at 25.