Engagement over Skype?

[Tooki]

Look at it from the perspective of immigration:

You have a man from a 3rd world country (in political strife) who is trying to move to the US on a marriage visa. My point is, you need to REALLY think about this before you go ahead. Make sure everything is sorted as others have said. Is marriage 100% necessary at this stage? Why not live with him for a few months, to make sure that it is the best option for you two?

On life experience, you are a 20 year old A-grade Philosophy student? Woop-de-doo that doesn't make you an expert on all aspects of life. Pardon the harshness but there are aspects that you only acquire with age. You two are in the very early stages of your relationship. Let it brew and linger.

If you are having doubts about a "skype proposal", maybe you shouldn't be contemplating marriage. In my books, marriage needs to be unconditional.

[meganpillow]

Okay, I'll be the one to say this.



I understand that immigration complicates things--believe me, I do. And I also understand wanting to close the distance with the person you love as soon as possible. But, you only just met this guy this summer--all things considered, 3-5 months really isn't that long a time to know somebody, and marriage is a very big decision. The wording of this paragraph concerns me--he's been "getting you to think" about marriage? You're young and he's in a country in political turmoil--I don't want to come out and accuse him of anything, obviously, I have no idea what your situation is beyond what you share here, but the hastiness in which marriage is entering the equation is a bit of a red flag for me, honestly.

I think you guys should visit each other again next June, and then maybe talk about marriage.

I agree. I wouldn't just get on a fiancé visa just so he is able to come to you. Marriage is huge, don't take it lightly.

[SDPersona]

The others all have said the reasons you shouldn't get married, not under these circumstances. And even then, I wouldn't want to get engaged over Skype. I'd much rather like real-time engagement...

[SquishyLove]

Meh, I'm not sure she'll be back anyway. She's posted nothing since her last post on this thread, probably because she allowed the opinions of anonymous strangers on the 'net to offend her. *shrug* At any rate, I only gave practical info because it seemed like she was ill-informed about the immigration process itself. As far as whether it's too soon to marry or not, it's up to her and her guy to decide, not us.