I've not posted long topics on here before but today, a day after coming home from my first visit to my girlfriend I am writing one!
I would just like to share my story with all of you and also a few things we ran in to during this crazy adventure.
Let me introduce myself first. I am Tim, a 20 year old male from the Netherlands. I work in a grocery store and at a webshop full-time.
5 months ago I met the sweetest, most amazing girl ever online, she is 18 years old (soon to be 19) and from Quebec, Canada. We clicked right away and unlike other couples on here who have 2 days a week to talk we spent every single day from that day until my visit video chatting and talking for hours every day. After a week or 2 I started making concrete plans to visit even though I already talked about visiting the second day I met her, which might be a bit crazy but for us nothing felt rushed.
I don't know if anyone of you have had this before but the first thing we saw when we both went on here was all the stories about couples breaking up and discouraging messages about LDRs sometimes. This made me have a lot of worries, for example I remember my girlfriend telling me about a topic where it said "The chemistry you have online might not be there in person".
My advice to people reading these kinds of things and basing their decision of whether they should visit their SO or not on that is: Ignore it, take the opportunity if it's there.
I told myself even if it doesn't work out (while I was pretty confident it would) I should just visit the country anyway cause it'll be an adventure on it's own to visit a new continent. But most of all I think that there's thousands of LDR couples who don't write about their good stories and a lot that do write about their bad experiences. That the chemistry might not be the same for some couples doesn't mean it isn't for you! For me and my girlfriend the chemistry was even better in person!
Our first meet in the airport wasn't as beautiful as some people imagine it to be, which is completely normal! We were both so over run by emotions that we didn't speak much on the bus ride to where I was staying. But when I dropped my stuff off things started going in the right direction and I must say this has been the most beautiful month of my life. The worst part is by far saying goodbye, I had been trying to prepare myself for it, I'm usually not a guy who cries easily so I told my girlfriend that if I don't cry it doesn't mean I don't feel anything. The day I had to go I took my suitcase to her house and as soon as I came in I felt my stomach going crazy.
How did the other couples on here handle the leaving part? Did you have a real hard time saying goodbye and does it get less emotional after multiple visits?
Me and my girlfriend were absolutely devastated and couldn't even get a word out of our mouths without bawling our eyes out. I could barely say "I love you" when I left. I was just wondering how you guys got through the days/weeks after.
Let me know how your chemistry was in person compared to your online conversations!
I would just like to share my story with all of you and also a few things we ran in to during this crazy adventure.
Let me introduce myself first. I am Tim, a 20 year old male from the Netherlands. I work in a grocery store and at a webshop full-time.
5 months ago I met the sweetest, most amazing girl ever online, she is 18 years old (soon to be 19) and from Quebec, Canada. We clicked right away and unlike other couples on here who have 2 days a week to talk we spent every single day from that day until my visit video chatting and talking for hours every day. After a week or 2 I started making concrete plans to visit even though I already talked about visiting the second day I met her, which might be a bit crazy but for us nothing felt rushed.
I don't know if anyone of you have had this before but the first thing we saw when we both went on here was all the stories about couples breaking up and discouraging messages about LDRs sometimes. This made me have a lot of worries, for example I remember my girlfriend telling me about a topic where it said "The chemistry you have online might not be there in person".
My advice to people reading these kinds of things and basing their decision of whether they should visit their SO or not on that is: Ignore it, take the opportunity if it's there.
I told myself even if it doesn't work out (while I was pretty confident it would) I should just visit the country anyway cause it'll be an adventure on it's own to visit a new continent. But most of all I think that there's thousands of LDR couples who don't write about their good stories and a lot that do write about their bad experiences. That the chemistry might not be the same for some couples doesn't mean it isn't for you! For me and my girlfriend the chemistry was even better in person!
Our first meet in the airport wasn't as beautiful as some people imagine it to be, which is completely normal! We were both so over run by emotions that we didn't speak much on the bus ride to where I was staying. But when I dropped my stuff off things started going in the right direction and I must say this has been the most beautiful month of my life. The worst part is by far saying goodbye, I had been trying to prepare myself for it, I'm usually not a guy who cries easily so I told my girlfriend that if I don't cry it doesn't mean I don't feel anything. The day I had to go I took my suitcase to her house and as soon as I came in I felt my stomach going crazy.
How did the other couples on here handle the leaving part? Did you have a real hard time saying goodbye and does it get less emotional after multiple visits?
Me and my girlfriend were absolutely devastated and couldn't even get a word out of our mouths without bawling our eyes out. I could barely say "I love you" when I left. I was just wondering how you guys got through the days/weeks after.
Let me know how your chemistry was in person compared to your online conversations!
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