....of Honour

[Zephii]

I have a question about the whole Maid of Honour thing... is that a North American tradition or something? Or did I just live my entire life under a rock (I grew up in a tiny town, it's possible!)?

I'd never heard of a Maid of Honour before I came to Canada. It was always "Matron of Honour" at home. Which actually kind of makes sence... someone who's married, that you look up to... and perhaps their good luck in marriage will rub off on you or something.

But my friends tell me the Maid of Honour is the same, yet not married. Somehow I'm not seeing the sameness though. To me it feels like picking favourites.

So, yeah.. thoughts? opinions? random facts?

[Silviar]

Maid of honor and matron of honor are the same thing - the only difference is a maid is unmarried, while a matron is married, my dear. It's the literal use of the word. A Maiden is an unmarried, usually younger woman. Matron refers to either a married or 'older' woman - usually someone over 30. It's just a thing of semantics and not offending someone for calling them matron when young, or maiden when old. It's not a picking of a favorite, unless you mean the person who the MOH is your favorite person. In that case, you're sort of correct - the MOH is more important than a bridesmaid in that they're the ones who're gonna be your right hand purse - carry your train, flowers, help organize things or take charge while you're busy at the reception, help you out with emergencies... that's the duty and privilege of an MOH, whether they're maidenly, matronly, or manly.

Make sense?

[Zephii]

It does I guess... I think I just always thought she was honoured because she's already married.

[Silviar]

It does I guess... I think I just always thought she was honoured because she's already married.

If you did it that way, you'd have a lot of honoreds. In all seriousness, though, maybe it's customary in Australia to pick a married person? In the US it's who's your best bud, the person you can trust and rely on in the good times and the bad, and who will be there for you during the entire planning process. That's why the "of honor" part.

[Karringtyn]

Everything Silv said....

My Maid of Honor was my bestest friend....and she did the bridal shower and my bacholorette party. She also wore a slightly different dress...then get this...my Mom was my Matron of Honor..and she wore a dress totally different...

I was SOOO into weddings back then...haha I was a freak.

[Zephii]

I was SOOO into weddings back then...haha I was a freak.

This cracked me right up

[Karringtyn]

LOL! IT's true...I was. Everything had to match and blahhhhhhh!! It was one day...but sooo much stress....ah if I could do it over...

[Silviar]

LOL! IT's true...I was. Everything had to match and blahhhhhhh!! It was one day...but sooo much stress....ah if I could do it over...

Did you make sure the colors of your monogrammed napkins, linens and flowers all coordinated?

I can see it now... "We can't seat people like this, the fen shui is all wrong! the chi energy will completely mess with my veil!"

[Zephii]

*Holds her sides - they hurt from laughing*

[MadMolly]

In Australia/NZ yeah they don't have a maid of honour. It's either chief bridesmaid (what the Maid of Honour is over there) or Matron of Honour, a woman in your bridal party already married so she can give advice - not necessarily the chief one.

Here, a "Maid of Honour" is a handservant to the Queen I believe!!

[Zephii]

In Australia/NZ yeah they don't have a maid of honour. It's either chief bridesmaid (what the Maid of Honour is over there) or Matron of Honour, a woman in your bridal party already married so she can give advice - not necessarily the chief one.

Here, a "Maid of Honour" is a handservant to the Queen I believe!!

LMAO.
Glad to know it's not me having been under a rock.

[Silviar]

...great, I just realized i'm gonna need to figure out australian terms for my wedding someday. Blargh.

[Zephii]

*giggles*
Well, it's your wedding. You can call your women anything you damned well please!

[Silviar]

*giggles*
Well, it's your wedding. You can call your women anything you damned well please!

I should call her/him my alternative spouse - in the event a plane lands on my SO during our wedding. He needs a second. Right? Right?

In all seriousness, I don't even think I'll have anyone to stand for me. I don't have any close, personal friends other than my SO that I would consider for an MOH position. That makes me kinda pathetic.

[mllebamako]

In all seriousness, I don't even think I'll have anyone to stand for me. I don't have any close, personal friends other than my SO that I would consider for an MOH position. That makes me kinda pathetic.

Not pathetic at all!! A MOH is not a requirement.
Personally, I won't be having any bridesmaids nor a MOH.