LDR's within the UK

[80anthea]

Yeah it is cheaper for me to go to Europe than it is to get a bus/train/flight to Scotland. Prices are ridiculous. That being said my SO is in the US. Any distance is hard. Especially when transportation in the UK is very expensive compared to a lot of other countries and the roads are terrible.

That's why I travelled so much as a student at University. I went to one about 100-miles from home but the trains were ridiculous, plus I lived quite rurally so it wasn't just the train but getting to the station that was the issue. It used to work out cheaper (and much more fun!) to go away to Europe for the weekend than go home. We went all over Europe on cheap flights!

[honeybunny]

The National Express coaches aren't actually too bad, they're pretty comfy seats. It just depends on the traffic so much.

Travelling around the UK is a nightmare at times and can be expensive. It's also worth looking at first class train tickets, I've done Leeds-Liverpool a few times with work and it's actually been cheaper to buy two first class singles than a return.

I hate the seats on national express! I don't like the way they curve inwards, like it's forcing my back into a weird position. I am trying megabus for the first time. National express was gonna cost me double for the same journey.

Yup I know about buying two singles. It's how I've got to London for cheap in the past, but it seems even two singles to Birmingham is still expensive. I can't actually travel direct to many cities from my town either. It's a small place with only two platforms in the train station. I always have to hop on a local train to Darlington first.

[BFG]

272 miles is far enough for us. it's a 6 hour drive. My SO works 7 days a week and trains and petrol are expensive. I think I can safely say that 272 miles IS an LDR. The fact that you suggest it isnt is a tiny bit a bit rude

Are you kidding me? Posts like these always make me cringe. This isn't a competition. Even if someone's SO lived in the next city and they had no way to travel to each other regularly that'd be an LDR. Don't you dare invalidate anyone else's feelings here. We're a support forum after all! OP: I can totally imagine you feeling like this, it doesn't matter that your distance is 'smaller' than some others here, you're just as welcome

Jesus, you all need to learn to laugh a bit hey. That was quite clearly light hearted sarcasm.

This whole LDR business is a lot harder if you can't see the lighter side of life.

[kirsten119229]

Britain looks small on a map, but travelling inside it can actually be quite a long distance. I suppose it's all about what you are used to. If you live in a big country then Britain is gonna seem really small.



I know what you mean about trains, they're so expensive. I've tried to even get advance tickets and they're coming up over £100.

Well we met in September last year and made it official in November, so it's almost 3 months. My first visit to him was last month. I rented a car and drove down. I loved that as I really enjoy driving and I didn't feel too tired doing it. We decided to leave a month gap and I'm going again next week. This time I'm going on a coach that's costing me £20 return which is really good, I just find coaches incredibly uncomfortable on long journeys :-(

We may leave a longer gap after this visit to save money, but we have stuff coming up this year. We have been invited to a wedding in September and we have EGX, a gaming event, also in September.

It's good you have things to look forward to! Having an end goal is important.
We have things pencilled in too, but he works 7 days a week, and is hard for him to take time off. He's a workaholic, but does make the effort to take time off for me so I can't complain

[kirsten119229]

Are you kidding me? Posts like these always make me cringe. This isn't a competition. Even if someone's SO lived in the next city and they had no way to travel to each other regularly that'd be an LDR. Don't you dare invalidate anyone else's feelings here. We're a support forum after all! OP: I can totally imagine you feeling like this, it doesn't matter that your distance is 'smaller' than some others here, you're just as welcome

Well said Girl!
Surely any distance that is far enough to not see a partner every day id wanted is an LDR? I see no need for that poster to be so ignorant.
As you rightly say, e are a support group. We are not here to belittle people or make their relationship seem worse off or better off than anyone elses.
Oh, and also,Thanks for sticking up for me by the way! It's appreciated

[kirsten119229]

Jesus, you all need to learn to laugh a bit hey. That was quite clearly light hearted sarcasm.

