We met and now a proposal?

[ThePiedPiper]

Thank you, yes I'm aware I'm rushing. We spent 15 days together and he is coming here for a month. The reason I am stressing is because I'd like to close the distance and it's the only reason I'd consider taking out loans. He won't let me and he keeps me calm, so we will see in a few months and I will let everyone know how my father feels.

The loans alone are reason to wait. As someone who was fortunate enough to avoid student loans through to now, I assure you avoiding the crippling debt is worth handling the distance for another few years.*Some people are still paying off their student loans 10+ years after graduation. Waiting for marriage is the lesser of two evils.

[Marmalade]

This is why divorce rates are so high.

Divorce rates are high because everyone wants to save their relationship. They don't give up even when a person is bad for them or isn't who they thought they were. It is not because of teem marriage. Let's not forget that ADULT couples get married after a week together as well and that older, desperate women tend to get married after 6 months. I'm not desperate and you do not know my relationship.

[snow]

What do you mean sin? "Oh we can't get married so we are going to atleast move in together and sleep together every night"? She's 18. I know the law says shes an adult but she barely has any life experience. Sorry but you need to to get off your high horse. She's 18 for crying outloud. no kid of mine would ever get married at 18. It seems rather ridiculous and like Lilly9886 kindly pointed out why would she give up a scholarship?? I don't understand why you are encouraging her to give up everything just to go live with someone she doesn't really know DC. Because talking and skyping with someone then meeting him once is WAY different than marriage!

Exactly. OP, don't give up school to close the distance temporarily. You have everything payed for - stop being a spoiled child and value what you have. If your SO is marriage material, he is going to wait until you finish college. Please don't take neither studying abroad nor marriage lightly. snow_girl is right, this is why divorce rates are so high. It is easy to get married, but marriage is not the salvation to every problem, especially if it would just mean TEMPORARILY closing the distance.

I know I shouldn't talk big, seeing as I have only been with my fiancé 3 times, but each of these visits have been 2-3 months and even I am still a little scared of the future.

[Marmalade]

Exactly. OP, don't give up school to close the distance temporarily. You have everything payed for - stop being a spoiled child and value what you have. If your SO is marriage material, he is going to wait until you finish college. Please don't take neither studying abroad nor marriage lightly. snow_girl is right, this is why divorce rates are so high. It is easy to get married, but marriage is not the salvation to every problem, especially if it would just mean TEMPORARILY closing the distance.

I know I shouldn't talk big, seeing as I have only been with my fiancé 3 times, but each of these visits have been 2-3 months and even I am still a little scared of the future.

Not a spoiled kid. I have never had anything handed to me thank you. I've worked my ass for what I have. My SO will wait and I know he will. He told me after he proposed he will wait as long as I want and that he wants me to finish school. I'm not throwing away my scholarships because Ive already decided not to study there, but y'all wouldn't know because no one has asked. They read a post from a few days ago and made assumptions. I'm excited and I tend to rush when I'm excited, but now I'm mellowing out and would rather wait until I have my bachelor's done with so I can have the dream wedding I want. Things change, so we will see. I do not take marriage lightly at all and that's nice for some, but not everyone has the option to visit for months at a time.