Tell me your thoughts

[dglynn77]

I think the reason behind this might be so that parents leave their kids at home, because they'd have to pay for them? If so, what a shitty way to say "teenagers not allowed" :/

But why just teenagers not allowed?
Children under 15 are free, so they can take them, so why not 15-18 year olds?

Maybe they think 15+ should have a job and be able to spend their whole paychecks on their wedding?

It's disgustingly selfish to me

[merlinkitty]

But why just teenagers not allowed?
Children under 15 are free, so they can take them, so why not 15-18 year olds?

Maybe they think 15+ should have a job and be able to spend their whole paychecks on their wedding?

It's disgustingly selfish to me

Teenagers eat more! xD

[dglynn77]

Teenagers eat more! xD

Didn't think of that! True true!

However, for such a fancy wedding, most teenagers would just pick at the fancy food, complain to their parents, and plan on getting pizza once they could get the h*** out of there lol

[Dziubka]

Teenagers eat more! xD

Yes. I think that maybe their restaurant or caterer has a 15+ pays full price rule?

[Moon]

Didn't think of that! True true!

However, for such a fancy wedding, most teenagers would just pick at the fancy food, complain to their parents, and plan on getting pizza once they could get the h*** out of there lol

I'm pretty sure there won't be any fancy food at this particular wedding!

[80anthea]

Yeah it's probably at Maccy D's and the Under 15s get a happy meal.

[Moon]

Yeah it's probably at Maccy D's and the Under 15s get a happy meal.

For $75 I'd hope for at least Five Guys

[Hollandia]

It's a gift. It is not required. I really love cash too, but I would NEVER state so in an invitation, and I would actually bring a gift if I still went to this one. Yes, you can register for a honeymoon, or housewares, or oil, or almost anything, but not cash, it is just crass and making an assumption you should never make. Your guests are your guests and not your patrons. Plenty of them spend money to even come. Their presence is your gift, anything else is icing on the cake.

Your wedding is your expense, and not expected to be repaid. If you can't afford it, then do not spend it. You don't invite people to make a profit, you invite them to share your special day. Do you want your beloved friends and family not coming because they can't pony up the coin? Just do a cash bar if you are cash poor and forget about "jackpot" you think you deserve, because quite frankly, you don't. It's your wedding, not a lottery.

[Hollandia]

I'm pretty sure there won't be any fancy food at this particular wedding!

Yes, they reserved a block of rooms, but you have to pay for it and fork out 75 bucks!

I think I would RSVP sorry," too rich for our budget, have a nice day. "

[dglynn77]

New thought: "...$75 for guests over 15..."I don't remember exact wording... :/

Guests over 15 what? 15 pounds? It could be they are only excluding preemies and newborns from the $75 "gift" thereby including almost everyone

[snow_girl]

New thought: "...$75 for guests over 15..."I don't remember exact wording... :/

Guests over 15 what? 15 pounds? It could be they are only excluding preemies and newborns from the $75 "gift" thereby including almost everyone

I took it as you are asked to pay the $75 if you are over 15 years old. Children under they aren't asking for money on their behalf

[dglynn77]

I took it as you are asked to pay the $75 if you are over 15 years old. Children under they aren't asking for money on their behalf

Yea... I wasn't being serious...

Just pointing out the ambiguity of the wording

[snow_girl]

Yea... I wasn't being serious...

Just pointing out the ambiguity of the wording

You were just the last person to mention the ambiguity to it so I quoted you

[Malaga]

My friend got this invitation from her husbands friend and fiancée. She asked me to read it and it really rubbed me the wrong way. Fine if you want to ask that instead of material gifts, gifting some money towards a honeymoon or something, but to pretty much say you are requesting they bring $75 each is pretty bold. If say my family was invited to a wedding it would cost $300 for the 4 of us, which is not at all what we would spend on a gift. If you can't afford to have a wedding don't have one. If say 100 people over 15 yo were in attendance that's $7500! I don't think its right at all.

Did they have an open bar? Over here wedding receptions last for 8-10 hours, they include a 6 course dinner (+ the cake), an open bar with beer, wine and liquor and a band playing all night. And it's commonly expected for guests to give you enough money to cover for their seat, which is an average of $60-70 in the city where I live. In fact it's considered rude for them not to. Of course some people can't afford it and that's fine, it's not about milking your guests, but sometimes people make it a matter of some sort of principle, but they still happily accept your invitation and enjoy the party.

I think it's a bit off colour to directly ask for a specific amount in an invitation like that, but I come from a culture where a minimum amount is pretty much implied and expectations to cover it are not considered rude at all.

I estimate our banquet will cost about $7,500 but I expect it to pay itself off - most people give about $100 per person, so the Croatian side of our guests should make up for the English not covering their costs (I don't expect them to, as I've been to enough English weddings to know they're different to ours).

[snow_girl]

Malaga, I'm not sure if its open bar, most people will do toonie ($2)bars. That's interesting about Croatian weddings and would definitely make it easier on the pockets of those getting married. Here most think its okay to ask for money towards a honeymoon instead of gifts but i think its in poor taste to ask to pay for the actual wedding