This whole LDR business is a lot harder if you can't see the lighter side of life.

Jokes can often be misunderstood when written in text form. You must be able to see how it came across? Sarcasm cant always be undestood unless it is spoken.
I can see the lighter side of life thank you, I don't need someone to tell me to do that.
I don't want to argue. This wasnt the point of my original post. Let's get back to my original post, eh?
We are a support network. no need for sarcasm wether it was meant in jest or not

[BFG]

Jokes can often be misunderstood when written in text form. You must be able to see how it came across? Sarcasm cant always be undestood unless it is spoken.
I can see the lighter side of life thank you, I don't need someone to tell me to do that.
I don't want to argue. This wasnt the point of my original post. Let's get back to my original post, eh?
We are a support network. no need for sarcasm wether it was meant in jest or not

I dunno, i mean, the pokey outy tongue face is rarely used when making a genuinely vicious attack on the validity of a strangers relationship over the internet. Let alone more than once in succession.

I completely disagree on your point about sarcasm. Before anyone jumps up and down about this too, I understand perfectly well how living with a mental illness impairs your ability to simply "see the lighter side of something instead", but it's an important thing to keep in mind.

I can empathise with your point about the cost of domestic travel in the UK, as here in Australia it is very much the same. If, for instance, I was dating someone who lived in Darwin and I was in Perth, it would be cheaper for us to meet in Bali. Similarly, if you're a patient bargain hunter you can fly from Perth to Johannesburg for cheaper than you can from Perth to the remote Western Australian town i live at now, which is a mere 1 hour flight.

Take it as a sign to meet in Paris or some shit. Oui, oui...vols ne coûtent pas cher

[kirsten119229]

I dunno, i mean, the pokey outy tongue face is rarely used when making a genuinely vicious attack on the validity of a strangers relationship over the internet. Let alone more than once in succession.

I completely disagree on your point about sarcasm. Before anyone jumps up and down about this too, I understand perfectly well how living with a mental illness impairs your ability to simply "see the lighter side of something instead", but it's an important thing to keep in mind.

I can empathise with your point about the cost of domestic travel in the UK, as here in Australia it is very much the same. If, for instance, I was dating someone who lived in Darwin and I was in Perth, it would be cheaper for us to meet in Bali. Similarly, if you're a patient bargain hunter you can fly from Perth to Johannesburg for cheaper than you can from Perth to the remote Western Australian town i live at now, which is a mere 1 hour flight.

Take it as a sign to meet in Paris or some shit. Oui, oui...vols ne coûtent pas cher

Not sure what the mental illness part of your comment was getting at, but all the same i respect your views.

Yes, internal travel is really expensive It really does suck. And yes, it probably would be cheaper for us to meet in Paris! haha
I didn't realise Australia was the same. It is somewhere I'd love to visit some day. Maybe when i'm slightly richer, as the flights fot us in the UK are damn expensive.
I'm enjoying reading all your comments

[honeybunny]

It's good you have things to look forward to! Having an end goal is important.
We have things pencilled in too, but he works 7 days a week, and is hard for him to take time off. He's a workaholic, but does make the effort to take time off for me so I can't complain

He's already said he wants me to move in one day too lol. But we talked about it and we think about a year together might be a good starting point for living together. Too early now.

I didn't want my boyfriend taking any time off as I feel guilty if he's losing money. When I was over there last month he took a day off even though I told him not to. This time he'll be working but half term is coming up, since he works in a school he gets that off.

I have a few days to go until the next visit. Valentines is gonna be fun, we're going to see Deadpool!

[honeybunny]

Wow so we made more plans today. My boyfriend will come to see me next month during the Easter break. Only for a couple of days though. At least we both know we'll be seeing each other again. Proper chuffed! This time I can show him my town :-)

[kirsten119229]

Wow so we made more plans today. My boyfriend will come to see me next month during the Easter break. Only for a couple of days though. At least we both know we'll be seeing each other again. Proper chuffed! This time I can show him my town :-)

That's brilliant! I'm pleased for you.

Keep making plans. Me and my SO have made plans right up till December. Wether they go ahead or not you can never be sure, but at least having them there gives you some kind of foundation to work on.

We have also planned a trip in March! I'm going to see him in his home town for the first time. I would have gone up there earlier, (he's come to me the last 3 times) but he wouldnt let me pay the extortionate prices. Finally! can't wait. He lives alone so no more hotel rooms and wandering around London till his train departs when he goes home

[honeybunny]

That's brilliant! I'm pleased for you.

Keep making plans. Me and my SO have made plans right up till December. Wether they go ahead or not you can never be sure, but at least having them there gives you some kind of foundation to work on.

We have also planned a trip in March! I'm going to see him in his home town for the first time. I would have gone up there earlier, (he's come to me the last 3 times) but he wouldnt let me pay the extortionate prices. Finally! can't wait. He lives alone so no more hotel rooms and wandering around London till his train departs when he goes home

Making plans keeps me going. I love it. Being at home is really crappy so it helps. He also wants me to spend Christmas with him, which I'd love to. I've actually never celebrated it as I was raised in a different religion.

So far I've gone to him once and I'm going to him again. That way is actually easier as I can stay in his house. He can't stay with me when he comes up here so the visit will be much shorter. My plan is to show him around the centre of my town, then we'll probably go to Newcastle as it's a city and there's more to do.

Yay I'm glad you're going to see him. Enjoy it! It will definitely be better with him having his own place.

[kirsten119229]

Making plans keeps me going. I love it. Being at home is really crappy so it helps. He also wants me to spend Christmas with him, which I'd love to. I've actually never celebrated it as I was raised in a different religion.

So far I've gone to him once and I'm going to him again. That way is actually easier as I can stay in his house. He can't stay with me when he comes up here so the visit will be much shorter. My plan is to show him around the centre of my town, then we'll probably go to Newcastle as it's a city and there's more to do.

Yay I'm glad you're going to see him. Enjoy it! It will definitely be better with him having his own place.

Hehe thanks

I'm excited to go see him in his own surroundings.
It sucks though. He works all day and can't always reply to messages easily. I get lonely waiting for his replies during the day all the time. I guess I sound be more sympathetic, but I can't always do it. Do you find this? Or do you two talk all day?
I get anxious that he is ignoring me. Stupid I know, but I can't help it.

Not long till Valetines day now! it's going to be fun for both of us it seems

[honeybunny]

Hehe thanks

I'm excited to go see him in his own surroundings.
It sucks though. He works all day and can't always reply to messages easily. I get lonely waiting for his replies during the day all the time. I guess I sound be more sympathetic, but I can't always do it. Do you find this? Or do you two talk all day?
I get anxious that he is ignoring me. Stupid I know, but I can't help it.

Not long till Valetines day now! it's going to be fun for both of us it seems

Nah we can't talk all day as he works more hours than I do. I'll normally leave him be if he's working or playing video games. I'm a gamer too so I get that, and we play together often anyway. I get the way you're feeling though, just know that he's definitely not ignoring you. I often feel reassured by a video call, because then I can see him, his facial expressions etc. I know I need to find more to keep myself busy until I get a more steady job.

Yup it's also my first valentines so I'm making the most of it!

[kirsten119229]

Nah we can't talk all day as he works more hours than I do. I'll normally leave him be if he's working or playing video games. I'm a gamer too so I get that, and we play together often anyway. I get the way you're feeling though, just know that he's definitely not ignoring you. I often feel reassured by a video call, because then I can see him, his facial expressions etc. I know I need to find more to keep myself busy until I get a more steady job.

Yup it's also my first valentines so I'm making the most of it!

It's my first valentines day also so i'm looking forward to it